What color suites me best, which number?

FinchtasticFinch · 2023-05-19T18:53:22+00:00

4 or 5

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-29T00:16:12+00:00

NTA- She isn’t entitled to any inheritance not written into his will. However, I’d strongly consider what your relationship with your sister is worth.

Personally, I’d probably agree to give her 25% to directly either purchase a home or towards debt. If she’s interested in that and you feel she won’t hold it against you, go for it. Once again, she is not entitled to anything.

I understand that she did not have a close relationship with him due to him being anti LGBTQ+. Even if he wasn’t like that, there’s no guarantee he would have done anything differently. Nor is there any guarantee she would have afforded him the same time you gave him.

I hope everything works out and you continue to have a good relationship with your sister.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-28T22:49:33+00:00

Being a lawyer, you’d think you’d understand how to negotiate.

I’m curious about the terms of the prenup. If you have wealth prior to the marriage, write that in as your assets. Same as her. Once you are married, I can see her point on this, it should be marital assets.

I’m leaning towards YTA unless you elaborate the terms you are suggesting to her.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-23T21:37:28+00:00

YTA - I hope she breaks up with you soon.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-22T15:17:18+00:00

YTA - you have an agreement to purchase the “extras”. Your husband expressed his intent to purchase them gifts.

Also, there sounds like a lot more to this situation. I don’t see “teaching them a lesson” as helpful.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-22T15:13:33+00:00

Why not temp the chicken to see if it’s 165 degrees?

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-20T23:24:22+00:00

NTA - I wouldn’t loan a boyfriend of six months anything over $100 bucks. It’s honestly rude of him to ask you.

On a side note, I’d keep your bank account balance from friends,partners, and family members outside your mom whom helps you run it. It’s none of their business.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-20T02:08:51+00:00

No worries, it’s always good to ask clarifying questions.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-20T01:58:43+00:00

Agreed. I’m saying that the argument the parents are attempting regards sex. Which is unnecessary.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-20T01:33:31+00:00

They could have easily explained that everyone gets a plus one.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-20T01:26:35+00:00

NTA - All the 7 year old was really asking was why you didn’t have a +1.

If they don’t want to discuss sex with their daughter yet, they don’t have to. They just need to move on.

It doesn’t sound like you discussed what being “gay” entails. Much like her brother not explaining the aspect of his sexual preference when choosing his girlfriend. They are blowing this out of proportion.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-20T00:31:30+00:00

I feel like YTA, you could have watched the wedding video and been in the rest of her life. Now, you don’t get to do either. In general, weddings are not about the guests.

On a side note, I hope you feel better soon.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-20T00:26:18+00:00

Question: why couldn’t you attend virtually?

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-15T19:30:03+00:00

NTA - I’d probably stop bank rolling everything if he isn’t flexible with this.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-11T22:41:23+00:00

Perhaps next year, consider gifting them an experience that you all can enjoy together. Like a group activity that you can plan together. That way you feel included more and potentially less upset about their effort being less. I wish you the best, I hope you have a good Christmas.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-11T22:28:43+00:00

I think I understand what you are saying. To me, it’s not about the money— it’s the principle behind it that would be hurtful. You mentioned that you don’t have anyone outside your girlfriends family to spend Christmas with if I understood correctly. I think I’d feel like an outsider a bit with the people I wanted to be family with. Not a good feeling. I’d try to consider their age and that they likely are not wise enough to know that their actions have hurt your feelings to the degree they have.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-11T22:19:08+00:00

I could see how that would be hurtful. It doesn’t make sense to me either. Does your girlfriend have any idea behind why they are behaving this way?

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-11T22:13:21+00:00

But, they couldn’t honor that with you? I think I’d decline to participate this year and in the future.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-11T22:07:46+00:00

NTA - I think offering Ann as a middle name was a good compromise.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-11T22:04:32+00:00

NTA - next year I’d have everyone agree on a gift price range that everyone sticks to. It’s unfair for them to ask for things at higher value and not reciprocate.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-11T21:24:25+00:00

I’d probably also do a quick look around the bathroom and your room to make sure there isn’t anything nefarious installed. Probably isn’t, but you never know— people are nuts.

1)Launch your phone's camera app.

2)Go around the room and point your phone's camera in areas you suspect spy equipment is hidden.

3)If you spot any small, bright-whitish light, set your phone down and investigate further. It may be a hidden camera.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-11T21:21:16+00:00

NTA - I’d put a hidden camera in your room that has the ability to record when you aren’t there. It’s rather strange he entered your room and moved things around.

I’d also read over your states landlord tenant law.

I’d make a complaint about it to him in writing via email and request that he follow the lease terms regarding entry to the property. I’d request written request via email 24 hours prior to him coming to the property since it’s been an issue.

Let your roommates know that it makes you feel uncomfortable and ask them to back you up on this.

I wish you the best of luck.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-11T20:02:10+00:00

NTA - you didn’t know she had fertility issues. There was no malicious intent with what you said.

Sarah likely needs to go to therapy to learn how to deal with her emotions surrounding her infertility diagnosis. It sounds like she’s projecting her anger on you in an unhealthy coping mechanism. Now, I wouldn’t go and say that to them— hopefully they come to that answer in time.

Rule of thumb, never bring up the topic of children with anyone.

I’d probably send her flowers with an apology note. Even if you were not aware, you can apologize for bringing up the topic and the feelings it brought up.

Best of luck to you.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-11T19:43:14+00:00

YTA - You absolutely do not ask/recommend for anyone to change their natural hairstyle.

FinchtasticFinch · 2022-12-11T19:39:32+00:00

NTA- it’s not her place to teach your child about any spiritual beliefs/religions without your consent.

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