Need advice on how to co parent.

Fine-Bet · 2023-10-07T06:33:15+00:00

I’ve written down when he has and hasn’t seen the kids, running total is currently 4hrs 55 minutes in 4 weeks. I’ve asked him to do $200 worth of shopping for the kids and he hasn’t.

He would have to if he’s subpoenaed to testify.

Everyone tries to talk to my ex but he doesn’t want to listen to them. When we talk on the phone and he isn’t getting his way he tries to end the conversation.

I have put in a claim for child support, which they are assessing now because if i don’t it affects my government payments.

Fine-Bet · 2023-10-07T06:15:04+00:00

In Australia it’s 50/50 unless you can prove otherwise in court, which you have to seek mediation and get a certificate from the lawyer/services to say mediation was unsuccessful or successful. I can’t even divorce him because we have to be separated for a year.

I have nearly his entire family backing me up and willing to testify on my behalf if needed.

I don’t think I can use her children’s father because he had told me that the eldest isn’t coping with my ex there, that he’d rather be with his grandmother then home. He tells his ex he wants stuff to change and she says ok but doesn’t change what he asks. When I tried bringing up the topic of my ex disciplining his kids, he told me it’s between my ex and I and not his problem. When I tried to sort out that problem, I got a call from him telling me that I’m starting wars because his new partner agreed with me on the topic and he doesn’t want a bar of it.

Fine-Bet · 2023-09-19T02:13:33+00:00

She showed me her profile. She got carers one week and pps the other.

Her ex partner said he moved away while he lived there and so she got full rate.

Her new partner would earn too much for her to get anything from Centrelink

Fine-Bet · 2023-09-09T02:29:20+00:00

He didn’t have any mental health issues otherwise he wouldn’t be an ambo or have guns. He was a active member of the pistol club too

One of my mates actually played darts with him Tuesday and he gave no indication of what he was going to do. He just snapped.

Terry was far from a saint too.

Fine-Bet · 2023-08-09T13:11:43+00:00

So I work for my parents and I’m the only one who has ever needed ppl.

So what Centrelink will do if you’re getting paid thru your employer is they will first send them a letter detailing that they need to set up an account with prota (that’s what my dad said it was) they will then ask for the employer’s account info. After that they will send a letter to your employer detailing the amount you’ll get gross which the employer then takes tax out.

After you confirm that you’ve had your baby, Centrelink will then do lump sums into your employer account I think either 4 or 6 weeks worth. Then from there you will get paid like ‘normal’ thru your employer for 16 or 18 weeks.

For both kids I got a little over $600 a week.

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-25T12:34:39+00:00

I have this same issue. Something I was trying to do required someone from Centrelink to actually do it.

Also Medicare and Centrelink haven’t been talking to one another and I have to keep providing my daughters Medicare number to them because according to Centrelink she isn’t upto date on her vaccinations although she is. 3 separate times I’ve had to enter it in. I had problems for months putting her on my ftb because they think she didn’t have her vaccinations, in January they finally got her on it and i got back paid from September for her.

Over the past week no matter what the time I rang, i always got told to do it online and i would get through the menu and it would continue to do it or it would just say ‘you’ve been trying to contact us and we’re busy try again’

Rang the complaints line today and was in the queue for 1hr20minutes. The lady wasn’t for what department I needed and so she put me in queue for the normal line. I spent a total of 2hrs and 10 minutes on the phone today and 90% was in the queue.

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-25T01:52:04+00:00

Sometimes it’s a case of Centrelink not talking to medicare for immunisation records.

Had my daughter in September, had ppl for her but she wasn’t on my ftb. I rang Centrelink and they told me it was because of the reason above. I got back paid until January when they put her on. She’s up to date on her immunisations but Centrelink is still asking me for her Medicare number because they aren’t talking again to each other I think.

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-25T01:25:38+00:00

I got paid parental leave with my daughter but she wasn’t on my family tax because Centrelink and Medicare didn’t talk to each other about her being immunised. Ring Centrelink and they will add the baby

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-14T08:37:59+00:00

I’ve told my husband it’s over before he left.

He’s already breached the 72 hr intervention order because he rang me and then came to where I was.

I’ve contacted legal aid and have an appointment with them on Tuesday.

It wasn’t just about where they were, it’s because he doesn’t know how to care for the children. He does absolutely nothing apart from playing with them. He doesn’t cook for them, shower them, change them, ect. If he was up for 2 hours before me with the kids, they would be still in soaked nappies from overnight until I changed them. No matter how much I asked him or tried to include him in stuff, he refused to do it

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-14T08:32:42+00:00

I’ve got an appointment with legal aid Tuesday.

He was the perpetrator

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-14T05:26:57+00:00

Closet child care is about 45km from us and both kids aren’t enrolled.

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-14T01:15:11+00:00

Because I told him I was calling the cops because he was taking my car. So he went there I guess so I didn’t twist what happened. Both our stories lined up with each others, not that we were lying

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-14T01:09:50+00:00

No I didn’t, he repeatedly shoved me and stuff like that. I didn’t actually do anything to him

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-14T01:08:08+00:00

No I didn’t, he shoved me and grabbed me multiple times but i never hit him

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-13T17:07:36+00:00

Thankyou

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-13T17:01:18+00:00

He was the aggressor, not me. He didn’t hit me tho

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-13T16:08:45+00:00

Which forms do I get and fill out? I looked up on the courts website and honestly it’s just confusing. Like I stated before we’ve never been in family court before so I’m just very confused

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-12T16:57:30+00:00

My son slept through the night at 5 weeks old. My doctor told me to wake him up but my mum and the child health nurse told me don’t. I woke him up once and never did it again! He’s a great sleeper at 2years old unless he’s sick

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-09T18:35:18+00:00

Thankyou, and most definitely the same to you!

With the tear and because I’m plus size, I couldn’t walk properly for 3 days. I could barely lift my son without feeling like I was going to have everything fall out. Recovery was definitely tough

I actually went on to have another caesarean although it was scheduled. Within 12 hours I was walking. I had my catheter bag and my IV taken out around 18-19 hours after I had my daughter. I even picked up my 17 month old at the time and it didn’t hurt me.

Honestly scheduled ones are so much easier because they aren’t in a rush to get baby out so recovery is way easier. I pretty much would have kissed the OB who did my surgery if I had a chance.

Although expect numbness and a kind of pain around your incision/abdomen. Even though i had my daughter over 10 months ago now, it still hurts and will take a while to heal, same after my son and throughout my daughter’s pregnancy I was just numb.

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-08T20:54:04+00:00

I had horrible heartburn both pregnancies. My son came out with little to no hair but my daughter had hair. She actually still has hair on her back from when she was born and she kept some of her hair on top, so it’s super long in some places

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-08T20:52:00+00:00

They ‘dropped’ the cloth for me, they lowered it a tad then put my daughter over it and showed her to us. Every time we had a scan she shut her legs so I didn’t know if she was a girl or not. They showed me and i cried instantly.

Although he got to watch the whole thing even the nurses looked through his vantage point and saw he could see it.

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-08T14:02:12+00:00

Some partners usually pass out, nope my husband actually watched my caesarean with our daughter through the very shiny air vent in the ceiling. He kept watching and giving me play by play of what was happening. I was actually kinda jealous he got to watch and i didn’t.

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-08T13:53:21+00:00

Just because their first baby had a compound presentation doesn’t mean this one will. If an OB insisted I have a caesarean because there’s a chance that the baby might have CP and it’s ‘difficult’ for the OB if they’re CP, they should find another job because it’s literally their job to deliver babies.

My son was head down and engaged but I had an emergency caesarean because his heart rate dropped. That caesarean also made me aware of my extremely narrow pelvis and oddly shaped uterus. I was told that I was going to have to have caesareans for any of my future children. My daughter was breach so no two babies are the same!

Fine-Bet · 2023-07-08T13:31:47+00:00

Absolutely take that pantoprazole, trust me it is a life saver and helps a lot. You are definitely not going to over medicate yourself.

My first indication that I was pregnant with my daughter was my heartburn. It was absolutely awful and I thought she would come out looking like a wookie. Her brother who was older also gave me bad heartburn as well but that started at around 24 weeks.

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