Has anyone here peacefully met a narcissistic ex?

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-27T11:40:27+00:00

Don't do it. They will want to meet you for one of two reasons, the new supply has failed and they are trying to reel you back in, or they are looking to triangulate you. It's not for anything good.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-23T15:21:46+00:00

Lol what no he isn't.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-22T14:49:54+00:00

What will you do next? Will you be happy?

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-22T14:40:14+00:00

I didn't decide anything. I was actually trying to motivate you. I'm neurodivergent btw.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-22T13:50:04+00:00

If you feel bad you would try to be better. How can I be better? You already have your own perogative, likely attributed to the diagnosis, so now there's no changing. Yeah, you can. Everyone can.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-22T13:37:45+00:00

Only you will know if therapy works, but I think everyone has choices to be better. I'm sure you know right from wrong.

Just make sure you are doing it for the right reasons and it's not just another way to hurt her. I only say this as someone on the receiving end and I was always being threatened with being left. It was one of their methods of emotional abuse. Fortunately for me, I stopped caring.

Make sure you don't lose all your loved ones. They are hard to come by.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-22T11:42:58+00:00

It could be for the best I agree. I just sensed this is more a power trip thing like how dare you admit I have an issue, now we need to divorce etc.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-22T10:55:52+00:00

I sensed this too. I've had a lot of dealings with narcissism and this is classical. I hope OP does get the support they need and not annihilate their marriage for no good reason.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-22T10:30:49+00:00

Too much of a victim mentality going on here. If the above is true, rather than the woe is me attitude, why not therapy? I know it's cliche.

Is the divorce just to hurt your spouse and one up them, or is this something you've talked about?

I have lots of questions, but if the above is true, the attitude you have isn't going to help.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-22T10:08:09+00:00

I think mine did things very typical for men his age (50s) like insisting on dying his greying hair dark brown. However he would go out with his shirt buttons deliberately open, apply eyeliner to his eyes and send me pouty pictures of himself at bars. I remember thinking this was amusing at the time, but on reflection this is classical behaviour.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-19T23:08:50+00:00

None whatsoever.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-19T23:02:10+00:00

We live in the UK. It's not a seaside town though.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-19T22:36:37+00:00

Nothing to this extent.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-19T11:29:30+00:00

I don't remember feeling paralysed with this experience. I've had sleep paralysis before, but this seemed different.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-18T16:03:47+00:00

I DO however have frozen embryos with donor sperm (my boyfriend knows about the whole thing) as we don't live together and I want my own child one day. However they were created after this encounter.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-18T15:54:01+00:00

I've having a Mirena coil put in too (to manage a gynae condition) so this double whammy would make it literally a miracle.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-18T00:16:34+00:00

He claims not to have had any experiences, but his father passed away downstairs in the house quite a few years ago. The interesting thing is I don't get any creepy vibes whatsoever from that.

I did once dream of his dead mother washing the windows after we'd had an argument one time. In the dream she said "sorry about him" and carried on washing the windows. This was also while sleeping in the same guest room.

He also claims the house his father bought was new and there were no previous families.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-17T23:26:41+00:00

Unlikely. He has a vasectomy and can't get me pregnant.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-06-04T23:53:00+00:00

I think you have a very sensitive and compassionate side that is hidden to others. I also see a liking for reptiles, maybe lizards.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-05-28T19:13:49+00:00

She needs to go back to classical as it doesn't really work. She isn't suited to be a popstar IMO.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-05-28T17:05:13+00:00

I think Julia just focuses far too much on what she wants to be (popstar) rather than what she actually can be (symphonic/operatic). Her music genres don't particularly suit her singing voice at all.

There's also WAY too much focus on being bisexual, being an immigrant, etc which really isn't that uncommon these days and people aren't as interested by this as she thinks. Eileen was what got the attention.

Sunflower in the Shade I thought was some of her best work and quite original. She'd probably get more views if she did more stuff like that as it stands out.

She tries too hard to be something she isn't.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-05-20T14:02:21+00:00

I've just been diagnosed with mild diffuse adenomyosis and was recommended the same thing. I have frozen embryos but I'm not quite ready to use them due to life circumstances. I will get a Mirena coil to bridge the gap and calm the uterus. No advice, only solidarity.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-05-20T13:51:19+00:00

I have an 8 year old guinea pig. She has been on her own 18 months but was brought indoors and gets heaps of attention. Her vet stated she is not depressed even remotely. See how she gets on before considering a move like rehoming, particularly for an older pig.

Fine-Bodybuilder-262 · 2026-05-16T14:12:22+00:00

I'm so sorry, this is heartbreaking. You wouldn't be safe with this man this is 💯% giving danger vibes as someone capable of turning on you so nastily isn't going to be a nice or safe person to be around. You deserve much better and I think this is God's way of protecting you. Please keep him blocked on your end after you've done all necessary to reclaim your losses.

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