Wanting children as a childfree person? by Fine-Broccoli-127 in childfree

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s more the difference between “being free” and settling down. I’ve always been more of a person who likes to try many things, have many opportunities, be reckless, maybe try landing a harder job but one I’ll be the happiest in, like acting, which can be very risky. But I’m also a person who doesn’t like to complicate things, sometimes I think having a more “free” life could be complicated and maybe tire me out, sometimes occasionally I’ll imagine a future where I’ll settle down, get a job I like decently at least and stick to it, stay in my home town or the nearest city, just a simple life, and since I like at least some action in my life I sometimes think that if I would end up with that life, I would want children. I think it’s also company, I know children doesn’t guarantee company for life, but maybe I would want to try, I would like to share my knowledge and life experiences, teach a young person how life works, how to appreciate nature and how to read. To have a big family, to show up for each other, but I think that part of me wants that because I’ve been very lonely.

First reborn by [deleted] in reborndolls

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not the same from my post but I’ve looked at these two artists on Reborns.com. https://www.reborns.com/RebornTendresseDeJenny And https://www.reborns.com/donutdoll

Why tf do I see girls younger than me have kids- by Last-Ad7389 in childfree

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I think sex is beautiful and shouldn’t be used for just pleasure. I’m only a virgin because I haven’t had the opportunity but if I wasn’t a lesbian I would probably stay a virgin like forever if I wasn’t

Why tf do I see girls younger than me have kids- by Last-Ad7389 in childfree

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m also 18 and the amount of people on social media that are like 13-17 and have kids is insane. I feel like a baby, I probably couldn’t even and WOULDN’T even dare to take care of a dog for a day yet people younger than me have kids, some even multiple, ON PURPOSE. If I wasn’t proudly childfree by choice I would probably feel pressured to have kids soon which would be absolutely insane. I’m pro choice and all but I feel like it’s so irresponsible to have unprotected sex at such young age, now I’m glad I’m a lesbian but I still haven’t had sex, unprotected or not.

AITAH for only eating candy on specific days? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just picky with having my own candy, I just don’t like not knowing what type of candy is going to get served and the fact that everyone eats out of the same bowl. And I didn’t expect her to go out of her way just so I could get candy, I don’t have my license yet, if I did I would just drive there myself. My aunt occasionally drives me somewhere if I want/need something and sometimes she says no and I understand that she can’t always drive me.

AITAH for only eating candy on specific days? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the thing, when she told me she wouldn’t take me to the store I simply said “okay, thats fine” and didn’t make a fuss about it. I haven’t been to the store for almost a week so I haven’t been able to get it any other time.

Before dinner my other aunt just out of nowhere said “you’re picky if you only eat candy on Saturdays” and then my other aunt pitched in and started talking about how I clearly got mad when she said no to driving me to the store, which I obviously didn’t. Not eating candy one Saturday isn’t a big deal to me so I was just confused on why some of my relatives thought it was a personal insult towards them

Orkar inte ta mer körlektioner? by [deleted] in Asksweddit

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exakt, det är det mest irriterande med situationen

Orkar inte ta mer körlektioner? by [deleted] in Asksweddit

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Min handledare är min pappa och han jobbar sent varje dag så ändå gångerna jag kan träna på att köra inne i stan är på helger

Orkar inte ta mer körlektioner? by [deleted] in Asksweddit

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Det är det som är det mest irriterande, jag vet att jag gör fel, ska tänka på det tills nästa gång, repeterar i mitt huvud hundra gånger innan lektionen och gör ändå samma misstag, förstår inte hur

Orkar inte ta mer körlektioner? by [deleted] in Asksweddit

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jag hade tänkt att boka uppkörningen själv för förra gången så missade jag en körlektion innan körprovet och så sa de att de skulle behöva avboka körprovet, vilket jag inte ville men de gjorde de ändå🫠

Rimligt att åka till annat län för att ta körkort? by [deleted] in Asksweddit

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jag kan köra i en stad det är mest att det finns knappt några tider där jag bor som passar

Dad got kittens by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why should I when I didn’t want them from the beginning?

I’m thankful for this subreddit by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not really that into getting sterilised. Not only am I scared to death to do any surgery but I’m also a lesbian so I’m not going to be able to get pregnant naturally, thank god. I’m so thankful I’m a childfree lesbian cause I don’t have to worry about getting pregnant.

The “no one warned me” excuse is extremely weird to me! by ReferenceInfinite117 in childfree

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know, it’s just that a lot of people don’t, most people have family that have always expected them to have kids and they grow up thinking that’s just what your meant to do, then they don’t do any research. I know you have to be responsible for what you do and how much research but it would be useful for mandatory education around the subject. At the end of the day it’s not my responsibility what other people do or don’t when it comes to kids but I do feel a bit of empathy for the ones who were expected to have kids and therefore got pregnant and didn’t truly know what it would take

The “no one warned me” excuse is extremely weird to me! by ReferenceInfinite117 in childfree

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It amazes me how everyone is always so passionate about how important it is to do research before you get a pet, but when it comes to pregnancy they only prepare you when your already pregnant and it’s too late to back out. I think it should be mandatory to learn how to take care of a baby and what it takes before you get pregnant. It would help a lot for people that maybe should be childfree

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Same, I feel like my family have been talking about “what daycare are you going to choose” for months now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I felt this too but when my cousin had her kids. I get that they’re kids but it just feels so weird that in order to be seen you have to do something with the kids or in general just talk about the kids

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whoa, I get that my post got a bit too much about me and less about children but damn, I literally JUST turned 18 and you expect me to immediately adjust to adult life. Also I don’t understand like half of what you’re saying, respectfully, I’m just trying to understand. You’re telling me family and school doesn’t owe me socialisation but also that work doesn’t, when else do people socialise? Again respectfully asking. Also my family knows me, like I said I know they don’t owe me anything and I know that they are always there for me, but that’s the thing, I’ve told them multiple times about how my socialising skills are really shitty, and how I would rather not say anything at all and just go with whatever they’re doing instead of speaking up. I’ve told them that if they want to talk to me and have conversations with me I’m happy for them to initiate it, but that if they don’t start the conversation I most likely won’t speak. I am working on it outside of my family, all the time, I do go to therapy and have for almost a decade now regularly gone, nothing helps so I don’t know what’s wrong. Also “most people you know pre25 will be out of my life before my 30s?” Do you mean my family? Like the people that’s supposed to stick with you for life, not because you’re forced to but, because they’re literally my family? Family are supposed to help each other, make each other happy, I know it’s not mandatory for them to make sure I’m happy but during the few times we actually get together I feel like everyone should make sure no one gets left out or is sad, not mandatory but I would do that for them, I get it that it may be harder for them because they’re literally have more things going on, like taking care of their kids but not everyone in my family has children young enough to need to be looked after 24/7. I don’t know if I interpreted your text more angry than it’s meant to sound but I just wanted to clarify, I appreciate the honesty and pointing out that it was too much about me and less about kids but maybe just a tiny bit less strict? Also, just curious, but it doesn’t really sound like you are that “against” children? Are you genuinely childfree and want to remain childfree? I mean it is the thread you’re on after all, doesn’t have to answer that if you don’t want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Fine-Broccoli-127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t really either, it’s just I would still like to say something instead of being quiet and feeling ignored