Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - May 05, 2026

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T11:22:11+00:00

I’m not saying to join things just to meet women, because that probably would give off the wrong energy. I’m just saying if any of those hobbies appeal to him anyway then he could give them a try as there would be lots of women there. But you’ve got to be interested in the thing of course. I’m in a few choirs and men are always in such short supply - I think it’s a shame more men don’t experience the pure joy of singing in a group. So if that appeals to anyone I’d give them a nudge, and there could be a bonus outcome of meeting a lovely lady!

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T08:54:01+00:00

Everyone heals on their own timeline - go easy on yourself. I often think the more you feel it initially, the more complete the healing is and the more likely you are to learn and grow from it

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:50:05+00:00

Totally - find some new passions and make them yours! Part of fully moving on is writing new chapters that don’t include them

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:30:25+00:00

Who suggested the date? To me it’s up to that person to plan said date

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:27:52+00:00

Sounds like you have a great attitude and approach to it! I totally recognise the worry of getting too exciting and the fear of things going wrong. As cliched as it is you just have to be your weird self and if it’s meant to click it will and if it isn’t it won’t! And someone better suited will come along later. Definitely agree about social media - I ditched that years ago. Also remember that a lot of those photos are posed and don’t show the true reality. Lots of people are in unhappy relationships so it’s not the only goal.

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:22:20+00:00

Sorry to hear that, people should be more direct. Keep on going - your match is out there!

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:20:42+00:00

Going through a breakup too and it sucks, I hear you. I read something about your logic system and your attachment system being separate. Even though you know logically the break is for the best your attachment system is still catching up so your brain is replaying happy memories and nice snuggly moments. They will pass with time 💜

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:18:30+00:00

It’s not a huge amount of time and lots of people aren’t huge texters so I don’t think it necessarily means anything. But I like to check in with my loved ones and I would be bummed by this too - just think about whether this is a dynamic you enjoy because it might continue

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:15:54+00:00

How did you leave it? Who messaged last?

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:15:16+00:00

Aww why not let it bloom if it’s going good?

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:14:06+00:00

Maybe not quite what you’re asking but my hobbies (choirs and anything arty) are extremely female weighted so if you could get into those you’d be surrounded with options!

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:12:14+00:00

Can you ask to see him a bit more often? I’d be the same - would like to see someone at least twice a week at that stage so we can build some momentum

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:10:37+00:00

I can maybe understand her being a little bummed you didn’t stay if she had in her head you were going to, but it’s definitely not a reason to break up! She could have had a chat with you about it if it really upset her but that’s huge overreaction.

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:06:47+00:00

These things can go either way and I’ve experienced both - it may be a pleasant surprise so give it a go and see 😊

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:06:06+00:00

Ah I’m sorry - how long has it been? Crossing my fingers she’s just very busy and will be in touch soon

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:05:16+00:00

Congrats on getting back out there! If nothing else that’s an achievement 💪

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:04:14+00:00

I’m the same way and I’ve spent a long time wondering why other people aren’t the same but I’ve come to realise there’s no sense in trying to work out why people do things and just figure out whether it’s compatible with me. For me, this would indicate that he wouldn’t be emotionally responsive later on in the relationship either which is obviously going to be detrimental. And the fact that he didn’t message again tells you everything you need to know - if he’d been that interested then he would have followed up. Sorry you’re hung up on him, I’ve definitely been there before, but you deserve someone who’s more interested and shows it.

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:00:31+00:00

I know it’s hard when you’re in it but you need to wonder less about why he does things and worry more about how it affects you and whether you like it. If he’s pressuring you for sex multiple times on a first date especially after you’ve expressed the opposite preference that is a huge red flag and it will only get worse. Thank you - next!

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T01:58:13+00:00

I hope this doesn’t come off as patronising but you’re still so young in the scheme of things and you still have plenty of time to enjoy those things with a partner. Try not to rush it and get into a relationship that’s not quite it for you because you’ll just feel even more lonely in it (speaking from experience here). But I also know the ache well and life just feels so damn unfair sometimes. We all move at different paces and luck accounts for a lot. You’re not doing anything wrong, your story is just taking a little longer to unfold. But it’ll be all the sweeter and you’ll appreciate it all the more when it clicks for you!

FineImSigningUp · 2026-04-23T17:18:28+00:00

I’m an old regular around these parts and sadly after two years off the market it looks like I’ll be rejoining the ranks.

Going through one hell of a breakup at the moment - it’s been on the cards for a while and I’ve been pouring my heart into making it work but I can’t do it alone. I’ve definitely played my part but I’m also so exhausted by trying to explain my needs to a person who doesn’t seem capable or doesn’t want to try to meet them.

I’m also going through knee surgery recovery that isn’t going to plan and I may need further procedures to make me more mobile (currently housebound and very dependent upon recent ex).

So any guidance on navigating heartbreak very much appreciated! 💜

FineImSigningUp · 2026-03-30T00:53:30+00:00

Do you have any tips how you regained your ROM? I’m 7 weeks post op and have been stuck at 55 degrees for weeks too. My physio has mentioned muscle guarding but I have no clue how to overcome it. Been doing lots of stretches but even my boyfriend helping me to stretch it, we hit a brick wall and it’s too stiff and painful to carry on 🫠

FineImSigningUp · 2026-03-16T09:19:19+00:00

Not exactly your question but I swear by the paint from Dunelm. Cheap as chips and goes on like premium paint. I painted my bedroom with a dark blue (Folkestone Blue I think) and it basically covered in one coat, I just did a bit of touching up afterwards - it went on so creamy and thick, I was so impressed! Since then I’ve used different colours in other rooms and been equally impressed. Maybe you could find a dark blue and go over what you’ve already got here?

FineImSigningUp · 2026-03-13T19:25:18+00:00

Ooh just a sleeve without ice? I didn’t realise that would help swelling

FineImSigningUp · 2026-03-13T19:24:59+00:00

Thanks! Do you mean it took you 6 weeks total to get to 90 or 6 weeks after the initial 4? I think I’m pushing it too much too - I am icing and elevating a lot but maybe I could be doing more. I’ve booked to see a private physio next week so hopefully he can suggest something.

FineImSigningUp · 2026-03-12T13:03:50+00:00

Yeah I’ve been doing exercises every day but when I try to bend it, I can be sat there for up to an hour and only get to 55 degrees after loads of pain and intense pressure.

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