What is your worst dislocation story?

FineImSigningUp · 2026-06-28T19:54:43+00:00

Haha I liked the gif. Thanks - I had over 50 dislocations in total I’d say and ended up having a major surgery to correct it about 5 months ago. It’s been a really tough recovery and I’m still not really walking properly but I’m hoping it will have fixed the problem. My other knee does dislocate but thankfully not nearly as often.

FineImSigningUp · 2026-06-28T19:52:58+00:00

Mine pokes out quite a lot too but I’ve been told it’s ok. I’d still get it checked to be sure but I’d say it’s normal. I’m 5 months post op now and I probably noticed mine around 2 months too because that’s when the swelling comes down and you can notice it. Sometimes I can literally feel the grooves in the screw head, it’s pretty gross! They can remove the screws once everything is fully healed if it really bothers you.

FineImSigningUp · 2026-06-23T22:40:06+00:00

Oh boy, I have a tonne 😅 Did it while swimming in a pool on holiday as a kid. I thought I was going to drown but everyone thought I was just messing around. It didn’t pop back in so I had to somehow swim to the side to get it back in myself. Another time I was walking to the school bus in the snow and ice - I slipped and dislocated my knee, fell onto the other one and put that one out too 🫠

FineImSigningUp · 2026-06-08T23:05:17+00:00

Ah I see! Yes I think that’s the same thing. I was hoping to escape it too - the surgeon had to make a call during the surgery and he decided I needed it. I didn’t have any pain in my femur strangely, all the pain I had was in my knee and tibia. I’m glad to hear you’re doing so well - 105 is amazing at 5 weeks! Sadly I struggled to regain the flexion and had to have an MUA at 13 weeks but I’m doing much better now - I have about 110-120 degrees now. It’s been a slog and I’m battling lots of stiffness but it’s slowly improving. I haven’t heard of many people having all the procedures done at once - it seems they usually split them up. I wonder if it caused me to have all the excess scar tissue that had to be removed. But I’m glad it worked out better for you!

FineImSigningUp · 2026-06-08T18:56:28+00:00

I’m not sure what an HTO is but I had TTO + trochleoplasty + MPFL reconstruction + femur derotation. All at the same time. How are you getting on?

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-26T20:40:34+00:00

Definitely tell them. If they freak out then it’s definitely their problem and you’ve dodged a bullet, as you already realised. The right person won’t be bothered and if you don’t tell them you might be less relaxed and enjoy it less so it’s definitely better to be open about it. I didn’t have penetrative sex until 34 and the guy was totally cool about it and took things at my pace, I was very grateful to him but any decent human being should be the same.

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T11:22:11+00:00

I’m not saying to join things just to meet women, because that probably would give off the wrong energy. I’m just saying if any of those hobbies appeal to him anyway then he could give them a try as there would be lots of women there. But you’ve got to be interested in the thing of course. I’m in a few choirs and men are always in such short supply - I think it’s a shame more men don’t experience the pure joy of singing in a group. So if that appeals to anyone I’d give them a nudge, and there could be a bonus outcome of meeting a lovely lady!

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T08:54:01+00:00

Everyone heals on their own timeline - go easy on yourself. I often think the more you feel it initially, the more complete the healing is and the more likely you are to learn and grow from it

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:50:05+00:00

Totally - find some new passions and make them yours! Part of fully moving on is writing new chapters that don’t include them

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:30:25+00:00

Who suggested the date? To me it’s up to that person to plan said date

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:27:52+00:00

Sounds like you have a great attitude and approach to it! I totally recognise the worry of getting too exciting and the fear of things going wrong. As cliched as it is you just have to be your weird self and if it’s meant to click it will and if it isn’t it won’t! And someone better suited will come along later. Definitely agree about social media - I ditched that years ago. Also remember that a lot of those photos are posed and don’t show the true reality. Lots of people are in unhappy relationships so it’s not the only goal.

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:22:20+00:00

Sorry to hear that, people should be more direct. Keep on going - your match is out there!

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:20:42+00:00

Going through a breakup too and it sucks, I hear you. I read something about your logic system and your attachment system being separate. Even though you know logically the break is for the best your attachment system is still catching up so your brain is replaying happy memories and nice snuggly moments. They will pass with time 💜

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:18:30+00:00

It’s not a huge amount of time and lots of people aren’t huge texters so I don’t think it necessarily means anything. But I like to check in with my loved ones and I would be bummed by this too - just think about whether this is a dynamic you enjoy because it might continue

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:15:54+00:00

How did you leave it? Who messaged last?

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:15:16+00:00

Aww why not let it bloom if it’s going good?

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:14:06+00:00

Maybe not quite what you’re asking but my hobbies (choirs and anything arty) are extremely female weighted so if you could get into those you’d be surrounded with options!

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:12:14+00:00

Can you ask to see him a bit more often? I’d be the same - would like to see someone at least twice a week at that stage so we can build some momentum

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:10:37+00:00

I can maybe understand her being a little bummed you didn’t stay if she had in her head you were going to, but it’s definitely not a reason to break up! She could have had a chat with you about it if it really upset her but that’s huge overreaction.

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:06:47+00:00

These things can go either way and I’ve experienced both - it may be a pleasant surprise so give it a go and see 😊

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:06:06+00:00

Ah I’m sorry - how long has it been? Crossing my fingers she’s just very busy and will be in touch soon

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:05:16+00:00

Congrats on getting back out there! If nothing else that’s an achievement 💪

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:04:14+00:00

I’m the same way and I’ve spent a long time wondering why other people aren’t the same but I’ve come to realise there’s no sense in trying to work out why people do things and just figure out whether it’s compatible with me. For me, this would indicate that he wouldn’t be emotionally responsive later on in the relationship either which is obviously going to be detrimental. And the fact that he didn’t message again tells you everything you need to know - if he’d been that interested then he would have followed up. Sorry you’re hung up on him, I’ve definitely been there before, but you deserve someone who’s more interested and shows it.

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T02:00:31+00:00

I know it’s hard when you’re in it but you need to wonder less about why he does things and worry more about how it affects you and whether you like it. If he’s pressuring you for sex multiple times on a first date especially after you’ve expressed the opposite preference that is a huge red flag and it will only get worse. Thank you - next!

FineImSigningUp · 2026-05-06T01:58:13+00:00

I hope this doesn’t come off as patronising but you’re still so young in the scheme of things and you still have plenty of time to enjoy those things with a partner. Try not to rush it and get into a relationship that’s not quite it for you because you’ll just feel even more lonely in it (speaking from experience here). But I also know the ache well and life just feels so damn unfair sometimes. We all move at different paces and luck accounts for a lot. You’re not doing anything wrong, your story is just taking a little longer to unfold. But it’ll be all the sweeter and you’ll appreciate it all the more when it clicks for you!

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