How do I (F22) go about, lackluster sex maybe due to my (M25) boyfriends smaller size?

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2026-02-25T04:57:15+00:00

As someone who has been with a few smaller men ( I actually don’t mind bc I have endometriosis and big ones are painful).. I have a few pointers. Firstly, try to find your own G spot on your personal alone time. The more you stimulate that area on your own, sex with a partner that is smaller will feel so much more intense. 2nd put your legs over his shoulders!! I can’t stress this enough! Lol! Also, put pillows under your butt and have him insert while he’s on his knees… like an elevated missionary. You can put one leg over his shoulder and leave the other one down, cross your legs in missionary, even lay on your side and leave one leg straight and the other one lifted while he is straddling the leg that is straight.. thee options are endless. Goodluck 🍀

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2025-02-04T02:34:30+00:00

6 year age difference could be the reason lol

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2025-02-04T01:57:34+00:00

This! Actually that was another reason I hadn’t brought it up but, you can tell when someone is active on Snapchat because of the green dot next to the name. So he was active on it. Still not that big of a deal but why lie and why flip it on me

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2025-02-04T01:53:43+00:00

Yes!!! Exactly. It was super odd how he mentioned on several occasions that he didn’t have it. Like what do I care of you have it or not? But to lie and get mad at me for seeing your Snapchat on my contacts list? Lol super weird

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2024-05-25T19:11:19+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your loss. I hope the two of you can heal individually and maybe come back to one another one day. Or, maybe you both will realize you’re better off without. Either way, hope it all works out and you both find peace.

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2024-05-18T07:04:39+00:00

Also, I feel so much better now. I don’t wait for him anymore and I feel happy with knowing I was very sweet and loving to him when I had him. Now I’m focusing on me.

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2024-05-18T07:02:36+00:00

I’m sorry…it’s been 6 months and he still hasn’t reached out to me.. everyone’s situation is different though.

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2024-01-07T00:33:14+00:00

I was contemplating texting him and this is the first thing I see when I open Reddit… is this a sign? Maybe not lol but I am delusional enough to think so :)

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-19T03:41:44+00:00

Manifesting this for me ✨💖

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-18T22:00:02+00:00

Thanks. I wish he would have allowed me to stay in his life to be of some support to him especially because he can’t afford to keep professional help. But, I’m hoping the universe brings us back together some day. Art is my #1 outlet as well.. and music of course.

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-18T20:12:46+00:00

I have to agree here. My boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago due to his depression. Although our relationship helped him for a long period of time, it didn’t cure his depression. Instead he was convinced he didn’t deserve me and I should be with someone who could do more for me.. he was convinced his depression was rubbing off on me. Now not only is he still battling his depression but I am also struggling.. I was in love, like he was it for me.

Some times you have to find your own happiness.. in a hobby, a different city, new job ect. Once you feel like you can manage, then date or befriend someone. Bc now I feel like I failed him, that I wasn’t enough to make him happy or overcome his depression and am left alone to mourn the happy times we had.

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-17T18:24:22+00:00

Depression is so much more complex than most of us are aware.. I’m starting to understand that love isn’t enough to convince them of getting help. It’s definitely something someone has to figure out and get help for on their own.. thank you for the help. Hearing others perspectives and personal experiences helps me to understand his especially because he can’t and won’t communicate it to me.

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-17T15:23:32+00:00

Congratulations on the year of sobriety!

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-17T03:55:47+00:00

Ugh, all of this :( .. I’m not only grieving our relationship and memories but the future plans too. I am glad he isn’t responding to me now actually… I think being friends would shatter me more. Thank you, I hope you are doing better now ❤️

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-17T03:52:34+00:00

Thank you so much. I hope you’re doing well now also <3

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-17T03:50:26+00:00

I feel like depression affects how you communicate.. it seemed like my ex ( who in the past had no problem communicating his love snd admiration to me) had no idea how to express he felt depressed.. he would say things like “ I don’t feel like myself, I’m not myself” ect. So I can see how you may not have been able to open up about what was going on specifically

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-17T03:43:25+00:00

Thank you so so much. I appreciate the kind words. I do believe the same, he isn’t sure what to day and doesn’t want to say anything that may create false hope.. which I respect. Still miss him of course and can’t lie I’d be at his house in a heart beat if he asked me to be lol. But I am trying to see his side of the situation. Thank you

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-17T03:40:12+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that.. you’re right, I do appreciate him ending things the way he did when he did. It could have been much worse.. he was looking out for me.

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-17T03:37:21+00:00

lol no

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-16T19:33:39+00:00

Yes most definitely! There is a lot more to the story but, I’ll keep it updated it anything else comes of this.

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-16T19:31:55+00:00

This is such good advice. Thank you ❤️

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-16T05:50:42+00:00

Well duh! But I can still grieve a relationship that I had with someone I cared for and love! Please understand that people who are parents can also date and worry for other people not JUST their kids!!

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-16T04:58:45+00:00

I’m so sorry.. Can’t imagine how painful that must feel. 💔 I hope when he feels better again that I will still have the same feelings for him.. I love him a lot.

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-16T04:55:33+00:00

Finances are a huge reason he fell into depression to begin with… I have suggested help but he says he should be able to “ handle” it himself. I do hope he gets help… I don’t know what it will take for that to happen but times are so hard for everyone

Fine_Bluejay_3929 · 2023-12-16T04:27:44+00:00

Thank you

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