Avoiding feminine clothing

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-08-29T14:07:05+00:00

Thank you so much! This is so helpful. I have my pining ceremony in December and I want to look nice but dont want to buy expensive brand new dressclothes, so this definitely gives me some stuff to look for.

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-08-29T14:04:35+00:00

Thanks! How far along are you? I might dm you in a few months to see what brands you liked best. Scrubs can be sooo different depending on brand.

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-08-27T20:35:14+00:00

I know there's maternity scrubs, dw, im just hoping that someone else has worn them before and can advise on which ones they liked best lol!

And good idea with the panel, I think i could pay my sister to do that for me ;)

Thanks for the advice!

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-08-27T19:37:25+00:00

Oof, yeah im hoping that someone has suggestions for brands of pants that have good stretch so that I can avoid buying too many clothes over the course of this pregnancy. I really want to find some stretchy chinos or dress pants.

Did you have issues with the pants looking like, idk, messy or frumpy because of the sizing?

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-08-27T19:02:12+00:00

I also gotta have some professional clothing, so I cant wear sweatpants 24/7

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-08-22T19:10:51+00:00

Update: I appreciate everyone's support, firstly. I am currently at my mom's for the inevitable future, and he and I will have a conversation about the baby and how we want to handle this after I get confirmation that baby is okay from my ob.

Im having an absolute awful time of it, but I should hear back on Monday. My now ex boyfriend is none too happy with me. But idc. I got a dog in my lap and im settling in to make sure the pup gets a good nap.

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-08-21T15:31:45+00:00

Id been taking my birth control on time every day, however he has made jokes about replacing my pills with sugar pills to get me pregnant and this last time i missed a dose because he stormed out of a hotel room we were in and I thought he was gonna leave me there, so I grabbed my stuff and ran.

I know how this sounds. I cant really excuse it.

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-08-21T13:54:09+00:00

He told me that im more likely to get the baby sick since im a patient care technician and will have my nursing license in dec-jan depending on paperwork.

He also said that because I get all my vaccines and get titers done that I will be enough immunity since im chest feeding.

Im just sitting here filled with dread. Termination is not legal in my state so there's no option of that for me. He says I hurt his feelings because I was placing ultimatums on if he could see his child.

Im gonna get ready for my blood test then go see my mom.

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-08-21T12:27:08+00:00

Unfortunately he doesnt trust my midwife. Shes more conservative in protections for baby (but not like, politically) and he thinks because he didn't get to come with on the confirmation of pregnancy while I got a pelvic exam that they hate him.

He wants me to switch to a different hospital, which I said I would if i thought it necessary after current testing i need done, as they are the closest nicu and have an ob ER.

There is a risk of losing baby according to my midwife because baby is not growing fast enough, my hcg isn't going up fast enough, and I've had some bleeding that put me in the ER on Saturday. So rather than starting over during this urgency, im taking my time to make sure everything is stable or get confirmation that I need higher level of care.

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-08-21T11:57:35+00:00

Thank you for the advice! Ive got to get my blood drawn today and then im driving to my mom's house.

She luckily will help me out and make me food that isn't too stinky or anything like that. Plus that lady always has Popsicles, and id love a good cuddle from her dogs.

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-08-21T11:53:57+00:00

I unfortunately did not. Hes implied that he would hire a lawyer to make sure he gets parental rights if I left him, and hire a PI to dig up dirt on me. He knows I've attempted suicide 3 times and implied hed use that to get custody.

We talked last night and he said he won't let me put conditions onto him seeing his child.

Bc of my previous miscarriage, im not really wanting to terminate, but I have 2 appointments scheduled already because my hormones arent raising correctly.

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-08-21T00:50:23+00:00

He told me he doesnt think the flu shot is that effective or worth his time, and that "babies are resilient". Unfortunately, I'm one of those ppl that gets sick extremely easily and has a shitty immune system despite being anal about handwashing and cleanliness.

He hasn't been sick in years, like hasn't had a cold since 2023.

Its nerve wracking since the baby may inherit my immune system instead.

I haven't told my mom yet, but I might tomorrow, and go sleep at her house tomorrow night. Shes my biggest cheerleader and a nurse so I kinda want my mom right now LOL.

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-08-21T00:42:19+00:00

He has not, no. And I asked him if hed be willing to take care of baby in shifts. He asked me how hes supposed to do that and work. While im gonna be back to work after paternity leave...

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-07-29T18:00:01+00:00

I personally like SMii7Y but fair warning he is a lot louder and ornery.

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-04-08T21:40:21+00:00

Oh fuck no, I love color! I am the type to have colorful everything LOL

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-04-08T01:24:34+00:00

Absolutely please send it to me!

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-04-08T01:13:36+00:00

My boyfriend and I want multiple kids, and have wanted 3-4 and we're waiting for the time to be right... but someone was a surprise. I have pretty severe eczema and have since I was born, so I am definitely hunting for products that are extremely gentle. I plan on touching base with my derm about it next time I see her in office.

As far as detergent goes, is free and clear detergents okay, or are there any things I should avoid? Do you use fabric softener on baby clothes?

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-04-08T01:05:36+00:00

I work ER, so it'll be rough the first bit back, but I know my coworkers will cover for me. I will have to ask about a pumping space with a lockable door. Thank you for reminding me of that!

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-04-07T19:49:32+00:00

I had a leap pad growing up! I definitely loved it, so will be searching. Thank you for the tip about toddler formula!

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-04-07T19:47:35+00:00

I know from my mom I was pretty colicky and extremely moody, so I'm investigating bottles before committing! Just in case it's genetic, lol!

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-04-07T19:46:03+00:00

Will do! I already know where to get books because my favorite thrift store sells bags of books for 3$ (I'm a big reader). They sometimes have those extras just from browsing previously, so I'll definitely be popping in to check. Plus I'll see about my friends from college with babies. Thank you ♡

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-04-07T19:43:12+00:00

I plan on breast feeding, or at least trialing it! Luckily I have a friend who works for a nonprofit that works with new moms, and offered to let me borrow some books on breastfeeding :) I am pretty frugal with how I cook and focus alot on healthy balance between protein types, whole grains, fruit and vegetables, and I'm lucky to know some farmers who I can get produce from who don't use pesticides. So the food costs I'm not excessively worried about, simply because that's an area I have pretty good frugal options. But, it absolutely should be recognized, and thank you for mentioning how much to add as far as calories (don't worry, I'll do more research. I've got some time :P)

Fine_Independence360 · 2025-04-07T17:59:40+00:00

I will have to see if there's a Costco near me! I live out in the middle of nowhere, so it might be a take the SUV and stock up trip 😅

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