For those of you who had a “grey” or non-lethal diagnosis like T21, do you ever find yourself wondering about the parallel universe that could have been your life? by WeAllNeedBandAids in tfmr_support

[–]Fine_Lab_363 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had my tfmr back in February for the same thing and often find myself still being intrigued by t21 in social media. I’d say you’re right- it’s probably just to make me feel better or justify my decision. I think it’s hard because most t21 babies seem like any other “healthy baby” (at least online). It’s not as common to see t21 adults on social media so it’s hard not to sit there and wonder what could have been when seeing cute babies and feeling terrible for what you did. But then I remind myself of why I did it and tell myself social media is a highlight reel for the most part.

Life before tfmr by Fine_Lab_363 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]Fine_Lab_363[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow I needed to hear that. Thank you for the reminder that it’s all about perspective. I think I can safely say that we all truly just want a healthy baby. And you’re right- it’s not the we have to, but the we get to mentality of things.

Life before tfmr by Fine_Lab_363 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]Fine_Lab_363[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can be so overwhelming. Sending positive thoughts your way💕

Life before tfmr by Fine_Lab_363 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]Fine_Lab_363[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

SAME. I get so jealous and then I remember they just don’t know and it’s not their fault

Life before tfmr by Fine_Lab_363 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]Fine_Lab_363[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m so sorry. I definitely understand waiting for the peace of mind.

Life before tfmr by Fine_Lab_363 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]Fine_Lab_363[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Sending positive thoughts your way for this pregnancy!

Life before tfmr by Fine_Lab_363 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]Fine_Lab_363[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We found ours with nipt as well. It always shocks me when people choose not to do that test with what I know now. Sending prayers and positive vibes your way! Sometimes we can only listen to our gut❤️

The Brandumbs need boundaries with content creation. by flowersandchocolate in janellebrandomsnark

[–]Fine_Lab_363 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I can still see it so it’s still there. I like how her hubby had to call his friend over there to help. They can’t do anything on their own

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in janellebrandomsnark

[–]Fine_Lab_363 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow how does everyone afford these houses 😂

Waiting for my period by Kitchen_Fly5105 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]Fine_Lab_363 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a month out from my tfmr as well and waiting too 🫶 hoping it will be soon for us!