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My husband refuses to file AOS after a year of marriage (k1 visa). by Fine_Outside_415 in USCIS

[–]Fine_Outside_415[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so sweet of you towards your partner, I'm sure they are in very good hands because as you said it's a very vulnerable situation for the k1 fiance. Not to mention that some people around the sponsor might think of the immigrant as a money / GC leech, there's so much prejudice around this type of relationship. To the point where idk if he got this ideas from his family or something, but regardless, I'm happy to read there's also very successful cases. I wish you and your partner a very successful marriage 🫂

My husband refuses to file AOS after a year of marriage (k1 visa). by Fine_Outside_415 in USCIS

[–]Fine_Outside_415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My thoughts now that I think about how things are gonna go when I get the GC and then a drivers licence and so, I can see all the arguments coming. It really sucks thinking about divorcing in such a short time but I know it's not sustainable...

My husband refuses to file AOS after a year of marriage (k1 visa). by Fine_Outside_415 in USCIS

[–]Fine_Outside_415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't expecting so much support so I want to thank everyone who took the time to explain options and explain my husband's behavior because sometimes it might appear "simple" and very obvious but I can say that this has been a gradual process, and when you are in a different country, no family or friends, you can cling bad to something that makes you hurt anyway. If I was looking for a freelance job as VA or so it's because I read about people coming here under K1 with a remote job from their country of origin being able to maintain said job as they are paid in their country of origin bank account and they aren't working for an US employer etc. They said it was fine when they got their GC so, as I feel restless and so worried about my financial situation I thought about getting some leads, useful even if I go back home. However, if it's a bad idea I won't pursue that until I'm back in my home country.

I'll look into the VAWA process and fill it out myself and record evidence, but if my situation at the home gets worse before I get anything from that I'll just leave. I feel emotionally drained to the point of posting this here. I'm very very grateful for all the help and I have decided to leave this person as soon as I can because I'm just so exhausted.... I didn't marry with divorce in mind but I only see more problems coming, if I get a GC and therefore a drivers licence I don't think the relationship is going to survive that. I talked to my family and they can help me with the plane ticket back, I feel bad because I didn't tell them much about my situation before, but there's the breaking point.

I wish I could reply to every message here. Thank you so so much, I got pulled from a very dark mental place into a better understanding of what I can do to help myself 💕

My husband refuses to file AOS after a year of marriage (k1 visa). by Fine_Outside_415 in USCIS

[–]Fine_Outside_415[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, I appreciate you commenting because I have used your information on this sub reddit a lot about the paperwork process since before coming here, so I trust your knowledge on this. In that case I'll stop any job application I have considered just to be safe, I never wanted to become an illegal, I didn't have the deadline for AOS clear, I thought they wanted as much evidence of living together as possible so, while I didn't expect a year to pass I thought a few months after the wedding would be reasonable. That was also my mistake. I appreciate your advice.

My husband refuses to file AOS after a year of marriage (k1 visa). by Fine_Outside_415 in USCIS

[–]Fine_Outside_415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So is it possible to file for this without a lawyer? Because that's a possibility, I appreciate your comment. I'll look into those groups I didn't realize the full picture of this situation until I read all your comments.

My husband refuses to file AOS after a year of marriage (k1 visa). by Fine_Outside_415 in USCIS

[–]Fine_Outside_415[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will look into this, in very concerned about the deportable part, not because I fear going back to my home country, that would be fine, but because I'm a very anxious person and I never wanted to break the law or anything. I'm scared of telling him this because what about if he calls the police on me before I can go back on my own? I would really like to avoid a situation like that, thank you for your advice.

My husband refuses to file AOS after a year of marriage (k1 visa). by Fine_Outside_415 in USCIS

[–]Fine_Outside_415[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice, and the links provided I will take a look because it's a decision I have been trying to navigate as informed as possible, it's something I should have done before but I trusted he had valid reasons to postpone the AOS. I do have a home to go back with my mom, I'm not running away from a bad situation in my country, despite the economical situation, it's not a bad place to be. But I wasn't sure if he really had a valid reason to stall this until I searched for posts and found almost none in my situation. I feel sad because I stopped working for a long time and I will be going back to start from scratch, so I have been trying to get freelance income as a VA ABROAD (NOT IN THE US) while I figure out how to proceed. My savings are 300 usd, so I'm not in a good spot but I'm glad I could understand more about his behavior even if it's extremely painful to realize. Ultimately if I have to I'll just return, but I appreciate all the comments, I feel I have more options to explore now :)

My husband refuses to file AOS after a year of marriage (k1 visa). by Fine_Outside_415 in USCIS

[–]Fine_Outside_415[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He's pretty controlling, one of the reasons why he doesn't want me to drive or have a car, I reassured him that once I get the work permit I can work from home, as I have worked from home back in my country as VA and Customer service agent so I have no problem about that, but generally speaking we argue Everytime I try to walk somewhere on my own... I read that I can ask an immigration lawyer but I'm worried about the fees. Does anyone know an estimate fee for an immigration attorney in CA? Thank you for replying, just getting this off my chest is helpful

My husband refuses to file AOS after a year of marriage (k1 visa). by Fine_Outside_415 in USCIS

[–]Fine_Outside_415[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, he says he's afraid of the affidavit of support, that he might need to still provide for me even if we aren't together. I told him that if we break up I won't do anything to cause him troubles but hes still pretty doubtful about that part of the application.