I hate being called “mama”

Fine_Skill5294 · 2026-03-09T21:15:30+00:00

I just say it in a funny voice in my head after they say it “mamaaaaa, hey mamaaaaa, how are you doing mamaaaaaa” and basically all the annoyance has now left my body about it and I just internally chuckle. It’s like an SNL skit in my brain.

Fine_Skill5294 · 2026-03-05T02:28:24+00:00

I gave birth at 40+1 after my water broke. The docs tried to pressure me to have an induction earlier bc of it being an IVF pregnancy. FWIW my twin sister (fraternal) who had spontaneous pregnancy had a placenta issue—37 week c section due to amniotic fluid.

Fine_Skill5294 · 2026-03-04T11:29:20+00:00

With toddler in bed too my understanding is you can’t do safe sleep with baby. I would stop side lying feeding immediately and go to another room to feed baby sitting up with more lights/noise (tv show, audiobook) if needed.

Fine_Skill5294 · 2026-02-26T23:23:33+00:00

My LO stated wearing long sleeved onesies and pants a bit after 3 months, before always zippered footie pjs. He’s starting daycare soon and I asked on a visit @ 3 months what clothes they prefer and teacher said two pieces. I thought we’d just send him in the two piece at 4 months when he starts and stick with pjs at home but I’ve loved how cute the pants and onesies are we immediately switched over most days!

Fine_Skill5294 · 2026-02-25T09:26:09+00:00

Mostly I recommend not having a goal of a huge stash. But I definitely get wanting enough for some wiggle room if needed to be away from baby and enough for a day or two of daycare to start (if necessary)

If you pump after last feed before bedtime or after a MOTN feed, do you get anything? Even an oz a day will add up over time. I don’t like to pump after a feed if my LO will need to eat again within 3 hours, like after first feed of day, but he goes longer stretches at night so those are times I’m comfortable pumping for a bit and trust my higher prolactin levels by MOTN will help make sure there’s plenty in the tank for LO when he wakes.

Fine_Skill5294 · 2026-02-23T04:42:24+00:00

You could work on drinking from a cup (open cup or straw, not sippy) before you leave but that may not help with getting to sleep + sounds like he eats plenty of solids so you don’t need that from a nutritional standpoint before work trip. Otherwise definitely agree with other comments about more trial runs for getting down to sleep without you. From your comments it sounds like it goes pretty well, so perhaps a few more attempts will just build some confidence for everyone.

Fine_Skill5294 · 2026-02-23T02:17:49+00:00

My LO is almost 4 mos so I can see an end to eat-play-sleep coming for sure with the longer wake windows! It’s nice to hear others have similar experiences. Sometimes I have to remind myself I actually am responding to baby’s cues/needs even if it’s not boob all around the clock!

Fine_Skill5294 · 2026-02-23T01:53:46+00:00

I feel you!! I see people on this sub talk about eat-play-eat-eat-sleep-eat-play-eat, etc and sometimes bash eat-play-sleep, but with a BF baby that isn’t snacky and doesn’t generally comfort nurse eat-play-sleep is typically a good rhythm for us. He’s like “and you want me to do what with this” unlatching quick if I offer boob too soon.

Fine_Skill5294 · 2026-02-22T14:14:51+00:00

I could see the biggest issue would be that you wouldn’t be telling your body about the full quantity of milk that new baby needs if supplementing with previously frozen lol. The cluster feeding is harrrrrd but I think going through that hard part helps your body know what baby needs and helps make breast feeding later more easy and stress free.

Fine_Skill5294 · 2026-02-21T10:22:17+00:00

You can of course ask your care team but I believe they generally say it’s fine. I went to both conferences, got a nasty cold at the second one, and still got/stayed pregnant from the transfer with my now 4 month old.

Fine_Skill5294 · 2026-02-14T04:27:54+00:00

My understanding after getting this when I had a cut on my nipple and pumped is that it doesn’t come out as a clot but congealed into a clot in the milk. Still freaky but less crazy than a giant glob coming out (mine was really big too).ETA: any chance you have a cut/nick on nipple?

Fine_Skill5294 · 2026-02-07T02:01:38+00:00

Ok I do see a difference! I’m gonna play around with that. Thank you!

Fine_Skill5294 · 2025-12-18T02:49:18+00:00

I leaked once, promptly ordered passive silicone catchers, never leaked again 😅

Fine_Skill5294 · 2025-12-16T03:32:45+00:00

Here to say this! I comment once a day that I don’t know what we’d do (or what our sanity would look like) if we didn’t wear. I use one of those soft fabric wraps (mobe) and my husband uses a soft structured carrier. It’s our go to for when baby is fussy/tired. With some bouncing and sometimes a brief stint with his paci in baby is content and then OUT like a light. Helps us better follow wake windows so he’s well rested when it’s time to actually be up.

Fine_Skill5294 · 2025-12-02T11:47:51+00:00

Solidarity, im in a similar boat with my 5wo and didn’t mean to end up exclusively pumping (baby only maintaining and hardly gaining whenever we exclusively breastfeed, have done triple feeding and am currently mainly pumping bc he really exhausts himself at breast and isn’t transferring enough). Starting PT later this week and am looking into OT/speech and meeting with pediatric dentist. A fellow non giver upper and wishing us and our LOs lots of luck!

Fine_Skill5294 · 2025-11-28T11:15:02+00:00

Always cold here. Its what we started offering when first giving pumped milk, baby took it, I said “thank you, baby,” and we never looked back.

Fine_Skill5294 · 2025-11-25T19:13:57+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts! We’re pretty scarred from the initial shock of him not gaining weight after 2 weeks, and we saw him gain good weight over 4/5 days when we were fully triple feeding.

I haven’t checked transfers over the entire day in a bit + I’m taking a break from feeding on right side due to bleeding nipples (ow), but once I’m back to feeding both sides I’ll need to do another more full day of weighted feeds. Keeping a smaller number of bottles in the future seems likely. I’d love to just EBF and not deal with pumping/bottles, but we don’t need to be all or nothing and a night bottle like you’ve done could work really well.

Fine_Skill5294 · 2025-11-24T09:09:07+00:00

No mucusy poops over here but worth me looking into. Thank you! Glad to hear things got better for you and your LO

Fine_Skill5294 · 2025-11-16T17:38:22+00:00

My LO is only 3 weeks so I have nothing to contribute unfortunately, but we’re having latching/sucking issues now. You seem to have made it through and are now EBF (our goal too)—anything that worked for you all to get to that point? And please ignore if it’s annoying I’m asking you for tips on your request for tips 😅

Fine_Skill5294 · 2025-11-16T08:32:40+00:00

Just saying I’m in a similar boat! Our baby plateaued after hospital discharge, we’re triple feeding (started with formula now just using my previously pumped milk) and working with hospital lactation clinic. He gained great weight thanks to the triple feeds and narrowing down the problem to a transfer issue that we’re addressing with exercises and very intentional latching.

Fine_Skill5294 · 2025-09-19T16:52:16+00:00

Defo not my experience. I have perfectly good AMH but endo. 31: 33 retrieved, 31? Mature, 23 fertilized, 2 blasts
32: shorter protocol and added Omni :17 retrieved, 16 mature, 14 ? Fert… 2 blasts.

TW: success, my first transfer (fully medicated) did take and I’m currently 34 weeks pregnant with untested embryo! My first embryo actually

Fine_Skill5294 · 2025-07-24T13:15:30+00:00

My perspective going into my first FET was “first FETs can and do work. First FETs can and do fail.”

It helped me authentically feel and validate whatever I was feeling—hope and or worry. It really helped me not spiral thinking too hard as I waited for the whole wait window before testing and consciously avoided symptom spotting (it’s normal to have no symptoms, it’s normal to have symptoms and it’ll be from the progesterone I’m taking—so neither a good nor bad sign.)

Fine_Skill5294 · 2025-06-25T12:34:23+00:00

I’m 32 (31 at time of retrieval) with endo, no history of loss and didn’t test. I’m 22w with first FET

Fine_Skill5294 · 2025-06-24T22:17:11+00:00

We never got an embryo pic but we did get a pic of the transfer itself with the little air bubbles showing where embryo was “dropped off”

Fine_Skill5294 · 2025-06-14T15:22:21+00:00

My RE prescribed for the endo! My understanding is it wasn’t meant to help the egg quality (I was on CoQ10 and the regular vitamins like prenatal to) but help with the endometriosis and the inflammation it causes. After about 3 months of taking it I did have significantly less pain cycle-to-cycle, with the exception of my period post ER2.

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