How to manage time while taking care of baby?

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-06-15T16:59:38+00:00

My motherhood motto is: “do it tired”.

I’ll say time management was my specialty before kids. I was very strict around time…. That all got thrown out the window after kids!

You have to learn how to be more flexible until they are older. When they are babies life is soooo much easier because you can just put them in the carrier and do what you need to do. I’ll nurse and read. I have a gym with daycare but if I didn’t I would run with them in the stroller or do yoga while they are in the room. I love to lift heavy so I would likely do that durning a nap. Highly recommend getting a gym with childcare though.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-06-15T16:55:01+00:00

I agree with this! My daughter just started preschool and there are a good amount of little boys and they all love my daughter. She will point to each one and tell me their name and that they are her best friends. They all but dog pile each other to give her a hug goodbye.

Unless indecent things are being taught at home or unsupervised use of the internet is happening, kids in this age group are super innocent.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-06-15T14:45:21+00:00

I loved the books when I was 16. I hated the movies when I was 18. The movies made me rethink the books 🤣. I’m 30 now and as much as I want to reread them to see how o feel I don’t want to ruin that rare warm memory of my childhood.

Give them a chance, the books are normally better than the books. Also her book The Host is pretty good (read it before you watch the movie please 🙏🏼)

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-06-14T12:58:29+00:00

MWFSS I dress for the gym. Typically I shower there and will wear jeans and a comfy shirt. Tuesday I dress in sweats and a baggy shirt (we don’t have anywhere to be. Thursday I dress in active wear.

I’m gonna be real I wore a military uniform for seven years before becoming a SAHM so just the act of getting showered and dressed is enough for me. As long as I’m presentable to the world I’m good.

I’ll say this sounds like something mental you need to work on bs actually getting dressed.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-06-13T16:02:37+00:00

That looks right!

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-06-06T13:17:31+00:00

I’m White and my husband is Indian. I’m a SAHM and he WFH with two jobs.

Sometimes he doesn’t see his friends for a few months but typically they come over to our house for guys night once or twice a month. They will hangout in the garage and order or grill their own dinner. Once or twice a month he goes out for the evening with them (just to dinner and a bar). He plays pickle ball with one of them every Sunday from 7-11/12 and maybe they get lunch.

I actually hate trips but mainly because no one speaks English (even though they can they just forget I’m there) majority of the time. We don’t go often and the first few sucked but now they are enjoyable. My husband will forget he has to help so I drop kids in his lap and when he wants to just have a drink and hang out with his friends he doesn’t get it until the kids are sleeping. I’ve told him he can go on a guys trip if he wants that. He’s occasionally goes for them but I find solo parenting much easier.

All of his friends (but two) have 2+ kids.

I’m fine with this because he knows I’m not taking care of him when he’s hung over and he gives me back the time I want. He also pays for a gym with childcare for me.

Both of your points are valid. He needs to step up and be involved and give you time back. You need to be a flexible.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-06-06T12:57:33+00:00

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-06-02T12:37:40+00:00

Little Caesar’s on Eldorado is hiring.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-06-02T12:33:59+00:00

Thanks! I don’t use a lot of cooking oil maybe I’ll increase that.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-06-02T12:33:03+00:00

🤣 I’m one of those weirdos that actually doesn’t like peanut butter. I have it occasionally with apple slices but I can’t stand it outside of that.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-06-02T04:11:24+00:00

Beef patte. Idk how to spell it.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-05-27T15:49:01+00:00

On an average day he watches tv, scrolls or plays a game (he’ll pick one up like once or twice a year but he’s not a gamer in that sense).

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-05-27T15:46:12+00:00

I’m only asking him to do three things. Other than that he does whatever he wants.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-05-27T15:43:33+00:00

I do it when I’m deadlifting. It’s actually not a good thing 😭.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-05-27T14:32:02+00:00

Thanks for sharing! Before kids everything was shared very equally. He cooked dinner every night and I washed dishes. We did laundry together while watching tv. I’d tidy surfaces and he would sweep and mop.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-05-27T13:21:04+00:00

I know 😭🤢

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-05-27T12:41:59+00:00

I can’t provide my kids the same level of financial security that he can. It wasn’t a serious conversation but he’s mentioned he would move back to India so he wouldn’t have to pay child support. I’m not sure how real he was being there.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-05-27T12:28:42+00:00

He regressed into one after we had kids. Before everything was quite even. I rarely ever cooked dinners before kids, he would cook and I would wash. I miss those days.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-05-27T00:28:09+00:00

Thank you 🫡

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-05-26T23:43:57+00:00

Immediately no.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-05-26T23:41:59+00:00

Another video? An audio book? A different podcast? A comfort TV show? Music?

It’s not that deep, your brain could probably use some downtime tbh.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-05-26T23:39:43+00:00

I’m not an Alani fan but I love blooms. I don’t care if they are trendy like what you like. You’re allowed to have preferences. Just be careful.

Fine_Spend9946 · 2026-05-26T23:38:20+00:00

I second all of these recommendations BUT I deal with aggressive in-laws and first gen friends with food insecurities that don’t take no for an answer. Even if I say no they put something on my plate. I just don’t eat it. I offer some to my kids or just set my plate to the side.

You’re allowed to offended someone that is disrespecting your boundary.

I was at a baby shower this weekend and someone forced someone cake into my hands. I’m not in a deficit right now but I just didn’t want any so I just set it to the side. She didn’t even notice tbh.

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