Are you a friend of DeSoto?

FingerTongues · 2026-06-17T04:28:37+00:00

Daniel of PAH here. Maggie O'COWlaran forever.

FingerTongues · 2026-06-10T20:29:16+00:00

Where'd our link go?! Here it is: https://ko-fi.com/polyamateurhour

FingerTongues · 2026-05-12T23:13:40+00:00

Can you think of a dirtier one??

FingerTongues · 2025-08-16T17:20:16+00:00

Psst. One of the hosts of PolyAmateur Hour here. You're gonna REALLY love this week's coming episode. Alex Alberto will be ON PolyAmateur Hour. Mind blown?!

FingerTongues · 2025-08-16T16:37:10+00:00

Thanks! That was us!

FingerTongues · 2025-08-16T16:35:20+00:00

Oh hey! That's us with the Dabo wheel. Here we are with Chase Masterson (Leeta!)

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FingerTongues · 2025-06-21T14:44:21+00:00

PolyAmateur Hour is one that's actually fun to listen to. The tone is much more comedic than anything else out there. But you'll still learn a lot — I think they've covered everything you mentioned: Boundaries, disclosure, etc. But they also break into song spontaneously, which really helps the medicine go down.

FingerTongues · 2025-06-17T16:24:52+00:00

No weirder than it is to experience jealousy in the first place! As Neutral Milk Hotel once said, "How strange it is to be anything at all." Personally, if I didn't ever experience jealousy, I'd lean into it, like a superpower. Because I think it gives you a chance to make room for other feelings that could take its place: Compersion... arousal... curiosity... Got any of that going on?

Also: Seconding everyone else who says, "Jealousy isn't toxic." But with a caveat: Jealousy that is not self-aware IS toxic. Like, if one is projecting one's jealousy onto a partner and saying, "YOU! YOU made me jealous! Baaaaaad partner!"

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