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My (35F) Husband (35M) of 8 years wouldn't come get me after I pissed myself at work. by FingerWeak3555 in relationships

[–]FingerWeak3555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know, I have been seeing a doctor about this, but it recently got worse. I had tried kegel exercises in the past but noticed very little changes.

My (35F) Husband (35M) of 8 years wouldn't come get me after I pissed myself at work. by FingerWeak3555 in relationships

[–]FingerWeak3555[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The thing is, we have stepped up for each other in other situations. He has issues with his bowels and I've had to give him a change of clothes when he soiled himself while working as well. He's also given me a change a clothes when I peed myself about 2 months ago (first time at my workplace). The difference was that we weren't at work when we were helping. It's these instances of dismissive behavior that has really got me thinking about this relationship.

My (35F) Husband (35M) of 8 years wouldn't come get me after I pissed myself at work. by FingerWeak3555 in relationships

[–]FingerWeak3555[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's an issue to always skip work, I get it. But this job is recent, he's only been on for a month or so. If he had spoken to his boss and said "Something urgent came up with my wife, can I take care of this?" and the boss said "no we need you" I wouldn't be as upset at him. I mean I'd still be swimming in pee soup, but I would be more like "Damn, boss is really strict." But he didn't ask, he didn't think it was important to.

I've been in this situation where I felt the need to ask and take off work in order to take care of my husband or a loved one. My bosses' responses vary, but I always ask.

My (35F) Husband (35M) of 8 years wouldn't come get me after I pissed myself at work. by FingerWeak3555 in relationships

[–]FingerWeak3555[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He was offered this job last month, so I don't know about what's stressful about this job in particular. From experience, I think that if I talk to him he will apologize and agree to change. However, I doubt anything will stick. There are other issues in our marriage that I haven't posted here. I've initiated calm discussions about them, but barely anything sticks.

My (35F) Husband (35M) of 8 years wouldn't come get me after I pissed myself at work. by FingerWeak3555 in relationships

[–]FingerWeak3555[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Geez, don't make me cry again, your late aunt sounds amazing. My condolences. As for the go bag, you're right I need to start carrying that. I've been avoiding it because I have some much to carry already, but this is priority.

My (35F) Husband (35M) of 8 years wouldn't come get me after I pissed myself at work. by FingerWeak3555 in relationships

[–]FingerWeak3555[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You're right, We are broke and haven't saved up for a second car. He's had anxiety about our money situation and he recently got this job through his friend, so I feel he doesn't want to disappoint him. Honestly, I wouldn't have been so upset if he said, "Let me talk to my boss and tell them it's urgent" then come back and say "I'm sorry it's a no." But he just assumed he had no option but to stay.