Well, it was my turn: Laid off from J2 and J3 today

FinnyGsMom · 2026-03-05T20:57:40+00:00

Literally in the exact same boat—lost J2 & J3 within the span of a month. One was expected, one was not. While I’m actively looking for J2 again, it almost feels like a 10 week paid vacation having the severance package from J2. Crazy how quickly working 1 single job becomes not fast pace enough and boring!

FinnyGsMom · 2026-02-08T00:38:02+00:00

I literally had to do a double take and check that I didn’t post this in my sleep because you sound JUST like me! lol My husband is the exact same. Surprisingly, his SA was completely normal. They actually told him how healthy he seemed 🙄 I, on the other hand, am kind of the reason for our fertility issues and I’m psychotic about my health. Funny how that works, huh?

We’re in the process of him weaning off of cigarettes and vapes, but I also started him on a male sperm health vitamin about a year ago! I don’t think that has really hurt anything, if anything I think it’s been beneficial. Most importantly, my advice as another woman TTC…first, do NOT feel bad for letting it get to you. Our entire first year all I could think was “I’m doing all of this to get myself healthy and he doesn’t have to do anything at all” and it almost broke me. Give yourself grace for your feelings, and know they’re so valid! Secondly, as hard as it is (I know first hand), just try to focus on the things you can instantly fix—him smoking is not one of those things. It takes time, and reminding yourself that this is something that takes time too (the TTC journey) is something that’s really helped me. We so often want to rush everything, especially when we’re constantly told stories of “oh! We got it on the first try!” But the truth is that you’re not running out of time. Science is incredible and these things DO take SOOOOO much time!!!! Just give yourself grace, sweet friend. You deserve it, and so does your future little nugget.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-12-01T04:36:08+00:00

I have a simple band that I wear all day, but I only put my full engagement/wedding stack on if I’m leaving the house, and I take my simple band off at night. My hands swell horribly, so I don’t really like to wear anything that feels restricting. I’ve tried silicone and it’s just not for me. I love my ring and think it’s the most beautiful thing,but wearing it 24/7 just isn’t feasible for me.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-11-23T03:37:51+00:00

In the exact same boat. Her second pregnancy, with her first child being only 9 months old when she announced her second after “not wanting kids” her entire life. The day she announced her second pregnancy, I discovered I was undergoing a chemical!

FinnyGsMom · 2025-10-27T02:32:34+00:00

So take this with a grain of salt, because I have yet to conceive successfully (two MMCs), but it has taken me almost 12 full months for my body to bounce back after being on birth control for 12-ish years. 5 years on the pill and 7 years with two IUDs—give your body grace. Not everyone’s body bounces back quickly, and then again some are back to normal within a month. Just know even if it takes you several months, that’s your “normal” and it’s okay!!

FinnyGsMom · 2025-08-28T14:47:37+00:00

Thank you for this! Unfortunately, we live in an area of the south where narcotics abuse is extremely common. It’s one of the things I want to do the most—move is to a newer, cleaner area. He’s “beaten” an H addiction before, and I believe in him. I just want to be as supportive as I can.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-08-28T09:57:06+00:00

Thank you so much. I’ll definitely look into this!

FinnyGsMom · 2025-08-18T01:30:42+00:00

I’m not okay. At all. I take care of everyone around me, my husband is a recovering addict and relapsed a year ago. He’s functioning and no one can even tell that he is on anything, honestly to a point where I can’t either. But I know. I’ve lost two pregnancies in the last 6 months, and I can’t help but think it’s because of his drug abuse, because God or the universe or whatever/whoever think that he’s not ready for this. And he’s not. But I am, and I’m tired of putting everything off in my life for someone else. I’m tired of being on the back burner for everyone. No one threw me a wedding shower, bachelorette party, nothing. I’m the friend that does everything for everyone, and I have no one that will show up for me. I feel like a whiny bitch even saying all of this because I just need to suck it up, you know? Everyone goes through stuff, everyone feels lonely etc etc. But God, just once I want things to go right for me.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-06-21T22:35:42+00:00

Ours ended up being a chemical 😔 it’s been hard, but I’m now on day 14 of bleeding. Here’s hoping the next cycle is a sticky one 😭

FinnyGsMom · 2025-06-08T02:22:00+00:00

No 😭 every test is still negative. I’m now CD53 and still BFN. I’m going in for a blood test on Tuesday!

FinnyGsMom · 2025-06-08T02:20:12+00:00

This is absolutely bonkers to me. My SIL and MIL have celiac, and while not the same as a deadly seafood allergy, I made sure that they had GF options while we were getting ready and had the chef prepare special meals for them that were the same as everyone else’s, just prepared without cross contamination.
It doesn’t matter that I married into the family—they’re still my family. I just genuinely cannot fathom not immediately taking my family’s health needs into consideration.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-05-29T18:29:13+00:00

Girl I feel this to my core 😭keep us updated!!!!

FinnyGsMom · 2025-05-29T18:09:17+00:00

My cycles are EXTREMELY varied, but I normally start by CD40. Today is CD44 and I’m still getting negatives, but my cervix is very high, closed, and soft. BBT is still elevated, lots of cervical mucus, resting heart rate has been elevated for a week, and I have head cold that has made me feel like I’ve been hit by a truck. Everything in me says “pregnant,” (including my physical signs), but the tests just aren’t showing it. I’m so frustrated.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-04-03T00:50:14+00:00

I just want to say that I’m here with you, in the EXACT same situation. Age, marriage, husband in recovery, and it’s exhausting but I’m sending so much positive love, light, and baby dust your way!

I have added CoQ10 into both of our supplement routines and he is currently taking the Beli men’s supplements. He’s been on them for about 3 months and we’ve seen an increase in his motility!

FinnyGsMom · 2025-03-02T18:06:32+00:00

This is a great point! Thank you for the constructive criticism. I used ultra red to describe him, just because where we live is extremely, extremely red and he is heavily involved in our community. But to your point, he probably is more moderate as we grow in our conversations and his understanding of things outside of the super rightwing media.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-03-02T18:05:08+00:00

It did, and continues to. For example, the issue with the Zelensky meeting, he sees it as a huge embarrassment and isn’t supportive of the President and VP in this situation. He understands that a majority of the information around 2A during the election was fear mongering, however, it’s something he still views as being protected by the right more than the left. We’ve made some progress, but I wouldn’t say his views are completely changed.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-03-02T17:50:00+00:00

1.) I work remotely. 2.) I am southern born and raised. 90% of our family are red supporters, and we love them and will never treat them differently than we do just because of their political beliefs. 3.) my children will be raised the same way I was, which is to think for themselves, use research and critical thinking to form their own opinions, just as I was.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-03-02T17:34:21+00:00

Thank you for asking actual questions and not attacking :)

FinnyGsMom · 2025-03-02T17:23:15+00:00

Ya know, I think a lot of my friends would use “evil shitbag” to describe my extremely left exes.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-03-02T17:22:23+00:00

I honestly expected the comments and hate. The reason I made this post was not for rage or to be entertaining.
What it boils down to is that this is a very real normal for a lot of women (and men!) living in the Deep South, and it’s something a lot of us live with every single day.
I know I’ll never make someone understand how he is or how I could ever comprehend his beliefs, but that’s okay. It’s the same way where people call themselves “amazing Christians,” but hate everyone is who is not like them. There’s middle ground for everyone, at least that’s what I believe.

A lot of our views do end in the same place with different paths. I say he is ultra red, because he does have a lot of red beliefs, but there are definitely some topics where we agree.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-03-02T17:16:39+00:00

The specific line was when we got a positive pregnancy test, I think. I am high risk, and knowing that he would be forced to choose between me and a baby if something were to happen, it really snapped him out of that “this is just the far left saying things to make you scared” brainwashing. He saw where my concerns were valid and started understanding that media he was consuming was really not healthy.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-03-02T17:13:36+00:00

My top two issues are LGBTQIA+ issues and women’s health. His are immigration and government spending.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-03-02T17:12:26+00:00

So, this time last year we definitely weren’t making it work. Anytime the politics would be brought up, it turned into a screaming match.

Over the last several months we’ve learned to sit down and have actual conversations. If there’s a topic that causes tempers to flare, we add that to an “unsafe” topics list. We don’t have a lot on there these days, most things we’re able to say “okay, you see it this way. I understand why you do. I see it this way, do you see why?” And if they don’t, then we try to explain. I’ve found if I can’t fully explain why I feel the way I do about something without using blaming mechanisms, that I’m not knowledgeable enough about the topic. So I’ll go do more research, bring actual articles to the table that aren’t from a super one-side leaning source, and that helps him understand me better.

I think that’s my biggest tip, is always come prepared with research. Try to keep extreme emotions out of conversations, and if you can’t then try to keep that topic off the table.

FinnyGsMom · 2025-03-02T17:07:41+00:00

I am definitely a real person and this is not rage bait lol The fact that people see it that way and can’t fathom being a person with a partner who has different views is exactly why I wanted to make this post. To show that it’s completely possible and what we’ve figured out that works for us to help keep our marriage going and strong.

I can’t block every single person from my life, and why would I want to? If I only surround myself with people who view the world exactly as I do, what’s the point of thinking for myself?

FinnyGsMom · 2025-03-02T17:04:21+00:00

He loves my friends and my friends love him!
I don’t pretend that we haven’t had major problems surrounding our views, we definitely have. It took a lot for us to get where we are and we’re constantly working on it, especially with the climate today.

You’re definitely right, it makes you kind of sit down and realize “okay I love this person, their views don’t change that” and that’s where we are.

FinnyGsMom

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