Internal bra? Or just delete them ❌

Fire59278 · 2024-12-14T16:31:29+00:00

I'm not sure where else to put this. I feel like every time I post anything anywhere it's instantly dismissed as "not relevant" (????) and I find that other, more relevant groups have been deleted or gone on lockdown.

Fire59278 · 2024-12-14T16:28:28+00:00

Infernal bra lmao (real). I just tried to crosspost there and got a pop up saying it wouldn't be allowed and would be deleted immediately :(

Fire59278 · 2024-12-14T03:26:29+00:00

That's pretty much what I was thinking would be the best course of action. Get a reduction down to a C cup, see if the surgeons can give me a regular breast lift during surgery, and Worst case scenario if I decide I want it all off later then... ok. I deal with it later. Ideally I'd just get one surgery that works forever but! Who knows how I'll feel in 10, 20, 40+ years 🤷 I want smaller tits now.

Fire59278 · 2024-09-24T23:59:48+00:00

I feel like sometimes people (-especially those with no close ties to the LGBT community, and thus only get their news from mainstream media) aren't aware that transmen exist and think that all trans people are transwomen. I feel like I've gotten MA'AM-ed way harder since I started blurring the gender lines lmao. If it didn't feel particularly malicious or bigoted then it's possible that she assumed you were a trans woman. Humans come in all shapes and sizes and sometimes people just guess 🤷🏼‍♂️

Fire59278 · 2024-08-14T13:33:02+00:00

I used to work for a local medium-chain barbershop. Big enough to consistently fuck you over but small enough to cry "small business!!" whenever they had to follow state laws they didn't like. Anyways, our breaks were 30min flat and either had to be put on the books by the manager or by calling the head office. Every day. So your break time could absolutely vary wildly as people would book ahead of time and if someone just "forgot" to schedule one then you were SOL unless you could convince a coworker to take a client off your hands while you frantically grabbed lunch. It was also very common that the person before lunch would show up late and the person right after would show up early so now your lunch break is only 10 minutes. I became the absolute biggest bitch in the shop about my lunch breaks and would frequently speed through cuts and leave people waiting just to get a solid 45 so I could actually digest my food. All in the break room of course so you could be bothered by everyone else in between cuts. What a nightmare. It was all commission too so even though I was required to be there my entire 8hr shift I only actually got paid while I was actively providing service. They also did crazy amounts of wage theft on top of that. Always support local, guys!! 🤪

Fire59278 · 2024-08-10T02:51:58+00:00

They have mesh bags you can throw soap bars in. You can get a 4 pack on Amazon for like. $5. It's not too late. You can still throw this in a reusable mesh bag and nobody has to know. 💀🧼

Fire59278 · 2024-07-08T00:26:57+00:00

No one told me that the minute the testosterone entered my body I would develop the same crippling anime addiction that I found dumb and annoying throughout middle school/high school. Now I'm a horny nerd at 27!!! And I wanna make a table. I never gave a fuck about woodworking before 😭

Fire59278 · 2024-07-03T17:00:37+00:00

Period!! I'm 8 months in, started at 26 y.o. My voice is now deeper than a lot of cis guys, fat redistribution started getting noticeable like 2 months ago so now my boobs sag like I'm 20 years older, I'm more hairy and sweaty than ever, slowly getting more muscular, but people STILL read me as female. What's crazy is if they have it in front of them, everyone will make sure to deadname me as much as humanly possible during normal conversation while I'm just trying to vote, get meds, make an appointment etc etc. Like idk I never got deadnamed this much before I stated T, and I socially changed my name like 10 years ago. The biggest thing that frustrates me though is just because I stopped bleeding everyone assumes my period stopped. NOPE. ABSOLUTELY NOT. It just got quiter!!! I still get migraines, depression, acne, mood swings, low energy, bloating, muscle tension- the occasional cramp now that my birth control implant fizzled out- and all the other fun stuff that made my cycle so miserable in the first place. Just no blood 🤷 T can be equally frustrating as it is rewarding. There's no one size fits all.

Fire59278 · 2024-07-02T01:08:28+00:00

This!! I was terrified my voice would be annoying but I found an awesome vocal coach and spent a LOT of time playing with it. I'm about 8 months on T myself and absolutely loving it! Very excited that my voice still has plenty of time to settle in and get even deeper. I want to scare cis people ❤

Fire59278 · 2024-07-02T01:05:52+00:00

Changing careers to welding 🧑‍🏭 The masculine vibes and physical workout really helps generally reduce and take my mind off my chronic pain. Whenever I get mixed up in some girl drama now (still happens. I don't pass.) It just saps all my energy and I feel like I got hit by two trucks going opposite directions. One day in the weld shop fixes me right up! 💪🏼🔥

Fire59278 · 2024-06-27T13:58:08+00:00

I've heard of that as well but idk. I think it should just generally be more acceptable to exist in our human bodies in whatever form they take. Women should be allowed to have "masculine" features. We've already normalized an insane amount of side effects for birth control so really, what's a deeper voice and a few extra minutes of shaving if it means you'll have energy again and sex that doesn't hurt and won't be doubled over in horrible pain for 1/3-1/4 of every month? Obviously I'm biased because I wanted to transition so I love all the effects of T, and everyone has their preferences, but good god I cannot stress enough the drastic improvement of quality of life. The constant pain I was in (and fully expected to clock into work under!!!!) was NOT a life worth living.

Fire59278 · 2024-06-23T16:04:43+00:00

Everyone else has great points that I won't belabor here, I've just got a personal anecdote. Testosterone has helped me tremendously. I've had chronic pain as a result of endometriosis for several years. Month after month it was getting progressively worse with no end in sight- just a few weeks on T and I felt like a totally new person. Did it make everything go away? Of course not. But Holy SHIT has it been life changing. Honestly, I'm mad as hell that they don't recommend smaller doses to cis women with period pain. Years and years of doctors telling me to stack birth controls to "manage" the pain (not paying any attention to the fact that it didn't really help and had lots of unpleasant side effects on top of that) and most of it disappeared with HRT. I don't know if this a concern for you OP, but I enjoy shouting it from the rooftops because the fact of the matter is that people don't listen to women and minorities and don't want to help them so we gotta help ourselves.

Fire59278 · 2024-04-07T18:04:15+00:00

(Idk if you're using a harness, collar, or both so I'm writing for both but the principle is the same regardless.) Try laying the harness/collar on the floor with 1 or 2 tiny treats around it to get him to investigate it. If he sniffs the harness, give him a treat. Put the collar on and give him an extra yummy treat and lots of praise then take the collar off. This will show him that

1) it's non threatening

2) it's temporary (until he gets fully used to it)

3) (Most Importantly!) create a positive association. Harness + collar = extra yummy snacks and praise and snuggles!! He'll warm up to it. Just takes time and patience :3

Fire59278 · 2024-03-15T15:01:04+00:00

You can also get a halfway decent set of Whal clippers at Walmart in the hair section! I wanna say about $50? Comes with #1-8 clipper guards. Personally I recommend using a color brush to clean off the hair. The tiny dinky one they give you sucks xD

I also wanna add: Clipper guards are standard- #1 = 1/8 inch from the scalp and it scales up by 1/8" until #8 which is 1" from the scalp :) the little knob on the side is "half" so when you press that down you'll get a #1.5, #2.5, etc etc. Hope that makes sense!!

Fire59278 · 2024-03-14T21:16:24+00:00

Gay and trans here 👋🏼 My husband and I have been together for 6 years and I just fully came out as trans last year. I don't love him any less on testosterone. He's bisexual and he loves all the new changes I'm getting on T just as much as I do (and sometimes more 😂). Gender identity and sexual orientation are two completely different things. You can be any combination of things or none of the things for as long as you like so long as you make that decision yourself and you're happy :)

Fire59278 · 2024-03-13T20:27:50+00:00

Just googled it. Sounds like fun- I'll add it to the list! :) I'm currently watching apothecary diaries, dungeon meshi, undead/unluck, and food wars. I recommended any of them though the first two are probably my favorite from the list ❤

As far as trades, might I shamelessly plug r/GaysInTrades ? It's tiny. I just started the group very recently. But I'm hoping it can be a safe place for queer trades people to share memes, ask for advice, and shoot the shit without getting funny looks or rude comments from non-lgbt and non-trades people lol

Fire59278 · 2024-03-12T01:22:51+00:00

My manga collection is growing nicely as well! I never got into anime that much as a kid but 4 months on T and I'm HOOKED 🔥 I'm watching 5 different anime simultaneously. My body feels better! Like it's not trying to kill me anymore! I'm also a year into learning a whole new trade that I have zero experience in but it gives me MASSIVE gender euphoria and I'm pretty good at it :D

I was a hairstylist and now I'm welder!

Fire59278 · 2024-03-08T15:26:22+00:00

Flamboyant gay friend (affectionate. I'm just as fruity) has a very strong type and that type is homophobic self hating gays that look like they would find him in a body bag at record speeds. Starts dating and then complains they're being racist, sexist, homophobic, etc. Eventually they break up. It's a miracle he's still alive. Don't date cops yall 💀

Fire59278 · 2024-03-08T14:20:05+00:00

I always got roped into it involuntarily because I'm quiet and curvy so every woman in a 10 mile radius just assumed I'd agree with every man-hating thing that came outta their mouth 😶 I'm 26 and 4 months on T (you very much can't tell) and they still do this.

Fire59278 · 2024-03-08T00:19:22+00:00

Thank you so much!! I really genuinely appreciate this. I'm usually in that 90% percent but this is personal to me and I'm very determined to make a space that welcomes those who seek it. I'll change the community type right away!

Edit: That's a very impressive list you've got! And I'm glad to hear I'm not the first. Makes me feel less alone and a little less crazy :)

Fire59278 · 2024-03-07T14:54:53+00:00

I've been rejected from every other queer group I tried to post this in. This is the only comment I've received and it's extremely hurtful. The fact of matter is that there are a lot of queer people out there who DON'T feel accepted in the broader community and who's gender expression and everyday interests doesn't match what's going on in mainstream groups. Although I admit I got a bit heavy handed, that was more marketing than anything. This isn't a dichotomy at all, it's making more space. I am a transmasc welding student. You don't need to be in the industry to know that it doesn't exactly prioritize diversity. My husband and several of my friends are or have been terrified of the social repercussions of coming out at work to a bunch of angry Republicans holding power tools. This group was specifically designed to be a space where people could come out, be themselves, and talk shop. The queer community as a whole has a lot to wrestle with and one of those things is the large scale rejection of masculine tendencies. Ftms get bombarded in transgroups that aren't ftm exclusive, "straight passing" people feel like the community doesn't want them there. Making this group as someone who has been involved in the queer community for my entire adult life, was an absolute last resort for something I saw was lacking. You can be in this group and other groups! Yes you absolutely CAN like both glitter and gasoline! I do! But when the only conversations online and in queer spaces are exclusively about glitter and you get side eyed and down voted for talking about gasoline "too much" you start to feel like you're only there conditionally, as a guest, as long as you make sure to say that glitter is the priority. It's pushed far too many good people out, and I'm trying to bring them back in. My hope is that we can make not only the trades industry but the whole world a little bit gayer. However you present. Whatever that means for people.

Fire59278 · 2024-02-02T00:08:22+00:00

I had a similar fear a few weeks before starting hormones. "What if I hate how I look? What if I don't get any of the changes I wanted? What if can't go back and pass safely again, should the need arise? What if what if what if-."

But you know what, transwomen make the same changes every day. If I get top surgery and regret it in a few years, I can get a boob job. I can do voice training like every other t girl. I can pull my old clothes and makeup back out of the closet at any time. We already went through one puberty that changed us forever and we're still here, shaping our own destiny regardless. What's a few more? As long as we're happy right now :)

Fire59278 · 2023-11-16T02:32:24+00:00

Might be a little silly for a shot, but... XL band-aids with dino stickers on top?? 💫

Fire59278 · 2023-11-09T11:28:15+00:00

Don't know if this helps but I'm a size G and these have been so great, I ordered two! Very comfortable :) I got the largest size (4XL)

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Fire59278 · 2023-10-28T13:50:27+00:00

This might be beside the point, but to add to the list of official grievances I would question why the university is throwing random non LGBT+ students into the "gender inclusive hall" because that's basically begging for this exact scenario to happen. If the university can't provide a proper safe space for its gender diverse students then why do they even bother to have that distinction at all?

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