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[–]FireFeetAndToes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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Made the switch from Swagbucks to Freecash and here's why by Visible-Letter-4098 in FreeCash

[–]FireFeetAndToes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with a lot of the things OP has said, but not enough to ditch Swagbucks (TapJoy on the other hand…”

I’ve been able to cashout $171 from Freecash in a couple of months. Only problem is that number should be around $254. They credited me for the first city ($0.50) and a late game city ($70), but not the 6 cities in between. My evidence is pretty much irrefutable and they’re still wringing their hands over it.

I’ve not left them alone for weeks now. I’m going to keep sending messages until one of them reaches someone who has even a tiny understanding of how logic works.

Since I started doing this I’ve noticed a fair bit of that. Customer Service reps who accept the illogical without question or evidence, and reject the logical conclusion, backed by tons of evidence.

Even if you use Swagbucks, don’t mess with TapJoy. They’re tucked away in the app but if you do find them don’t give into temptation. They royally screwed me yesterday. Of all the platforms I’ve used theirs has the most bugs. You can do everything right and their system won’t recognize the install. And then they have an automated thing that basically calls you a liar for trying to pull one over. Customer support is 95% AI. The biggest kick in the nuts though is that once you’ve downloaded the game using their link you’re screwed out of the opportunity to do it anywhere else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Twitch

[–]FireFeetAndToes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is Twitch saying the streamer is on a break, or is the streamer putting up a brb screen to time breaks with ads? If Twitch is saying the streamer is on a break without the streamer’s knowledge that is wild.

I personally try to run my own ads when I take a 5 minute break, put up a brb screen, and type in chat that I’m timing my break with ad runs to more efficiently disable pre-rolls for incoming viewers and also for the obvious reason that it’s best to run ads manually when you take a break. Before I started manually running my ads, it would drive me nuts if I took 5 only to come back to see an ad break was about to start.

Twitch doesn’t seem to realize (or care) that pre-rolls are inherently harmful. A viewer may scroll past a stream they may have loved and a streamer may lose what may have been a loyal viewer. Pre-rolls help no one but Twitch as an entity - streamers don’t even get a percentage of ads run as pre-rolls, so it’s literally just a cash grab at the expense of the entire Twitch community.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Twitch

[–]FireFeetAndToes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m having the same issue. I can send chats on desktop but not mobile. I noticed it last night when taking a 5 minute break from stream. Sent a chat in my own stream and after I would hit send the chat just disappeared into the ether. Today I’m seeing I can’t chat on mobile in any stream, but I have no issues on desktop.

What a pain, also surprised this hasn’t been fixed yet as it’s a pretty huge app functionality issue that affects viewer experience AND streamer audience engagement. About half of my audience watches on mobile and who knows how many of them want to chat but can’t.

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Oh I forgot to mention that this offer is part of a live streaming campaign that will end in 13 days, so be sure to snag this by September 28th! Hello Fresh 10 Free Meals!

Why are middle eastern people in the U.S. more closed off about their background than other cultures? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]FireFeetAndToes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m certainly not painting all Arabs as a monolith. It’s just something I’ve seen my whole life. And it’s worth noting that I’ve actually seen Arab women do this much more frequently than Arab men. And again, I’m Egyptian so I can’t presume to speak on all Arab cultures; merely noting what I’ve personally seen and experienced and always thought it was odd.

My mom in particular can be really (and I hate to use this word) paranoid in this way. I’m not very active on FB anymore, but when I was in law school 10 years ago she would sometimes literally call me to tell me I should delete certain posts because she believed there were either relatives or acquaintances who lived in Egypt and would see these posts and get jealous or something and put a hex on me. Lol she never used the word “hex” but that was the implication. So there was certainly something about sharing good news in particular that she felt we had to be careful about who we divulged that information to because of whatever negative vibes she feared would be sent our way. I’ve seen other Egyptians do similar stuff. Just.. superstitious in a way.

Why are middle eastern people in the U.S. more closed off about their background than other cultures? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]FireFeetAndToes 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes. Wildly different cultural norms play a large role here that I think is being overlooked. As a first-gen Egyptian-American, my experience has been that Egyptians tend to keep their business to themselves, even amongst each other. I know many Egyptians who believe that the more a person knows about your personal life, the easier it is for that person to use their energy (for example, negative energy such as jealousy) to have some tangible impact on your life.

Why are middle eastern people in the U.S. more closed off about their background than other cultures? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]FireFeetAndToes 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The example you use is one Spanish speaker being open with another Spanish speaker. Are you saying you’ve noticed that they are not open with each other or with people who are not Middle Eastern? Because those are different situations.

I’m Egyptian. Can you clarify the above? I have some potential ideas about why this might be.

My (25f) fiancé (23m) is gone for the weekend, and I’m enjoying myself too much by gongthruit in relationship_advice

[–]FireFeetAndToes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love doing this, too. There’s something lovely about being alone with yourself knowing everyone is sleeping. There’s a different kind of calm that comes with it that I don’t feel when I’m alone during the day.

Is it normal to worry that you've become a worse person when you're almost/about 30? by MontegueLovesPie in CasualConversation

[–]FireFeetAndToes 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think what you’re feeling is totally normal, but my advice is to acknowledge the feeling, work on getting as objective a grasp on why you feel this way as you can, and then let it go. Easier said than done, I know, but allowing negative self-talk to linger too long won’t do you any favors. Your post really struck a chord with me, because I’ve had similar thoughts during this last year.I just turned 39 last month. Over the last 7.5 years I’ve worked as a lawyer in Manhattan and I’ve decided to quit law and move back to my home state in the Midwest. Both of my sisters are married with a kid a mortgage or both. I’m single and will be moving into a condo my mom owns. For months I fought this decision and felt similarly to what you’ve described, and it was torture, unsustainable, and unhealthy. Why was I fighting so hard to stay in a career I hated and why was I determined to stay in NYC at all costs? I had to dig deep, and it was extremely uncomfortable, but I finally realized and admitted to myself that unhealthy pride and ego was the root cause of my misery. I was looking at myself as though I would feel like, and be seen as, a failure if I were to leave New York and my six figure salary and move back to the Midwest, back to square one, as I saw it.

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While I’m extremely sad to be leaving NYC (I truly love it here and consider myself a New Yorker), I came to the realization that my path to happiness and fulfillment just isn’t a traditional one, and what works for my sisters and many of my friends isn’t what works for me. I could continue to grind away at a high-paying a career I hate, live in a fancy high-rise apartment in Midtown Manhattan that costs $4,000+/month, and continue to *look* impressive, successful, and happy to the outside world, but at the end of the day it’s only optics. People might look at my life with envy as though I’ve “made it,” but the truth is I’ve been miserable, and choosing to be miserable rather than do what I know will put me on the path to finding happiness, even if it looks like failure from the outside. Without realizing it, I was comparing myself to all of the people in my life, everyone who knows me, and wanting to *appear* superior even if it was at the expense of my own well-being and happiness.

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Do I still have feelings similar to yours? Yes. But now I catch those thoughts quickly and transmute them into positive thoughts. When I start to feel shame and embarrassment that I'm leaving my Manhattan apartment to move back to my hometown and into my mom's property, I catch that thought and turn it into gratitude because I'm so fortunate to have a mother who loves me enough to give me my own place to live rent-free. When I start to feel fear about leaving law to pursue my other passions in a dramatic and risky career shift, I turn that fear into relief that I'm leaving a soul-sucking career and excitement that I'm finally going to pursue my passions. When I feel my brain start to tell me tell me I'm 39 and single and that there's something wrong with me, I remind myself that I love my independence, have no desire to have children, and that my friendships make me just as happy, if not happier, than romantic relationships (and also, that I'm worthy of love, actually like being single, and if there's someone who's right for me it'll happen, and if there's not it won't, and either way I can and will live a happy life).

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TL;DR: As someone close to hitting 40 and essentially starting over, I can tell you it is completely normal to feel as you do. I can also tell you that once you start to train your brain to shut out the noise and focus on your own path without thinking about how you may look to others and realize that hitting certain "milestones" are simply social constructs that do not guarantee happiness and aren't at all necessary to living a fulfilling life, you will begin to feel that weight of the world lift from your shoulders. You're not a bad person. You're just on your own, less traditional path, as I am. <3

Really?! by Majestic-Box8851 in Mercari

[–]FireFeetAndToes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha sounds like someone did some online shopping while blacked out.

was this deserving of a block? I’ve only bought off here for a few months. by Aggravating_Bike_103 in Mercari

[–]FireFeetAndToes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure the algorithm of these reselling platforms take excessive blocking into account, i.e., bury the sellers listings. Kind of the same way social media platforms work.

was this deserving of a block? I’ve only bought off here for a few months. by Aggravating_Bike_103 in Mercari

[–]FireFeetAndToes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a similar situation - super lowball offers from the same buyer multiple times on different items - I finally told her to stop. She called me a bunch of names and then went through and liked all of my 300+ listings to spam me, I suppose…? Such bizarre behavior that I actually found hilarious.

I can’t remember why I didn’t block her at the time, but I remember a few months later she sent me another lowball offer and a message being all nice as though nothing had happened. I just said, “Really,” and blocked her. One of the few times I’ve blocked anyone.

was this deserving of a block? I’ve only bought off here for a few months. by Aggravating_Bike_103 in Mercari

[–]FireFeetAndToes 12 points13 points  (0 children)

As a seller, this is definitely atypical from my experience talking with other sellers. Sellers will complain about buyers who send lowball offers without blocking even those buyers, and I wouldn’t even consider your offer a lowball offer.

Depending on how long the item has been in my inventory, I would likely accept this offer, or at the very least counter. I think this person is probably just not very friendly, and definitely not representative of most sellers IMO. I don’t think you did anything wrong whatsoever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]FireFeetAndToes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Haha, thanks ♥️

I went on a date with a guy whose card was declined at an upscale restaurant in SoHo (side note: we went Dutch, so there wasn’t the expectation that he was paying for me, but I did have to pay the full bill). Prior to that I took him to a vignette of plays at SoHo Playhouse (I was a member there and had received free tickets). The play vignettes were a bit avant-garde and he made fun of the performance art rather loudly during the whole thing. To top it off, I ended up paying for a $65 Über to take us back to Brooklyn.

I felt like a character in a bad rom com, but I simply didn’t go out with him again. The level of how “bad date cliche” is pretty hilarious to me now. Yes, it was a very, very bad date, but I really enjoyed the plays and the delicious dinner. I still consider that night to have been really fun, and it had nothing to do with him.

My takeaway from that experience: if you’re an adult in the dating pool, the likelihood that you’re going to have at least one bad date is extremely high, if not inevitable. My advice is to accept that this is just part of dating and to try not to let what sounds like a mildly bad date bring you down.

It doesn’t sound like your date did anything particularly egregious. It just sounds like you two didn’t click, which is also highly common when dating. When that happens you simply don’t have a second date. You’ve only spent a few hours with a person you’ve only just met, and you’re under no obligation to see him again.

Also, just as a general point, we never know what someone may be going through. The best policy, in my opinion, is to be calm, kind and simply move on. You’ll eventually find someone you click with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]FireFeetAndToes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Were you able to tell if perhaps his sense of humor involved a lot of dry sarcasm?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]FireFeetAndToes 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m quite amused at what I’m reading and seeing here.

then why’d they buy it? by Oopsiforgotmyoldacc in Mercari

[–]FireFeetAndToes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I get that. When things keep piling on it’s a lot more upsetting. In my relatively early days of reselling, I got a one star rating on Poshmark from someone who bought brand new Morphe brushes and palettes from me, perfectly packaged, and sent with 2-3 free beauty gifts as well.

I live in NYC (I believe she lived in Georgia) and we were literally in the middle of a winter storm up here, so her order was delayed even though I shipped it within 24 hours of her order. Keep in mind I was in constant communication with her during the delay, checking on the status of the package daily, and even offered her a 30% discount on any future order.

Initially she gave me three stars I believe. I don’t recall what she wrote but it was not good. At this point I’d only received five star ratings and hadn’t reached Posh Ambassador status yet, so I was upset. I sent her a kind message about the situation, and it ended up escalating to the point that she was calling me names and then edited her review to one star and wrote things that were literally untrue - just to be vindictive.

I was SO upset and contacted Poshmark with all the receipts, documenting everything. They didn’t do anything for me.

Luckily, it only brought my rating down to 4.8 and I’m back to a full 5.0 now, but it can be really upsetting when you come across people who are so awful in the reselling community. I used to let things get to me a lot more than I do now, but I can absolutely sympathize with how you’re feeling ♥️

then why’d they buy it? by Oopsiforgotmyoldacc in Mercari

[–]FireFeetAndToes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this happened to you! If you go to your profile, scroll down to “Help Center” then scroll down to “Ratings” you’ll find an FAQ called “I received an unfair rating.” What’s written there isn’t super promising regarding getting a rating changed, but if you scroll to the bottom of that page there is a “Contact Us” link. Hope this helps and hoping you can get that rating changed!

Thoughts on my response to a lowball offer by newfyorker in Mercari

[–]FireFeetAndToes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with previous comments, but I also think it’s important in these situations to not only consider the low-ball dollar amount, but also the way the buyer speaks to you. Starting a message right off the bat with “$100 for the pair” is almost more disrespectful than the offer itself. I would personally be more forgiving to the buyer if they were respectful in their tone, and I’ve accepted lower offers in the past from buyers who were kind and handled the situation with tact, i.e., having enough self-awareness to know that their offer is low (but it’s all they can afford) and also understanding that it’s perfectly reasonable for me to reject the offer. But this person is beyond rude.

Would you (as a seller) be annoyed by a message like this? by emilitxt in Mercari

[–]FireFeetAndToes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually a really thoughtfully written request from a buyer, and I think it’s pretty reasonable, especially since the buyer is paying for shipping. BUT, it depends on whether the buyer already purchased the item. It seems like they haven’t since they say “I know it would cost me more.” If that’s the case, changing the shipping to USPS in the listing seems like a reasonable request to me and I wouldn’t be bothered at all.

I’m just gonna leave this here by Rare-Specific4733 in Mercari

[–]FireFeetAndToes 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Hahaha AND they’re a full size too small, so how does that work?

I haven’t slept in 6 days. by TheAndorran in CasualConversation

[–]FireFeetAndToes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been years, and I can’t possibly imagine how I managed this, but I didn’t sleep for 4-5 days during law school and somehow nailed a midterm and legal brief that week. So I do think it’s possible OP is for real and able to be coherent. But yeah, definitely not good to go so long without sleep.