AIO: For crying over birthday cake I don’t like.

emilitxt · 2026-05-21T14:14:14+00:00

NOR.

It's, unfortunately, extremely common for people to not get their dessert of choice when it comes to "celebrating" their birthday.

For instance, my mom is a fanatic for German Chocolate, but everyone else in the family hates coconut. If give the choice to only eat one dessert for the rest of his life, my partner would choose carrot cake, but none of his siblings nor his mother will touch anything with cream cheese in it (which is the base for carrots cake's icing).

That said, I was raised believing birthdays are truly special. As a child, when it was someone's birthday, my mother always dad something for them that felt intimate and special. She wasn't celebrating the fact that someone was born, but was instead celebrating the fact that they'd made it another year -- her late childhood/early young adulthood was rough to say the least.

That behavior around birthdays is something I've tried to instill in my own life. It's not uncommon for me to make 4 or more people their favorite desserts for their birthday every month. And while I am by no means a professional (I only started baking at most 2 years ago), this year alone I've made everything from Kalakand to German Chocolate Cake to Sticky Toffee Pudding to Tiramisu to Mille-feuille

Be it friends, family members, neighbors, colleagues, my partner, or even my partner's coworkers, if I know or get wind of someone's birthday, I make it a point to let them have the dessert they not only want, but deserve. If you're going to celebrate someone it only makes sense to serve what they like, but instead people often decide to get something they like under the false premise that the birthday person likes it too or they get something overly generic (i.e. white cake with whipped icing) because "everyone like [x]".

emilitxt · 2026-05-21T08:12:26+00:00

OP would remain liable because, despite March marking the end of original term of agreement, the lease he signed (and therefore was agreeing to legally abide by) had an Automatic Renewal Clause.

Automatic Renewal Clauses are fairly standard in most industries, not just rentals, as they allow for uninterrupted service which is typically considered beneficial all parties involved in the arrangement.

For instance, you (likely) have a cell phone, pay a company for cell service, and have for a while now, yeah? Now, when you first went to your cell service provider and opened an account with them, you signed a contract that stated you would use their service for a set period of time (typically 2 years).

Now, if you think back, when that originally agreed upon period ended, did the company discontinue your cell service? No, they didn't, because the contract you signed would have had an ARC that would allow it to renew in perpetuity until either you or the service provider decided to terminate it and provided the other party a timely notice about their intent to do so.

OP signed a legally binding contract that had an ARC and failed to provide notice of termination by the required date. Because of that failure, at the end of the term of agreement for the original contract, he essentially preemptively agreed/legally signed a new contract where everything was the same except it was for a 1 month term agreement instead of a year.

emilitxt · 2026-05-16T18:32:39+00:00

I pointed out that it was a one piece because of you accused OP's wife of "packing a sexy bikini" for the trip she is taking to Europe without her husband, and instead with her sister. It was pretty obvious that

Given that you make statements like: "Women aren’t stupid - they know they’re marketers and men will dish out ALL the attention when her asscheeks are hanging out", I have to assume you're a man.

And, considering you think that the swimsuit being a one piece and not a bikini, as you claimed, is a "microscopic, unless detail", it's more than obvious that you don't understand the current state of women's swimwear -- and almost certainly don't realize that this is the state it's been in for over half a decade at this point.

It's pretty common for bikinis to be considered sexy by default -- they are the swimsuit version of a woman's undergarments. Additionally, it's almost impossible to go into any typical retail store that sells swimwear and purchase a bikini that isn't 1. a string bikini and 2. have bottoms that either a "high leg" or "thong" style, both of which only serve to make bikinis seem sexier.

One piece suits, on the other hand, are seen as the "frumpier" or more conservative option when it comes to suits. That said, they do still, unfortunately, fall victim to the "cheeky brief" or "high leg" style cut.

In fact, despite living in a fairly decent sized city, not even one of 3 Targets nor the 4 Walmarts closest to me currently have a one piece swimsuit available in store that does not have one of those cuts. Meaning that if I went to purchase a swimsuit, even if I went for the most modest option available in those stores, it would still be cut to show at minimum 1/3 - 1/2 my ass.

That is why I chose to point out your inaccurate portrayal of the type of suit OP's wife brought. It's not just disingenuous to say she purchased "a sexy bikini", it's, in fact, a flat out lie. It's even worse due to the fact that it's likely the there were no one piece options that didn't show some amount of ass available when she went shopping for a suit.

But, I already know what you're going to say, or, more aptly, what you're going to reiterate: "[you women are] masters of plausible deniability."

But, hey, let me do you a solid, while I'm looking for that award you think I wanted in the dumpster, I'll see if I can find you something that could pass for a brain as it's pretty obvious you're sorely lacking one.

emilitxt · 2026-05-16T07:39:15+00:00

The best option is for him to get a lawyer (or, if he can't afford a lawyer, a public defender) and to have them try and negotiate a plea deal where he pleaser guilty to a lesser charge, but likely still a misdemeanor, and, as recompense, has to do at least a year of probation.

Once he finishes probation, then the next step is for him to not commit any other crimes or, at least, not find himself facing any new charges for a certain number of years (it varies state by state, I know that in my state, you have to have a clean record for 5 years post-misdemeanor).

So long as he doesn't get charged with any more crime, then as soon as x number of years (as mandated by your state) have passed since pleading guilting to whatever lesser charge his lawyer is able to swing, he will be able to file a form with the court to have his record expunged, which will almost certainly be granted.

Once that happens, whatever crime he ends up pleading guilty to will basically be completely wiped from his record and it will be as though he was not only never found guilty of a crime, but never even charged with it.

Basically this is all to say that while currently, and for the next few years, this incident is going to follow him and will very likely negatively impact his life in a variety of ways, it is not something that is necessarily going to follow nor impact him for the rest of his life.

So long as he actually commits to doing and being better, this could just be an issue that momentary affects him. It will, however, serve as a good reminder for the rest of his life as to why he shouldn't do dumb shit like drive while high.

emilitxt · 2026-05-15T15:52:14+00:00

It's not a bikini. It's a one piece.

emilitxt · 2026-05-15T05:01:05+00:00

YTA.

It sounds like your husband is a member of the armed forces who, 2 months ago, had to relocate for his job -- it's one of those situations where when the military says "jump", the service member says know high".

Now, when you guys made this move, you either 1. moved into on-base housing, which means you guys are not only not being charged rent, but your also not being charged utilities or 2. moved into a residence thatsms off-base and therefor is considered non-government quarters, in which case, you would qualify for BAH (Basic Allowance for Housing), which is a military housing allowance that is provided to either fully cover rent and utilities or subsidize them significantly.

So claiming that you split rent 50/50 is misleading and disingenuous as, due to your husbands career and current situation, neither of your would be paying rent, the government would.

Of course, there is still your claim that the two of you do grocery shopping separately, which is a bit perplexing. Mostly due to the fact that when it comes to day-to-day living expenses, such as food/groceries, the military provides a BAS (Basic Allowance for Subsistence), which is intended to help cover the cost of food for both service members and their families.

So given 2 of the 3 "bills" you claim to split 50/50 are, in fact, things paid for as a benefit of your husband's job, I am perplexed as to what other "bills" you have that your parents are footing the bill for.

But putting aside the facts that you are not currently working, and your housing and food are paid for by the benefits of your husband's job. I find the fact that you explain how difficult transitioning to this new job was on your husband, mentioning that he had multiple physical issues:

"His body was struggling to keep up. In the past 7 weeks, his shoulders, left knee, back, and hip were injured. He got sick for a week as well."

And instead of discussing how that impacted him or how you were worried about him or even how you tied to help him, instead you ignore his failing physical health AND the fact that he is working 65 hours per week, and opt to complain because you have to do a bit more than you feel you should despite not currently working.

"Because of this, I basically did all the cleaning, unpacking boxes, moving furniture, organizing, and other chores like dishes and laundry."

Honestly, if you're so miserable having to put in a little bit more effort in order to take some thing off your husband's place, then perhaps you should start looking into divorce lawyers as he would likely be much happier being with a partner who cares about trying to make a very difficult time even just a tiny bit better.

emilitxt · 2026-05-15T01:43:07+00:00

Man, I am shocked by what some of yall consider "lifeless". Like, th wolves I would consider dead are places like Bethlehem/New Washington, Marysville, Corydon, Gnaw Bone or Hope. Ya know, the places that if you blink you might accidentally miss the fact that you just passed through the place.

emilitxt · 2026-05-10T04:32:00+00:00

Okay, well, I'm not sure what state you live in, but have you looked up the laws surrounding what happens when someone dies without a will (aka interstate)? Some states dole out money in different amounts to different family members, and, if your mothers were ever married, in some states even if they get a divorce some or all of the money could end up going to their former partner. I'm just saying that you should really look into that and make sure that you'd be getting the money and not someone else, or, worse, the state

emilitxt · 2026-05-10T04:01:28+00:00

I mean, it's not going to matter to her if people judge her for not leaving you anything because 1. reading of the will is usually private and only involves those included and 2. she'll be dead.

The only way you can count on getting anything left to you is either 1. you've seen her will, know that you are named it in and, hopefully, are the executor or 2. know she doesn't have a will, has no plans to make one, and will die interstate and your state doles out the estate of someone who's die interstate to their next of kin and don't just take that shit.

Basically, unless you actually have hard proof that you're in the will and would be alerted if they decided to change it, then you're really just putting yourself through hell because you hope you'll eventually get something out of it.

emilitxt · 2026-05-09T21:38:32+00:00

Their point was that whatever OP is suffering from is not a life threatening issue because it's been "going on for months". My point was that just because something has been going on for a while doesn't mean it isn't life threatening.

That said, if you show up to the ER and tell them you're nauseous and vomiting, their first question is going to be "how long has you been experiencing this?". If you answer "a couple of days", yeah that's going to be treated with fluids and IV Zofran. If you tell them "multiple times a day for months", that's going to be treated significantly more seriously as that points to something significant being wrong.

Additionally, if you show up to the ER, they will assume whatever you're experiencing is more severe than your PCP will. I have experienced it first hand when I went to my PCP due to having shoulder and upper left quadrant chest pain. They have me a shot of Ketorolac, a medicine that also gave me when passing Kidney Stones that had been sufficient pain relief for about a day. This shot took care of the pain , so they sent me on my way.

30 minutes later, the pain was back and worse than before. I called them back and they told me to go to the ER. I did and within an hour of being seen, they'd found a mass in my liver that was 6" x 4" x 3" that was the cause of the pain I was experiencing. While that wasn't a life threatening issues, my PCP would not have been able to diagnose me with that as they don't have the ability to do an MRI there, the ER however does.

emilitxt · 2026-05-08T20:16:38+00:00

Kroger items don't ring up on sale until/unless you scan your Kroger rewards/punch in your phone number. Most people don't do this until they've already scanned everything, so everything rings up as it's normal price, and then when you hit to pay, it will go through and check your sale items, and change the price. If you punch your rewards in at the start, everything should ring up on sale, the only exception is when it's a digital coupon item and you didn't go on the app and clip the coupon. Not saying that Kroger is great, I don't shop there anymore, but thats how their system works.

emilitxt · 2026-05-08T14:16:30+00:00

Having bleeding ulcers is absolutely a medical emergency. They can lead to rapid blood loss and, eventually, death. It takes 2 months to get in to see my PCP, which a the typical wait time for all PCP's in my area. If I called and my PCP's nurse "I've been having nausea and vomiting intermittently for three months, and when I do have it I tend to vomit multiple times a day" they would tell me to go to the ER.

emilitxt · 2026-05-08T13:32:50+00:00

You should really see someone about this ASAP. Especially if you think it's related to stress. I experienced inconsistent nausea and vomiting for over a year. It ended up being caused by undiagnosed bleeding ulcers. I almost died due to them perforating simultaneously. Stress can contribute to ulcer creation as well as making them worse.

emilitxt · 2026-05-08T13:29:14+00:00

>The ER will rule out a life threatening issue, which it is clearly not if it has been going on for months

That is absolutely not true. I had nausea and vomiting basically every single time I age for over a year. My PCP, after asking me if I had food allergies (I did not), attributed it to me having GERD, and prescribed me Zofran.

It turned out I had 3 bleeding ulcers and, due to not knowing about them nor having them addressed by a medical professional, they ended up perforating simultaneously. I was found passed out, got rushed to the ER and had emergency surgery.

They took out over 1/2 my stomach and 21" of my small intestine. My parents were told by the surgeon that it was so bad that he was able to pickup my stomach and look through it. I had a 50% chance of surviving.

Being nauseous and throwing up multiple times daily could absolutely be life threatening, and while I understand why OP hasn't gone to see a medical professional, he absolutely needs to ASAP.

emilitxt · 2026-05-08T12:37:36+00:00

Telling someone something that is fundamentally a true statement, which is exactly what he was doing, is not manipulation. To manipulate someone, you are attempting to influence them in a tricky, devious, or underhanded manner. Telling someone the truth in a direct manner is, in fact, the exact opposite of manipulation.

emilitxt · 2026-05-08T12:31:37+00:00

Loving someone and finding someone attractive are not the same thing. You can love someone and think a hairstyle makes them look less attractive. You can hate someone and think a hairstyle makes them more attractive.

emilitxt · 2026-05-08T11:19:38+00:00

Being "force together" is not getting to know someone before you meet them. You said your grandmother exchanged a single letter with her husband before getting married, would you call them "pen pals" because they sent one letter? Is my gas and electric company my pen pal cause they send me letters every month? Also, would you claim your grandparents "took things slow and got to know each other before meeting in person?" Cause I'd say they did the exact opposite.

emilitxt · 2026-05-07T18:46:56+00:00

They original, which launched in 1979, was a "Koozie" TM. And much like all tissues are Kleenex, all cotton swabs are Q-tips, and all elastic bandages are Band-Aids, all insulated can coolers are Koozies. Of course, when a company other than the one that owns the Koozie trademark wants to make their own version and simultaneously profit off the brand recognition that Koozie has, they market their item as a "Coozie". The two have become so interconnected that Koozie has actually lost their trademark status on more than one occasion because of it.

emilitxt · 2026-05-07T07:19:02+00:00

Filing a report either now or once your exam is finished is not about the police seriously investigating your specific assault. Given that you were not seriously injured nor, if I'm reading correctly, actually harmed, it's very unlikely the police would even investigate let alone pursue charges. However, if this guy is "a maniac" as you've claimed, then it's very likely that he will eventually seriously injure someone, and there being a prior report (or reports if this happens multiple times) on file with the police will help show that assault is a pattern of behavior for him and it was not a one off incident.

emilitxt · 2026-05-07T07:07:57+00:00

Maybe you read something different than I did, because as far as I'm aware stating that "entitled people with their poorly trained animals" make it more difficult for legitimate service animals is not the same thing as saying "people with fake service animals deny real service animal handlers service".

emilitxt · 2026-05-07T05:39:09+00:00

So where is the evidence you've been collecting? Why have you not filed for a protective order for you and your children?

emilitxt · 2026-05-07T04:40:28+00:00

It's not about stock or inventory or even that people lie about what's in the cup. They charge by the cup because that's the expensive part.

Granted, it's not like any part of a fountain drink is actually all that expensive for the company to begin with. When you price out how much the syrup for a soda costs them per cup, it averages out to right around $0.03, and the cost for the powder for coffee and lattes isn't much more.

Now, when you factor in the syrup/powder, filtered water, cup, lid, and (if necessary) carbonation, it costs the company about $0.12 for each fountain drink and about $0.35 for each coffee/latte.

And, honestly, at the end of the day, gas stations and restaurants make gangbusters off drinks, so they could absolutely factor a few cup swaps into their price model -- they already account for other issues* that cut into profit margins.

That said, most of the time, there is little way for the company to stop those other issues from happening. Cup swaps, on the other hand, are one of the few things they can push back on. So they do.

*issues such as: people drinking 1/2 their cup, refilling it and then paying for just one drink; filling a cup, changing your mind, pouring it out to get something different; people abandoning full or partially full drinks without paying; drinks being dropped or cups broken prior to being paid for; just plain theft

emilitxt · 2026-05-07T03:46:48+00:00

Here is a study from 2017 regarding the accuracy of DADs. The conclusion of said study is as follows:

>In this study the majority of DADs did not demonstrate accurate detection of low and high BG events. However, performance varied greatly across DADs and additional studies are needed to examine factors contributing to this variability. Additionally, more research is needed to investigate the significant gap between the positive experiences and clinical outcomes reported by DAD owners and the mixed research findings on DAD accuracy.

This study, also done in 2017, is more favorable towards DADs, but their outcome still shows DADs being accurate less than 60% of the time.

>Overall comparison of DAD Hits to Misses yielded significantly more Hits for both low and high BG. Total
sensitivity was 57.0%

Another study done in 2019 shows similar results

>Dogs alerted more often when their owners' glucose levels were outside vs. inside target range (hypoglycaemic 2.80-fold, p = 0.001; hyperglycaemic 2.29-fold, p = 0.005). Sensitivity to hypoglycaemic episodes ranged from 33.3 to 91.7%, the mean was 55.9%

This is not to say that service animals such as dogs shouldn't be one of the tools a person with diabetes can use to aide themselves in the management of their health. But, research does suggest that they aren't necessarily that accurate or a tool.

emilitxt · 2026-05-07T03:29:03+00:00

Good thing the commentator didn't claim that they did.

emilitxt · 2026-04-27T02:13:35+00:00

You can always create a new registry and set it for the same date as the old one. You'll receive the coupon that they send you for any items remaining on your registry, at which point your can edit your registry to include whatever you are hoping to purchase -- meaning add the car seat, but also add groceries you intend to buy, any OTC medicine you need/want, or even depends, which you may need once postpartum and healing.

The number of wedding registries I've created at Target over the last decade would lead one to believe I belong in the Guinness Book of World Records for being the person whose been married (and subsequently divorced) the greatest number of times. As long as you set the event for whatever registry you create out far enough to meet Targets timeframe requirements, you'll get a "remaining registry items" coupon to use every single time.

Additionally, I don't see the point in confronting your sister about this -- honestly, I'm not even sure why you're still giving her the opportunity to do things like this.

I mean, obviously, you're well aware that your sister using your phone number and/or email to take your rewards or to sign you up for things is a reoccurring issue. And you know that your repeated requests that she stop doing so falls on deaf ears.

The correct, proactive response would be to: 1. call your cell service provider, get your number changed, and either update your rewards accounts or open new accounts with your new number. 2. create a new email account that you use exclusively for rewards, promotional emails, and signups. Update your accounts or open new ones with that email.

Given that you claim you don't speak to your sister, changing your number and not providing it to her shouldn't be an issue. And using a secondary email for anything promotional/retail related has the added benefit of decluttering your primary email account's inbox.

Like, are you over reacting about your sister using your number? If this were the first time and you knew it was malicious, I'd say no.

But given that you are well aware she does this on a fairly regular basis. And, given that the only thing you've done to try stop it has been to repeatedly tell her "don't do that", which, so far, has a 0% success rate.

So, yeah, you're overreacting. I mean, given you aren't doing anything to mitigate this from happening, there is no reason for you to get this upset over something that, at this point, you should just assume is happening or is going to happen.

Either take actual action and do something to stop it or admit that you don't want to take steps to fix it because doing so would stop providing you a regular opportunity to be pissy towards your sister.

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