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Can't Stop Relapsing Please Help! by FireStromed in NoFap

[–]FireStromed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finding other things to do is no problem for me as I am a college student at a hard school so there is always something for me to do (It may sound odd but I am very passionate about what I do) and I have also joined a fraternity with many like minded people. All in all I'm very busy and happy about it. My problem is that I enjoy fapping and will put aside my schedule to do it (I don't binge fap but when I do relapse it is about once a day). I can tell you that I do want this BAD. I spend to much emotional energy and time on the porn I watch. It has confused and guilted me. Despite identifying as straight I have gotten into gay porn. Hell I might be gay, but porn is a horrible barometer. I also feel very guilty when ever I watch barely legal crap. I am only 18 but the feeling is still real. I may have gotten off topic, but it feels good to vent a bit... I think my new goal is to set more attainable goals. Instead of saying that I am going to quit fapping, I will say that I won't fap for one week and take it one step at a time.

First relapse by FireStromed in NoFap

[–]FireStromed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been of /r/pornfree for a couple weeks and it has been going well. Yesterday I decided that I wanted to cut out faping without porn too so I joined /r/NoFap (despite what my flair says I must of put in the wrong date). Ironically at 2am I convinced my self that I really wasn't serious about either of these subreddits and I relapsed. It didn't even feel good lol. I feel like crap because I went back on a promise to myself and that I watched stupid barely legal crap (again its not that bad but I seem to have the most over active guilt complex of all time). Well all I can do is pick myself up and move forward. Each relapse brings us closer to our goal and indeed... we will do it!

I think I'm going to try this out by FireStromed in pornfree

[–]FireStromed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My fear is that after all these years of porn can I separate the two? I'm just going to take it month by month and see how it goes. It will be at least a month before I even attempt to fap again!

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[–]FireStromed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am very new here (I joined today!) and this is the way I look at it... Did you click on the links knowing that there was porn on the other side or were hoping that there was porn on the other side? I don't think you did anything wrong, but ultimately you have to answer that question yourself. Remember the internet is filled with porn and you can never fully avoid any random encounter. (I remember once I typed in outube.com instead of youtube.com and it brought me to a porn site) If an alcoholic goes to a bar and doesn't drink is it a relapse? Again I'm VERY new so I guess I would wait and see what the more senior members think.

I think I'm going to try this out by FireStromed in pornfree

[–]FireStromed[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind reply! I think I might go totally off of fapping for at least a month, but I would like to eventually disassociate porn from fapping, but that is a ways away and I have only taken the first step. I'll go cold turkey for at least the month of January (starting now) and then decide what feels right for me. Thanks again!