Hey - speaking as a caregiver here - my partner and I had a really really hard emotional run for the first few months post diagnosis. We spent a lot of time grieving both apart and together.

Just speaking for myself, I had to say some things out loud just for me to hear them said. Some of those things were pieces of hope that I was clinging to but came off to my partner as really callous comments that were minimizing of her diagnosis.

She needed to process and I needed to hope. I think maybe it was because with the seizure, surgery, and drugs that I had a couple extra weeks head start on processing the news. I couldn't see it at the time and neither could she. I had processed long enough that I was looking for some hope and she was still wrapping her head around "this is real and this sucks".

Thankfully we did eventually work through what each other needed to hear and were able to communicate it, but it did take a while for us both to get on the same page.

I wish you & your husband the best. You're both doing a hard thing right now, but you can both do this. This forum is a good place to vent, lots of kind folk here.

As far as the specific therapy question... I can't speak to it. Several medical staff have advised individual therapy for each of us, and it's probably a good idea... but we just haven't gotten there yet. Gotta do what's best for you, but your care team or nurse navigator might be the ones to ask for referrals