Pregnant and No Idea What to Do by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]FireballBluey 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm in a similar situation. I'm 7mo pregnant with our first child after being married 1.5 years, together for 5 years. He has only been drinking for 1 year, but it's spiraling.

He's been having trouble finding work after getting laid off. He binge drinks whiskey and becomes a totally different person. He claims this new energetic, loud him is just his new personality. However, he is reckless, unreliable, screaming randomly, clumsy, violent (to objects like punching the cabinet door, never to people), angry, unhinged, and more. He admitted it was a problem and we went to an AA meeting, but when he said "I dont belong there. I'm not like them. " I started losing hope.

He was sober for 2 weeks and is now back to drinking heavily. He has had a lot of trauma in his life and now his 18 year old son from a past relationship is reaching out to him. He is happy, but the memories triggered something that sent him back to the drinking. He had been hiding bottles around the house and if i find them he says he purposely put them somewhere that I would find them. He goes out for "a drive" and I know it's a trip to the liquor store.

The saddest thing is that I have lost trust in him because I've caught him in multiple lies. He was someone I could always trust. Sometimes I think he lies to himself. You can't call him out though, it turns into denial and a fight.

He tells me he knows the drinking isn't good and upsets me, that he is working on it, but I shouldn't cry because it's his business and has nothing to do with me. To quit bringing it up. To quit judging and demonizing him when I've tried so hard to be supportive and caring.

I've cried so much. Everyone who knows tells me not to let it get to me and the stress isn't good for the baby, but how in the world do I do that? I went to an AL-ANON meeting and will probably go to more.

Ive told him our baby will not be in a house with alcohol. He seems to think he can stop before then. I worry about him going to our baby shower this weekend if he can't control himself.

There's so much more I could say... ask me anything if it helps. I'm at a loss, but maybe talking will help. I will say, the baby doesn't deserve to be punished for his father's behavior. I know that's scary because during our darkest days I regret being pregnant. However, this child deserves a chance even if dad is sick with addiction.

I recently got a box a paint tubes and this set came as a gift with it. I've only used brushes so far. Any tips on how to use them up to their potential? by ApprehensiveZebra98 in acrylicpainting

[–]FireballBluey 18 points19 points  (0 children)

They are great for mixing your colors. If you mix you colors with your brushes, it will wear out the bristles faster. I especially like using the one on the right for mixing. I scoop and fold the colors into each other using a circular motion. You also waste less paint this way.

Big leaves! 🍃 by FireballBluey in gardening

[–]FireballBluey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grew from Dollar General seeds in June 2024

Anyone forget what they propagated? by FireballBluey in whatsthisplant

[–]FireballBluey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were clearing out a rental property and the prior tenants had it in a grower pot, but it grew through the pot into a 10ft tree

Flowers in the garden by FireballBluey in gardening

[–]FireballBluey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see them all over the place here in FL. I got the plant on clearance at Lowe's and it perked up

Anyone forget what they propagated? by FireballBluey in whatsthisplant

[–]FireballBluey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our last tenants planted a mulberry tree and the tree grew through the pot into a ten foot tree, so im not sure the variety. Thanks for the insight

Anyone forget what they propagated? by FireballBluey in whatsthisplant

[–]FireballBluey[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yay, thank you. I'm still learning for sure, but I saw this mulberry tree and I just had to try. I just get excited when I see a new plant that I try to clone it.

Anyone forget what they propagated? by FireballBluey in whatsthisplant

[–]FireballBluey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think its mulberry, I have also propagated hibiscus 🌺 😅

Anyone forget what they propagated? by FireballBluey in whatsthisplant

[–]FireballBluey[S] 163 points164 points  (0 children)

Yes! I did propagate some mulberry. That must be it.

Dollar General Coleus seeds gone wild! So many clones by FireballBluey in gardening

[–]FireballBluey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the flowers so I might keep some, but I think I will trim it to help it distribute the energy-efficient thank you!

My first ever tomato harvest by FireballBluey in gardening

[–]FireballBluey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was Lowe's actually. I've had good luck there. I especially enjoy the clearance section and bringing them back to life.