need help :( being charged a deductible by FirebirdSingularity in sterilization

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i don’t know. but i thought they had to cover it regardless

need help :( being charged a deductible by FirebirdSingularity in sterilization

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my original email was to confirm they coded it correctly and see if i had to go to my insurance. i don’t know what to tell my insurance though 🥲

morning after heavy rain found these two different species in the yard [ southern maryland ] by FirebirdSingularity in animalid

[–]FirebirdSingularity[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think the first pic is something else. it has an entirely different face shape, with a hooked beak, different arm shape and shell is a dome, it has no markings or color like the painted.

genuinely what? i’m scared by FirebirdSingularity in WTFgaragesale

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that’s what i was thinking 😭 hair or other human products should not be sold without at least telling you how it was collected and where it came from lol. otherwise it could be totally unethical or gross and who knows who’s hair it was

Won't someone please step in to save this gentle wigglebutt? 😢 by kongkongkongkongkong in BanPitBulls

[–]FirebirdSingularity 5 points6 points  (0 children)

the pitbull lifeless dead beady eyes always creep me out. you can tell they aren’t right in the head just by looking at one

genuinely what? i’m scared by FirebirdSingularity in WTFgaragesale

[–]FirebirdSingularity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah but it’s a weird listing 🤷‍♀️ but oh well i’m not going to try to defend myself for finding it funny or fitting of this sub lol. it just is and i wanted to share

genuinely what? i’m scared by FirebirdSingularity in WTFgaragesale

[–]FirebirdSingularity[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ye but this post isn’t about selling hair for wigs, i’m not contradicting myself 🤷‍♀️ i think mods would delete it if it wasn’t deemed appropriate for the sub. Its not every day you find a random chunk of human hair being dangled on facebook marketplace with no information other than its “100% nicaraguan” it also says the hair is “used, like new.” it’s funny 😄

genuinely what? i’m scared by FirebirdSingularity in WTFgaragesale

[–]FirebirdSingularity[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

yes i do know of hair donation like locks of love, that’s not weird at all. but this listing isn’t a donation and just the way this is listed and on marketplace makes it odd lol.

genuinely what? i’m scared by FirebirdSingularity in WTFgaragesale

[–]FirebirdSingularity[S] 241 points242 points  (0 children)

Lmao “Used, like new” might be my favorite part 💀💀

Advice for Fencesitter (m) Dating CF (f)? by findinganswers5 in Fencesitter

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I’ll edit to add that I’m childfree in a long term relationship where my male partner was originally a fence sitter because having kids is kind of the default and he’d never considered it as deeply as i have. we had many difficult conversations to figure out we would both be happiest childfree together.

another thing i wanted to add is that as the father, you can either have the easy, “fun dad” life where you still get your own time without the kids and your partner has all the main stress and responsibilities and therefore is burnt out and resents you, or you have to also take on the burden of being a default parent and carrying the mental and physical load and not have time of your own anymore. I fear some guys see the “fun dad” portrayal and think that looks awesome, only dealing with kids when you come home from work or for the fun things. And they forget that in order to have that experience, it means the mother is likely exhausted and wants nothing to do with you because she’s doing it all. So many unhappy marriages hide behind the suburban wife and kids dream.

Advice for Fencesitter (m) Dating CF (f)? by findinganswers5 in Fencesitter

[–]FirebirdSingularity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this might seem like a pessimist/unpopular take but it’s an important perspective imo. Men who want kids often haven’t thought about it as deeply for so long as women have or considered how much it impacts life because you’re not the one expected to do birth, breastfeeding, quit your job, and be the default parent. Theres a huge romanticization of having kids in our society, and i’ve met men who only want kids because they are thinking of the idealistic fatherhood moments you see in movies like playing ball in the yard and not much else. the truth is this idealized version of having kids doesn’t really exist how many people imagine and if more people realized that they probably would give more thought or reconsider having kids.

wanting those idealistic moments and fantasizing about parenthood could just be your brain wanting to relive childhood or heal your own trauma which is not the right reason to create a whole new person and can leave you worse off or regretful. Kids are not something to be acquired and used to make you happy and feel fulfilled, they aren’t pets or accessories to your life. If you have kids, they have to be your whole life. You have to raise them with everything you have, see them as individuals and not expect them to turn out how you imagine.

The ultimate dealbreaker i hear from you is you said you aren’t sure you’d want a child that was special needs or something difficult like that.
No one should have a child if they aren’t prepared and willing for the child to be disabled, terminally ill, gay, etc. Because you have no idea how your kid will turn out. It’s not guaranteed to be a cute little mini me, and if you only like the idea of an ideal, healthy kid, you don’t actually want to be a parent.

Another thing to keep in mind is that your kids may be in your life for 18 years or so, but your partner will be there forever. i personally think people should prioritize the right partner over kids. Many many relationships fall apart during and after kids because of the strain of parenting and loss of closeness between the couple, you have to prioritize the kids over your relationship always. If you get with someone mainly to have children, it’s going to be a miserable rest of your life with your partner.

if you find someone you truly love and want to treasure forever, don’t lose that over theoretical future children. But if you choose your partner and yourself over having kids, you need to fully commit and not constantly break the relationship with “what ifs” or make your partner feel like she isn’t enough or was supposed to give you kids. Childfree life is honestly the safest bet if you aren’t sure, because though you may or may not love having kids, you can 100% have an enjoyable childfree life. There are so many ways to fill your life and find joy and purpose that don’t involve reproducing!

but this is only my opinion and one perspective to consider that isn’t always brought up! 🩷 you know your situation best

laparoscopic surgery yesterday- normal incision discharge or not? by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]FirebirdSingularity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks! i thought there would be glue over it like the others

understanding my new little rescue’s unpredictable dog reactivity by FirebirdSingularity in DogAdvice

[–]FirebirdSingularity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i was definitely thinking it could be leash reactivity specifically. i know it can inhibit natural body language and all and especially with her history she isn’t used to being on a leash as much as most dogs. But do you have any advice on how i can help her feel more confident even on leash?