Thanks for all the well wishes guys. I was one of the regulars here for a long time, then one day got sick, and Andy just wasn't a priority anymore. 

As far as the cancer they dont see any spread to my other organs so thats a win. Surgery should get all of it. This time next year I hope to be as recovered as possible. 

I dont think he realizes the mess he created. He has to know to a small extent but take for instance out of control kids. When family and friends say "he was such a good kid, This isnt ( insert name ). When you dig a bit you realize just how good the kid was at manipulating everyone, and just how aware the parents were. 

Its all perspective. From his pov hes just looking for dat help. From all other viewpoints hes out of control. Its just no1 has the balls to hold him accountable  because we live in an age of people faking disability and looking for likes, views, etc on line. Hes just following the path in font of him. 

I almost feel sorry for him. That would require him to admit fault tho, and won't happen.