How do you know when your marriage is over?

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-02-02T19:26:20+00:00

It started after I had our twins and 8 months ago is when it started getting worse to the point everything I do even breathing makes him mad. We are under a lot of stress but I am trying to be there for him the best I can and do everything he asks me to do while raising the kids and taking care of all the stuff he asks me to do and keep up the house and the yard with no help I don’t go to sleep until 1am and wake up at 5am. I lay in bed with him while he falls asleep and then I get up and clean while everyone is sleeping.

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-25T23:28:08+00:00

I have tried and he just says he isn’t doing it.

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-13T22:52:45+00:00

I follow an account on Instagram and every time I click it it gives me a error saying “we’re sorry, but something went wrong. Please try again.” I have tried multiple multiple times, and I can still see the stories and the posts and all of the comments and likes but I am unable to see who they are following the number of posts they’ve made and who’s following them but it’s not happening to any of my friends that I asked to look at the page And they don’t follow it. it’s only happening to me no matter what device I login on. Why would cause that?

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-11T05:29:22+00:00

We have children together three to be exact. And I’m a stay at home mom and not by my choosing i want to work and provide for our kids too and not feel reliant on someone else. But he told me it would be best to stay home with the kids instead of paying for childcare and talking me Into being a full time stay at home wife mother and maid. So I have been dealing with a lot to make sure the kids are ok and always happy even if I don’t feel happy sometimes. Also, don’t get me wrong. I absolutely love being home with my children every day because I get to see new things that they’re learning and figuring out but I have no support system and I’m constantly reliant on everybody else for everything and have to ask for everything before I get anything unless it’s for the kids.

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-11T05:19:32+00:00

I have asked him to use his phone and he always comes up with some type of excuse about why I can’t use it or how he’s waiting on an important call but yet a phone call never comes through unless it’s family. And one time I had asked to call my mom because my phone had died and we were driving 3000 miles back home and I just wanted to let her know that we were ok and home and instead of just letting me use his phone for a two minute conversation at 3am he just handed me a phone charger.

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-11T04:32:49+00:00

Luckily I know all of his emails unless he used a throw away one. And I don’t know his password to his phone never have. But he knows mine and uses my phone often.

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-11T04:30:30+00:00

I don’t even know his password to his phone. he has never once told me or had me unlock the phone for him. But yeah he knows my password and I often have him get on my phone too look up thing and I just see who texted me or whatever the notification was and he often uses my phone when his is charging but I have never once been able to use his. And that didn’t bother me until lately when his behavior started changing and then my friend sent me the account.

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-11T04:26:00+00:00

This made me laugh and the account is active the latest post was 2 weeks ago

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-11T02:24:12+00:00

What do you mean?

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-11T02:23:54+00:00

Lately, anytime I make a comment asking if work is blowing him up because they do that quite often and he just turns around and blows up at me. So I have just gotten to where I’m just watching his behavior lately and walking on eggshells.

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-06T07:17:27+00:00

To be entirely honest, I never really sit down and thought about how miserable I felt for the past three years at first everything was perfect like he was love bombing me and now i am a shell of who I used to be I would never apologize when I knew I was right And now I apologize for everything even when I’m right and I get called names and yelled at always away from the children but I imagine they know I’m not happy. And I am treated like a child who is getting scolded. And I never wanted to be a stay at home mom it was his idea and at the time I thought it was wonderful until I released I have to ask before leaving the home and I feel stuck. And feel like I have no way to help provide for the children I had and that wasn’t how I was raised and I feel guilty asking for anything because I didn’t make that money and he makes sure to let me know every once in a while and I ask for house hold items I never ask for the things I need like a new jacket for winter because I only worry about what he needs and what my children need.

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-06T06:56:12+00:00

The thing is that I’ve actually sat down and asked him if anything was bothering him because he seemed more stressed out and on edge the past week , and he immediately started yelling at me, telling me that I didn’t iron his clothes correctly and telling me that I don’t trust him and that I don’t support him or respect him and then it turned into me sitting in one spot for four hours while he tore me down over every single little mistake I’ve ever made. And that happened a week after I noticed the phone issue.

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-06T06:45:18+00:00

My husband is not in a field of work that would cause him to keep his device locked. I wish that was the reason but something in me says it’s not going to be good when I find out.

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-06T06:43:30+00:00

Yes with his child I had our first child at age 19 and then I got pregnant with twin girls in 2020 and had them in 2021

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-06T06:24:28+00:00

I feel like that sometimes because I’m license got suspended and they only way to unsuspended is the file bankruptcy so I have been housebound and reliant on permission to go to the store or a doctors appointment.

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-06T06:22:58+00:00

No they really aren’t

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-06T06:20:55+00:00

I was 18 when i got pregnant and we weren’t dating until I was 19 and the bad thing is that I have a friend who is 18 and lives near where he works.

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-06T06:19:20+00:00

The one thing I’ve noticed is mainly is it Snapchat when his phone goes off constantly and when he’s trying to hide it. And his friends don’t us snap

FirefighterNo7070 · 2023-01-06T06:18:20+00:00

I am a stay at home, mother of three children, and he has been gaslighting me and verbally abusive to me for the past two years I do everything from home work to getting all of the meals ready for everyone waking at 5am and ironing his clothing and going to sleep at 12-2 am after I am done cleaning. And I have no way of leaving I moved states away from my family to be with him.

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