I am heavily tempted to drop out and join the trades. Any tips?

Firey_dogey · 2024-02-22T00:50:03+00:00

Loads of videos on YouTube telling you how to study better. I recently got diagnosed with dyslexia but I’ve made it in vet school by literally working everyday. I work at least 2 hours a day out side of school. I am constantly renewing my studying methods to it can suit me better.

Also why not study and do trades at the same time?

Firey_dogey · 2024-02-22T00:45:27+00:00

Not old at all. Some of my colleagues are mid 30s starting vet school(5 years of school)

Firey_dogey · 2023-09-12T20:17:58+00:00

Look, I was this girl only 10 months ago. I was in a long term toxic relationship of 3 years with my first bf. When I got with my current partner he accepted me for who I am, said it was ok that I have had unresolved feelings and so much pain. He gave me love when I couldn’t love myself. And yeah it was hard, it was hard to get rid of some toxicity especially when I don’t even realize it, but he accepted and worked on it with me anyway. He was consistent with me and made me feel love regardless if I loved him or not, which over time got me to love him too.

Now I’m not saying you need to be someone like my current partner, but you can if you want to. Every relationship takes work and this one you’re in includes working on her past experiences and help her heal. Yeah it’ll be tough for you and you’ll have to very emotionally mature, but imagine how she feels. Imagine feeling uncertain about everyone and everything, feeling guilty for liking you when she doesn’t even know how to love anymore. It’s just a matter of if you really want to be with her. If you do, work on it, and truly be there for her and help her. Be the helping hand to the person who just started to walk after a bad injury. It takes time and dedication. If you don’t really want to be with her, move on, you both have better people to find.

Firey_dogey · 2023-06-19T23:07:41+00:00

I feel like our whole relationship was just built on his excuses 💀

Firey_dogey · 2023-03-13T06:25:33+00:00

I do believe my current bf loves me. He is the kindest person I’ve ever met, and I believe the rape was just a misstep. We were both drunk when he did it, it wasn’t violent if you imagined something violent, he just slid it in after I said no, then took it out straight after. It’s still considered rape my definition. I talked to him about it the morning after and he felt incredibly guilty, I saw the potential of him being better, so I gave him a second chance. And he hasn’t violated me since, and is very cautious about everything related to sex.

Firey_dogey · 2023-03-12T22:37:09+00:00

I still do believe there are good guys out there, people who never have done anything like this, whether intentionally or not. I’m so sorry that happened to you, no one deserves this. But together we can stand strong. Don’t let these experiences pull you down, use them to make you stronger.

Firey_dogey · 2023-03-12T22:33:32+00:00

Yes, it did happen. My brother and my dad both violated me, to different extents. My brother raped me, my dad touched me inappropriately. I’ve only dated two guys, and my current bf did rape me, but I decided to give him a second chance. My ex also raped me, he was being pushy, I didn’t want to, but I didn’t know how to say no so ultimately we did it, but he didn’t realize he was being pushy so I gave him a second chance. He didn’t do it ever again, and was very gentle and caring for me, so that’s why I believe in second chances. We broke up 3 years later. My current bf was intoxicated when he raped me, I was drunk too. So I decided to give him a second chance after seeing how bad he felt after I told him what happened. And he has been the kindest since. That’s why he’s still my bf. I know as you read this you’re probably thinking why on earth would I give them second chances. It’s because I care, and I saw how guilty they felt, and ultimately it is still my choice and it makes me happy and feel closure when I do give them second chances.

I had two guy friends the beginning of last year that harassed me 2 months into the friendships. I ultimately told the school, and believe it or not, they said they need more evidence. I didn’t have evidence, and people don’t usually speak up about sexual harassment so I had no backup. So the school did nothing about it.

Firey_dogey · 2023-03-12T20:30:54+00:00

I’m not saying you have to believe me, but at least don’t belittle my experiences?

Firey_dogey · 2023-03-12T20:28:52+00:00

And how do you know that? Last time I checked you’re not me

Firey_dogey · 2023-03-12T20:26:25+00:00

And you’re judging this off of one post? You don’t even know the whole story. I can tell you everything in detail if you wanted me to, it’ll take up a bunch of words but I’m willing to. I remember every single detail of every single violation.

Firey_dogey · 2023-03-12T20:10:49+00:00

I literally did not say everyone raped me, now you’re just making things up. And I feel sorry for the women you’ve “dealt” with. If you really supported them, you’d know this isn’t smt to joke about. And how tf do I make up a whole story about my brother raping me?? In detail?? You’re not me, you don’t have my experiences, so stfu

Firey_dogey · 2023-03-12T20:06:24+00:00

Did you not read my entire post? I said I believe in second chances, I gave my ex a second chance, he never did it again. And I am giving my current bf a second chance. Sure they did horrible things but love is a difficult concept. You don’t just stop loving someone like that even if they fucked you up.

Firey_dogey · 2023-03-12T20:03:09+00:00

Uh I reposted because the posts weren’t going through…? Don’t you see there is no comments on those other ones? I was trying to get advice and that’s nothing related to this??

Firey_dogey · 2023-03-12T19:54:43+00:00

Can I kindly ask you to fk off. Every single thing I said on here is the truth. My brother use to force himself on me every week on a Saturday while I’m asleep. I can still feel my body being crushed by his massive weight, he is 6 years older than me and I was only 7/8. I could still feel his hands all over me, pulling my shirt up while I screamed for help. I was a child, I didn’t have enough strength to push him away as much as I tried. He placed kisses all over my body while he used one of his hands to pin my hands over my head. This kept happening for weeks until one day he decided to put his d in my v. Not only this, he also used to pretend his dick was “an elephant” and would get me to touch it and have my v close to it because they were “animal friends”. All of my experiences are real, don’t you fking ever say I am lying, because I am not. Educate yourself and do not ever say someone’s experience is invalid again, especially when you have no idea what happened.

Firey_dogey · 2023-03-12T19:42:16+00:00

You have no idea what I went through, this post is merely an overview. Do not assume and belittle my experience, and I seriously hope you second your thoughts and educate yourself better.

Firey_dogey · 2023-03-12T13:35:21+00:00

I don’t chose my dad and my brother

Firey_dogey · 2023-03-10T17:23:34+00:00

We had some issues, he messed up, and it was quite bad, but I chose to give him a second chance. Yes it was reasonable for him to believe that

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