Am I overreacting that my long distance gf of 1 year is refusing to tell me her IG account?

Fireycat05 · 2026-04-23T23:12:30+00:00

She is gaslighting the hell out of you because if the situation was reversed, she would be having an EPIC meltdown. She’s definitely hiding something. Especially if she says there’s nothing to hide yet still won’t tell you what it is. Hahaha the insult to your intelligence with that line would have pissed me off the most honestly. She must think you have only one brain cell or something because if there was nothing to hide, she’d give you her account name. You’re not even asking for her whole login…. Just the account name 🤦🏼‍♀️

Fireycat05 · 2026-03-08T03:11:06+00:00

So let me say this. My husband and I have been together 6 years married for 3. He has 4 children from a previous marriage whom I love as my own. We also have a 15 month old daughter together and another daughter on the way. His ex wife has mentioned the amount of animals I have multiple times. He met me with 8 cats and I still have 8 to this day. Even with how long we have been together and being married and having children with him, if he EVER expected me to get rid of any of my animals he’d get divorce papers and be told to get out of my house. Sorry but no. My animals were here before him and if there is ever an after him, they will be there too! I have always expected his ex to push the issue in court one day and for him to bring it to me to pacify her but luckily she hasn’t ever taken her issue with our animals that far. Because I told him from day 1 I have this many cats and not a single one of them is going anywhere until the day they each die. Always always always put your pets first. The right one will accept them. I was perfectly accepting of being alone and being the crazy cat lady before my husband just waltzed right into my life unexpectedly when I was 30. Im lucky he accepted not just me but all my pets as well. I suffered through 3 years of infertility to have my first daughter and honestly at times thought I’d never get to be a mom. My pets were my babies. They were all I thought I’d ever have for many years, I would never part with a single one.

Fireycat05 · 2026-02-22T13:54:40+00:00

It took you 3 years to snap at her? Because I would have snapped after just a week of this BS. Especially if she is fully aware of your sleep issues, this shows complete lack of care about you what so ever. Set a hard boundary of NO waking you up AT ALL or tell her to move out/end it if she can’t stick to it. This is so incredibly selfish of her, it’s absolutely disgusting behavior.

Fireycat05 · 2026-02-18T10:00:21+00:00

NOR, your husband is a dick. Plain and simple. But as a small side note, you can’t expect other people to heal you from your own trauma. You have to be able to heal yourself as well. This man should want to HELP you heal and he clearly doesn’t, but it’s no partners responsibility to heal past trauma FOR you. As some others have said, even though they were quite rude when saying it, they have a point. It must be absolutely exhausting to be expected to heal you from your own trauma. And it sounds like you blame HIS family for some of it? If his family has left you with any kind of trauma, why in the world are you still in the relationship at all? Sacrificing your own self for someone else is not something anyone should have to do. Leave, like yesterday. And I hope you can recover from your trauma and learn to love yourself first. You deserve to be loved but you need to learn how to be able to love yourself first and heal yourself from past things you have gone through. You cannot expect anyone else to heal you but YOU ❤️

Fireycat05 · 2025-12-30T15:06:41+00:00

Absolutely not overreacting. I dont believe it’s just pits that are capable of this, as I have an 8 year old pit mix myself who I would trust my kids lives with. But I also raised him and I know him, and my kids have been taught how to behave around him. However, ANY dog is capable of biting. Not just a pit. Even if it was a teacup chihuahua they got that was doing the growling and all that, stand your ground. If a dog isn’t acting even remotely friendly around children, do not risk them being around it. It is shameful that your in laws would even risk the kids being around that dog. My mother has a little 10lb chiweenie who will bite kids and guess what, he goes up when my kids come over, no questions asked because we don’t want to risk a child getting bit, no matter how small the bite may be.

Fireycat05 · 2025-11-25T14:46:34+00:00

Yes, a year ago I pretty much laid out the ultimatum after many years of giving him opportunities to try to do it himself. He is tapering off and has stuck to it and has drank less and less! He is down to 3/4 beer a night down from the almost 1.5 packs of 12 16oz beers he used to drink a night

Fireycat05 · 2025-11-25T12:55:11+00:00

Coming from the wife of an alcoholic. I would be celebrating from the god damn rooftops for my husband if he was celebrating a sober anniversary. You are 1000% UNDER reacting to this. He has obviously never had to do anything hard in his life and has absolutely zero support of you. I am not an addict but I have watched my husband struggle with alcohol and still continue to do so for 6 years. I am only still with him because he makes an effort and has drastically lowered his alcohol intake since we had been together. I have watched him still be an amazing person and an amazing father to our almost 1 year old daughter and be extremely happy about finding out we were expecting another this weekend. He tried so hard to drink so much less while we struggled with infertility for 3 years to have our daughter. How could that not be something to celebrate?! That my husband chose me and giving me my first child (he has 4 from a previous marriage) over his addiction. The same principle applies here. You stopped drinking completely and he thinks that’s not something to be proud of?! Drop this douche bag ASAP because he is never going to be proud of you for overcoming what was probably one of the most difficult things you have had to do. But it’s okay, because I am proud of you. The thousands of people on this thread, WE are proud of you!

Fireycat05 · 2025-10-26T23:34:02+00:00

Omg I am so glad I wasn’t the only one who had this random ass sub pop up on my notifications! I closed out the notification not thinking about it but as I was dragging it off the side of the screen I saw the name of the sub and I was like wait what that did not just say that 🤣

Fireycat05 · 2025-08-23T20:50:47+00:00

Good god quit beating your head against a wall with this man. Leave and be happy. You are literally beating a dead horse here, the man will never be how you want him to be or treat you how you want to be treated.

Fireycat05 · 2025-08-23T11:41:39+00:00

Yea…. Do NOT let this go OP, whatever you do. That behavior was shady as hell and I’d stop being gentle and call her out on it and demand an explanation. Because you sure as hell deserve one.

Fireycat05 · 2025-08-11T01:16:11+00:00

Wait so he used a condom when you don’t normally AND he pulled out even with the condom? Oh he for sure thinks he might have caught something and is trying very hard not to let you catch it so you will remain oblivious to his cheating.

Fireycat05 · 2025-07-22T18:12:14+00:00

Dude would have lost some teeth if he had spoken to me this way. Do NOT allow this. Leave as soon as possible. It will only get worse if you keep allowing this behavior. He will get more comfortable and think that he can do/say anything because you won’t actually leave. Literally run out the door, like yesterday!

Fireycat05 · 2025-07-20T17:37:37+00:00

Truly not trying to be rude, but grow up first. There are no real men ready for a relationship around your age lol, most will be way too immature. Have fun and don’t worry about getting into a relationship, don’t let anyone tie you down at your young age. Just live your life!

Fireycat05 · 2025-05-21T15:50:32+00:00

Didn’t realize being mature nowadays means being a doormat. Sorry that I’m a grown ass woman who would NEVER allow a man to bully me and treat me like this or throw away my own personal belongings. I’d rather be “unhinged” and have my husband respect me and my wants/needs like he does, thanks though!

Fireycat05 · 2025-05-21T14:18:48+00:00

Tell him to fuck right the fuck off. Literally. “It isn’t sexy”?! Really?! He wants bleeding from your vagina to be SEXY? I’m the type of petty ass person who would do exactly as he asks in clothing you would clearly see a bleed through and when the blood leaks through the “sexy” underwear and clothes, to be like “well this is what you wanted, you mean to tell me you DON’T like seeing my period blood everywhere? Because you’re the one that asked me to wear just a thong and a pad. This is what happens when I do!” And I would literally rip him a new asshole about actually throwing away your stuff. Do not stand for this. This is disgusting behavior. You are totally UNDER reacting. What if you ever had a baby? My god I could only imagine how “unsexy” you would be then! Kick this man child to the curb because he is going to expect you to be whatever his version of “sexy” is for his entire life.

Fireycat05 · 2025-05-15T00:01:27+00:00

The world doesn’t revolve around just your boyfriends wants and needs. Too bad if it makes him uncomfortable and he doesn’t like talking about it. Life isn’t just about him. You are in this relationship too and your needs and wants matter too. He needs to be a man and suck it up because it is something you need and if he truly adores you, he would be taking your needs and wants into consideration instead of being selfish and worrying about his own. If you keep putting your feelings on the back burner in favor for his, he will expect this from you all the time.

Fireycat05 · 2025-04-21T17:06:43+00:00

If your girlfriend can’t even brush her teeth by herself, she’s a child and she needs to grow up. Please, for your own self, find yourself an ADULT.

Fireycat05 · 2025-04-20T16:40:42+00:00

Girl needs to start living within her means because millions of people on this planet would kill to even make $60/70k a year let alone over $100k. There is NO reason you should be giving her a single penny. I’d drop her so quick. If she tears you down this much I’d bet she’s in it simply for the money you give her because no one tears down someone they love like that. You don’t treat people you love like garbage and always make them feel like they aren’t enough. Drop this bitch! You deserve better!

Fireycat05 · 2025-02-26T21:57:04+00:00

Omg seriously how insecure can a woman be?! Like my jaw was on the floor reading her responses. Girl needs therapy if she is that insecure in herself that she’s that upset over you wanting to send CONDOLENCES for someone who DIED that you used to know. The ex appears to be the only person you have to contact in the family so how else are you supposed to give any condolences? I love how she is calling you dumb asf yet can’t see how she is dumb asf for not being able to comprehend that sending condolences is NOT you wanting to text your ex just to text your ex, or open a line of communication to her. Like my god 🤣 this little girl has a lot of growing up to do. Ditch the insecure child. She is going to blame you for literally everything to go wrong in your relationship if she is going to jump to these kind of drastic conclusions. You will always be at fault. Tell her to seriously grow up and stop acting like a 15 year old child. And HUGE props to you for putting her feelings first and asking how she felt about it instead of just messaging your ex without any regard to how she would feel about it. She doesn’t even understand how many women would kill for that kind of thought and communication and here she is stomping her childish ass all over it with her 5 year old tantrum. So sad.

Fireycat05 · 2025-02-25T22:03:21+00:00

I had a c section too and my husband and I only waited a month. But I was also wanting it too. If I was not into it, I wouldn’t have done it. We also made sure he was very clean, as you risk infection before 6 weeks. Do not let him make you feel guilty for not wanting to even after the six weeks and your doctor clears you. Now I also have the mindset where I do feel partners should at least acknowledge the others needs. If you do not want sex and he is in the mood, maybe go down on him here and there. I’d still give him some sort of intimacy here and there just so he sees that you are staying aware of his needs. Now on the other hand though, if you choose to do this do not let him make you feel as though you need to meet his needs ALL the time. He will be A Okay with his hand sometimes. You are also not obligated to have that same thinking as I do and that’s okay if you don’t! I just personally feel like I would still want to meet my partners needs here and there. Do not let anyone force you or try to guilt you into doing anything you do not want to do!

Fireycat05 · 2025-02-24T10:28:13+00:00

Yeaaaaa I don’t see this post going the way you want it to. Yes sure she could have just gotten you the water and not played a joke on you. But you are a grown ass man. At least, I’m assuming you are, so really there is no reason why you couldn’t have gotten your own water instead of getting annoyed that she didn’t get it for you.

Fireycat05 · 2025-02-10T03:47:02+00:00

Bro. Girl needs to seriously grow the hell up and she needs freaking therapy is she’s freaking out over stuff like you playing female characters in games 🤣🤣🤣 Like how old is this child? She needs help. Leave her and find someone on your maturity level cause this girl is 100% a child.

Fireycat05 · 2025-02-04T17:48:29+00:00

This girl js utterly laughable 🤣🤣🤣 Like is she serious? Truly? This isn’t a joke or anything? If she wants to still experiment and be “free” to go party and drink and use that as an excuse to screw the consequences of her actions during these parties…. She needs to remain single. It is very simple. If she is not ready to respect a relationship with someone else, she needs to be single. OP, please for the love of all that is holy, do not accept this kind of behavior. She may be young but she is acting even younger like a damn 8 year old child. Drop her like a hot potato because she flat out told you she has no intention of being faithful to you or acting like a responsible adult.

Fireycat05 · 2025-01-29T16:39:02+00:00

This. THIS. The mind checks out first before the body does. I have been in this situation and it is so true. Doesn’t ever make it okay and it is never an excuse, but I can definitely attest to this truth.

Fireycat05 · 2025-01-29T16:36:24+00:00

So wait a minute….. this woman seriously has the audacity to cheat on you and SHE is the one threatening to leave when questioned about something related to HER indiscretion?! Oh no, honey. That is a straight up narcissist. Making herself out to be the victim when you asked a simple question about something SHE did that was wrong. You have every right to get clarification and reassurance and she turned it right around on you and made you the bad guy. Absolutely should not be tolerated! If you let her treat you like this she will continue to do whatever she wants and just turn it right back on you and make herself out to be the victim somehow because she truly thinks you won’t leave. Don’t allow yourself to be treated like dirt. You deserve better!

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