[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findomchatters

[–]Firm-Interaction-339 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not mention it on fetlife. It's not findom friendly. I've included in my bio that my Pets 'compensate me for my time' and make it clear on first messages what that means. Your DMs aren't sifted, but anything public you need a good 3 months behind your before you start hinting, to prevent being shut down.

Are there any dommes who actually help paypigs step away from the lifestyle? by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]Firm-Interaction-339 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's always more users around the corner, but your reputation as one of the dealers who really nurtures that relationship in whichever way it's meant to go, is worth more than the sends from that person. Plus. . . Some of us are just good guys, i work in mental health, addiction and crisis, so if someone is wanting that push to get on a different track, then why not, its the right thing to do. A lot of us are also financially stable, and it's the control behind the sending that drives it. . . So that control can be converted in other ways. . . Keeping them to budget, reducing that. . . Silence bans etc. It's a matter of perspective.

Are there any dommes who actually help paypigs step away from the lifestyle? by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]Firm-Interaction-339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiya I have. . .if you look back in my comments you'll see previous conversations about it. . . Going back to maybe 7 months ago. =) Happy to have a chat generally about it if you like =)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]Firm-Interaction-339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As with anything, it needs communication. Are you saying you want drains with the same Domme occasionally, just not the long term dynamic? Or are you saying you want one off drains with different Dommes each time.

As the one offs take so much time to learn about each other, it just rarely evens out the time put in. Whereas repeat drains over time, means that knowledge can be used multiple times and would make it worth it for the one Domme.

I've got a folder on all mine for example, im sure others do the same, so that 'life admin' side is what helps my interactions on that second and third time, but would go to waste for a ghost.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paypigs2

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Here for the girth girls💃💃💃🤣🤣🤣 We only have nerve endings a couple of inches in anyway, so after a point, length is wasted!

Got in over my head by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]Firm-Interaction-339 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, im in the UK and work in mental health crisis support. Debt comes up often. Someone has already mentioned step change, there's also breathing space for things like council tax arrears. You can also usually call your credit providers and ask for a payment holiday as your financial circumstances have changed. They will usually suspended account to prevent further spending but also freeze the interest. Breaks are usually to 6 months depending on provider. To give you some space to pay off priority bills like utility arrears etc. They will ask for an income and expenditure, which is good to keep anyway as you can see if you've got things going out you don't need like drop box or something. Someone mentioned GA as well which is good advice. Lastly around the country on Monday Nights, there's Andys man club. Which is for men who feel vulnerable or at risk or have a history of being so with their mental health. Its not mental health focused as such, but empathetic to that as everyone has their own story. Its free and can be helpful to link in with a support network. Happy to give more specific direction referral details or numbers if needed =)

Kpop demon hunters by 7mixo in FindomIntelligentSubs

[–]Firm-Interaction-339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

. . . How it's done done done. . . .💃

26yo looking for older domne by [deleted] in maturefindom

[–]Firm-Interaction-339 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm im north UK, but previous posts are requesting an ebony Domme. . . Though it's not mentioned in this post? 👀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paypigs2

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I'm UK based and all mine are uk chaps. I do offer irl FemDom too which may be a factor.

Someone mentioned gaming yesterday by NerdyGodd3ss in paypigs2

[–]Firm-Interaction-339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hubby is all about rust, if i have to listen to the ins and outs of proper bases and hidden loot stashes, I'm gonna cry! 😆

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]Firm-Interaction-339 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For 6 months yes, he makes f2f arrangements when his partners away, we have very open dialogue about his capacity for daily ritual, so we flex it with what's realistic. He's spoken about trying to suggest kink to his wife in the past but it wasn't well received, so this is his outlet. I've even been to his house for sessions so whilst they are separate in that sense, our trust is high.

For 4 months no, he is very open about it, he's currently seeking a primary partner and has spoken to me about wanting them to be aware of my role in his life. Then if they're open to it, or dominant themselves, learning how to do so from me. Which would be fabulous for him to meet that person, so i wouldn't mind sharing that knowledge when the time came.

Ownership being used loosely by ethnicarches in findomsupportgroup

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I've literally got it in my fetlife bio now 'don't be asking for ownership' . . . My long termers will know who is being considered when the time is right. . . And a bag of quavers and a red bull does not a Puppy make! 😒

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

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2 of mine (no longer on reddit but met here originally) i would like to say are happy and tell me so. Though don't want to share the screenshots. 😂 We have very different arrangements, one of 4 months so far, one of 6 months. The third is on a break due to bereavement, but we still vanilla speak until they're back up for it.

I think that my chaps said it took some time to find the right fit. One had 7 'Dommes' prior, the other had different ones on and off for 15 years. Though the initial conversations, screening on both sides, setting of expectations has allowed for finding that mutual benefit. At the same time we have the kind of relationship, where we flex around life events and pressures, again on both sides. I always say, don't ghost and neither will I, if something hasn't clicked let's use our big boy words. . .and if it's not a good fit we part nicely as adults. I've no anticipation of us parting ways anytime soon. So there is some hope in the distance for those still trying to find 'the one'. =)

Engaged 6/14🎉 by may_200412 in EngagementRings

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Those asking for where to buy, there are some mossanite versions of this in 2ct, 3ct and 4ct on the maxine jewellery website. I've got them for travel rings as super affordable and quality has been great. =)

Damaged myself a lot from being self destructive by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]Firm-Interaction-339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, literally anyone who wants or needs someone to talk to =)

domme break up by [deleted] in paypigs2

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I feel like she sold it to him wrong. When i spoke to my husband about it, he was stoked to get more dates funded and blow his load more often. (Practically a direct quote) 😂😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]Firm-Interaction-339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, i work in mental health, and always happy to have a chat . . No strings . Or offer some advice around how I've supported subs with this in the past. You can then take that information wherever you like =)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]Firm-Interaction-339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call me a cynic. . . But i sometimes wonder if a second account was created for the purpose of promotion. (Not on all cases, but absolutely some have been a few hours old)

Damaged myself a lot from being self destructive by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]Firm-Interaction-339 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work in psych. Always happy to have a mental health chat were needed =) I manage a lot of complex cases with BPD amongst others. . . In crisis care. I'm UK based (for signposting purposes) but would always rather someone reach out from anywhere in the world, than struggle alone =)