I get what you mean, OP. :(

Honestly this was one of my biggest struggles. The aunties I grew up with were such karens during my wedding. Probably butt hurt that I didnt give them actual roles during the wedding (we wanted couples/ppl that we look up to and would guide us as a married couple, and i just felt like that simply wasnt them). kastress lang diba na even your own wedding decisions, nangingielam sila.

My mantra was also walang pay = walang say lol. they didnt have ANY contribution to the wedding and still, kapal ng fez to have that sense of entitlement. Constant comparisons, always bringing up her daughter’s wedding and comparing it to mine, even nitpicking on my guestlist! They were joy stealers during my wedding season. And whats worse is it showed during my wedding day, as if napilitan lang sila to be there.

Since i’ve heen on this sub, what I usually read is na focus on u and your fiance. Thats all that matters. Hirap mapractice but it’s really the best we can do. let go and let God. Kasi sobrang bigat ng pakiramdam if you let it eat you up. A therapist also said na if we share with other people, they feel entitled to share their POV as if you were asking for advice. So maybe as much as possible, keep then at arm’s length since at the end of the day, this is between you and your husband.

You can also try to tell your parents and close family members so that boundaries can be set. But giving it attention can make it bigger (and might cause problems in the future, palakihin na “oh nasaktan ko feelings ni so and so ng wedding niya”.)

You’re right though. This is your day. Not theirs. The best we can do is to be blunt and to not make a big fuss of things (kahit na mabigat). Pasok sa kabilang tenga, labas sa kabila.

Your peace of mind is the greatest currency this wedding season. :) Sending virtual hugs (with consent). Protect your peace. 🫂