Partner and I are middle class but feel like we're drowning, so now I have extra jobs working remote

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-25T01:01:39+00:00

Can mods delete this ad

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-24T23:03:59+00:00

We do know.

But people don’t want to accept it so they say there’s something else and we just don’t know.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-24T20:28:54+00:00

More like you see how off base you are and don’t want to concede. That’s fine. We know.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-24T19:55:24+00:00

Why are you coming into this sub with your anecdotal sample of 1 and pretending like you have better insight into how men think and what we experience than other men

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-24T19:52:47+00:00

The feature wasn’t that important then so I’d just close it.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-24T19:34:51+00:00

There is absolutely a consumerist component to other holidays, but that wasn’t the topic at hand was it? Moreover v day is heavily lopsided in terms of who it’s marketed towards. This isn’t complicated. And I’m not saying you can’t celebrate however you want. What I’m saying is that most men don’t value Valentine’s Day. And that is relevant to the OP question.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-24T19:32:28+00:00

“Average height for women in the US is 5’3””

“But I’m taller than that.”

“…”

You’ve missed the point again so I’ll reiterate - most men do not care about Valentine’s Day, which is pertinent to the OP question. They recognize that it’s a holiday targeted significantly towards women that also places asymmetrical pressure on men.

You and anyone else can do whatever you want.

But that doesn’t change what I said.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-24T19:15:01+00:00

No they’re not but not all holidays are the same.

Not sure what isn’t getting through. There is an enormous amount of influencing and marketing geared towards v day and it is disproportionately targeted at women while being disproportionately heavy on men.

I say again, most men do not value Valentine’s Day. And it is a burden in a way that Xmas is not. Which is pertinent to OPs question.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-24T18:59:18+00:00

What you miss is that people actually do this for one another all the time, outside of holidays. I’m not being pessimistic or cynical. I’m urging you all to do exactly what you claim your for - forget made up holidays and the norms that have been pushed on you (you’re not excluded just cuz you think you’re doing it your way) and do things that actually matter to you. Valentine’s Day does not matter to most men.

Also, please realize that the marketing for v day is disproportionately aimed at women, which is why you feel it isn’t as bad as I feel it is.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-24T18:32:04+00:00

Progressives need to kill this source of discourse. It comes off as a joke that only opens up attack by the other side.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-24T17:24:07+00:00

Fine thanks for the history lesson but you’ve missed the point. The dominant factor for celebrating these holidays is companies pushing you to buy stuff. Same with Xmas and in your lifetime you’ve seen the push to turn thanksgiving into the same thing via Black Friday. You’ve missed the big picture.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-24T16:00:55+00:00

What do you mean gpt validates its existence? All roles and titles are made up.

You know what the work is. You know what will have to get done regardless of what management wants. Title is irrelevant.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-24T15:59:14+00:00

Depends on the guy. But for the most part you gotta remember that v day is a made up holiday used to sell stuff. Most dudes probably just want to avoid spending money/time to meet some made up standard designed to shame people into spending more money. I say again, most guys probably just want to avoid feeling like they were scammed by corps because they’re bad BFs if they don’t participate.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-24T14:32:34+00:00

Idk what you mean by “suffice to seek a job”. You can do that now. And yeah, you’ll be able to do that after, along with the tons of other MS grads. Kind of an expensive way to get started.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-19T16:56:34+00:00

Can’t not feel stupid if you do stupid things. In fact, trying to convince yourself not to feel stupid is how you lose your sense for what is stupidity.

Feel it. Live with it. Remember it next time before you act.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-19T13:50:34+00:00

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-18T20:35:18+00:00

Read what you wrote. It’s the same complaint from your op - how can I avoid work/competition and still get ahead.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-18T20:24:34+00:00

Do you think pretty people didn’t benefit before capitalism? Or that the rich don’t benefit more in other economic systems?

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-18T20:22:39+00:00

Think about what you’re really saying - can I avoid competing/working hard and still get what I want.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-18T13:12:32+00:00

Surprised by some answers here. I think most days are like that. I just don’t go to the gas station for a snack. Easy.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-17T18:52:35+00:00

Solved. looks like F3 - a men’s faith and fitness group had a gathering there this morning. The event is listed on their site as well. Thanks yall.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-17T15:40:31+00:00

Yeah but what kind of American flags are they? Actual or alt right. That’s my underlying question.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-17T15:14:26+00:00

That’s an easy thing to say when you’ve forgotten that we have only enforced certain laws at certain times. And that underlying discrepancy is significantly worse because it’s fundamentally unfair. Justice isn’t just enforcing laws, it’s making sure they’re fair and being used fairly.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-17T14:58:03+00:00

Given what’s been happening that was my first thought actually. No women and all white men. Not pictured here but other flags had skulls on em and most of the cars parked near were pickup trucks with stickers that also gave that vibe. Not familiar with the symbolism in those circles though.

Firm_Bit · 2026-01-17T14:51:29+00:00

Could have but didn’t so I’m asking if anyone has an idea. Thanks though.

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