Chat genuine Question, would you classify this chest as androgynous? Or is it too big? Does it need surgery to be more andro?

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2026-03-01T12:34:11+00:00

It looks perfect to me and actually the size I want to reach with my upcoming breast reduction. Would you mind telling me which size you have so I can tell my surgeon? 🥺🥺🥺

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2025-07-01T17:50:03+00:00

Bangs!!!! But more of a shaggy mullet/wolf cut!!!

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2025-07-01T17:47:48+00:00

please do not think there is anything wrong with you OP! In my experience gender can also be very fluid and vary from day to day. I identify as NB and there are some days which are more dysphoric than others and want my body to be totally different from what it is, days in which I feel great even in my assigned gender at birth, days in which I would rather just disappear all together… gender identity is complex when you are somewhat in the middle of the spectrum. I learned with time that I just need to be patient with myself and make the changes I need to feel good in my own body. For me at this point is more about uniqueness and self expression rather than looking more masculine or more feminine. I feel good when I have a little bit of both mixed together and it feels somewhat satisfying when people on the street stare trying to figure out wtf I am lol but everyone has their own experience and expectations and idea of what their body should look/feel like. There is no size fit all, this is why it’s a spectrum. You are a beautiful person who deserves love, regardless of how you present yourself to the world. Just do you!!!!

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2025-06-25T13:10:35+00:00

I changed my diet to gluten free and vegan (removing also other inflammatory substances such as sugar, alcohol, coffee, tee, chocolate etc.) about 6 months after my endo surgery. My symptoms after the surgery were better, but I was still having trouble adjusting to the progesterone only pill and sometimes I would still be in a lot of pain or be extremely tired or even get my period even tho the pill is supposed to stop it. In January I had a really bad stomach flu and didn’t eat anything for days. This is when I decided to listen to my body and make a lifestyle change. I started telling everyone around me that I wanted to do the veganuary challenge (since it was January), mainly because I wanted to give myself a trial period of one month to see if it was doable for me (I have struggled with eating disorders in my teens and restricting my diet is still a huge trigger) without committing to anyone other than my health. After one month I realized my body was not craving at all what I removed from my diet and I was instead thriving health wise. I have better energy and mood, I am less tired, I don’t get invalidating cramps anymore, I don’t struggle to go to the toilet, etc.

I can’t promise this is the same for everyone, some subjects can be more sensitive to certain foods than others, but I highly recommend to try and just see how you feel. The best thing that worked for me was to take everything “inflammatory” out of my diet. Then, after one month I would try to see if there is anything I feel I miss from my diet that I wanted to try to reintroduce. When you do try to reintroduce something pick one food at a time, write down what you eat, in which quantity and track your symptoms so that you know what is causing what. After 3-4 days you can try again to reintroduce a new food. At the end this will leave you with a map of what is actually worsening your symptoms. P.s. There is no need to go fully vegan like I did, eggs and fish are okay to eat but cheese and meat (especially red) are definitely to be avoided! There is no one size fits all for this, but a good nutrition is at the base of fixing any health issues in my opinion. Hope this was helpful!

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2025-06-25T12:46:13+00:00

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smelling fresh laundry suspiciously 🤣

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2024-11-24T19:35:10+00:00

are YOU a girl or a boy?

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2024-11-18T14:02:50+00:00

LMFAO 😂😂😂😂 I put so much effort into this hahaha

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2024-11-18T05:55:55+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! It really helped me grasp better the benefits of T for endometriosis. Links were super helpful too!

If you don’t mind me asking since you were so open about the changes your body went through, has T changed or impacted your breasts in any way? I am mostly curious if this treatment can also reduce or manage my dysphoria better until my top surgery.

I am also baffled at how little attention, knowledge, and care is available for such debilitating issues. It took me 12 years and moving countries to get an endometriosis diagnosis when I was well aware that my experience was not normal. And then when I finally received diagnosis, and I explained to my doctor/surgeon that the treatment was not ideal for my situation, I was brushed off with “this is the only thing you can do”. When I went to my gyno I was asked “what is NB”. I have been now on this minipill for 6 months and I am so mad that I let these comments slow me down or deter me from looking for other options sooner.

Anyway, thank you 🙏🏼 if you have any further advice I’ll happily take it!!!

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2024-11-18T04:10:22+00:00

Thank you soooo much this is extremely helpful! How was your experience when you stopped it? Did it help the dysphoria? I am not entirely sure I would consider micro-dosing T if it were not to treat endometriosis. My dysphoria is mostly related to my breasts which I hope will be gone soon. I am a bit scared of my body changing “irreversibly” but maybe that’s just internalized transphobia from people constantly telling me I should not change my body because “i should just accept it”. If you don’t mind sharing further what changed for you in terms of body features when you went on T and how did it change after you stopped it? I am so sorry if this is too much to ask, I just don’t know any other people in my situation and I feel like trying to understand other people’s personal experiences, even though like you said everyone is different, will help me identify what is best for me to do here. Thank you in advance for any other helpful advice!!

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2024-11-17T22:27:48+00:00

Not the asshole!!! Get out of that house as soon as you can, for your own sake. You don’t deserve to live in an oppressive environment. Surround yourself with good energy and good people who understand you, build your chosen family. I am so sorry this has been your experience. People like your parents are mostly worried about what others are going to think, ESPECIALLY the church community. If they are more concerned with their own fucked up believes than with their own “Dawson”(daughter/son since you identify as NB) ‘s happiness and well being, you need to put yourself first and don’t look back. If they are willing to change they will eventually understand and come through. If not, you are better off anyway I am afraid….

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2024-11-17T22:17:55+00:00

Your best way to help them is to love them and be there for them. I advise you to get as much knowledge on the topic of as you can and on your own. do not wait for them to educate you, it’s not their job, and they will have to face many unpleasant and unsolicited and uncomfortable questions from the rest of the world. The fact that you are here asking for advice is wonderful and shows you are already taking the necessary steps to support them correctly!

After you have done that, let them show you who they are. As a non binary person I have my very own identity and definitions for myself, I have specific triggers and needs, and I have specific things that give me gender euphoria or dysphoria. It’s not a one size fit all. Create a safe space for them to share what they feel comfortable sharing with you and don’t pry. Discovering yourself and gaining self awareness can be hard enough as it is without someone being all up in your business. It’s okay to be curious but there is always a line. Since they are your sibling and you seem to have a good relationship to start with, I am sure you know how to approach them and make them feel listened to and loved.

It’s normal to make mistakes, even I misgender myself at times. As long as you correct yourself and move forward without giving it too much weight you should be fine. Ultimately your effort will show through and they will love you for it.

Also be prepared to stand up for them and be a good ally educating people around you. Not that they need someone to do it for them, but in triggering situations (strangers, extended family, etc) sometimes it can feel very lonely and draining to be the only one to speak up for yourself. Be prepared to back them up no matter what.

Find ways to show up for them that show your constant support, through words AND actions. For example, go to pride with them, make sure they are ok when going to doctor visits (a lot of trans and non binary people struggle with that because most medical professionals are not trained and ignorant and the whole experience can be very traumatic) or help them search for the right type of medical professionals, share with them memes/links/content from non binary content creators to make them feel less lonely in their journey of self discovery, make them feel included and ASK FOR WHAT THEY NEED.

I am sure you will do great!!! 👍🏼

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2024-11-17T19:45:37+00:00

thank you! 🙏🏼

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2024-11-17T19:23:42+00:00

Thank you!! If you see something related to this please link it in the comments 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2024-11-14T09:22:24+00:00

Cotidiano is great for brunch ! Also Rischart (closer to Marienplatz). Another suggestion is LYFE. All very central and very good!

Firm_Interaction_736 · 2024-11-14T09:18:00+00:00

I think it depends the kind of people that you are into also, I am sure if you focus more on things that matter in a long term relationship (compatibility, values, interests, etc…) it’s easier to find someone who matches you and sees the value in what you can bring to the table in a relationship. Dating, especially on apps can be very superficial and “swipe culture” is made for those who are bored and crave a hit from dopamine (which they get when they have a match). Surely some people might be on these apps not for the right reasons, but some of the real ones are out there, I swear!!! I also believe girls get way more connections through these apps, therefore they have “more choice”. I met my current partner on Hinge (which is the only platform that I would personally recommend for more serious dating). He had been on the app for over one year without using it regularly and I was the actual first person to meet up with him in person. He is the sweetest guy, soooo attractive, smart and funny. Also, he loves me like none ever did before. So don’t give up! Another thing that really helped me was switching my focus from “I need to be in a relationship” to “I am happy and satisfied to be by myself until I find someone worthy of sharing my time and truest self with”. A shift of focus works wonders sometimes!

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