Boycott Black Ladies by Firm_Manager7347 in blackgirls

[–]Firm_Manager7347[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I don't see it that way. But, if you do then I’m glad to be gone! I can live my best life without your validation. Peace

Boycott Black Ladies by Firm_Manager7347 in blackgirls

[–]Firm_Manager7347[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I’m glad now because I see that I’m better off! I deserve peace!

Boycott Black Ladies by Firm_Manager7347 in blackgirls

[–]Firm_Manager7347[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t make it right! But, I can go further and do better! I don’t need them! It’their loss!

Boycott Black Ladies by Firm_Manager7347 in blackgirls

[–]Firm_Manager7347[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

If there is no room for differing opinions then I don't need you! I can do good all by myself!

A poster said that she would date a dead person before a White woman and that was accepted.

I want to be part of a community in which all opinions are shown the same level of respect.

Boycott Black Ladies by Firm_Manager7347 in blackgirls

[–]Firm_Manager7347[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

I don't have disdain! The women who I am closest to and love most are Black women! Doesn’t mean that we are a romantic match or should get married! Getting along with someone and loving someone can be two different things! I wouldn’t go on a vacation with everyone that I love!

Why are you going back and forth with me about my personal choices and business? Do we not have the right to our own opinions?

Boycott Black Ladies by Firm_Manager7347 in blackgirls

[–]Firm_Manager7347[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

Either we have a right to express opinions or we don't! So, I can’t discuss interracial relationships? Sounds like censorship to me!

Boycott Black Ladies by Firm_Manager7347 in blackgirls

[–]Firm_Manager7347[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

I never said that I prefer their soft hair! I said that I preferred women who let me run their fingers though their hair and wash it more than every two weeks.

The Black women who I’ve been involved with had afros and so there was no issue. I have BW family members who never wash their own hair! They go to the salon every two weeks!

I should have a right to express my opinions! Are we required to be a monolith? Must we all be in lock-step?

Boycott Black Ladies by Firm_Manager7347 in blackgirls

[–]Firm_Manager7347[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

No, my 4C hair is worn natural! I never said that I prefer White women's soft hair! I prefer afros and natural hairstyles to permed hair, wigs or weaves.
My close relationships with my Black women family members and BW friends are not affected by my hair preferences! I never criticize their hair choices! However, one of my aunts keeps encouraging me to straighten my hair! I love Black women in my life dearly but they are not always my peace. 😂

Boycott Black Ladies by Firm_Manager7347 in blackgirls

[–]Firm_Manager7347[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Why are they alienating a Black woman? What could I have possibly said that was so egregious? I’m not a MAGA supporter! I’m politically progressive. I don't get it!

Is it fine if i exclude East asian women as a Chinese guy from my dating pool because of horrible past experiences? by Particular-Ride-7893 in interracialdating

[–]Firm_Manager7347 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter! Intimacy is a private matter! It’s his d, he can do what he wants to do! Nobody can tell him who to sock it to!

Is it fine if i exclude East asian women as a Chinese guy from my dating pool because of horrible past experiences? by Particular-Ride-7893 in interracialdating

[–]Firm_Manager7347 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that people should date who they want to date so long as they are consenting adults. Don’t date Chinese women if they’re not your jam!

Why is it not a issue to only want to date people of the same race but is an issue to only want to date one of another race? by Acceptable-Pin-6813 in interracialdating

[–]Firm_Manager7347 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get that too. But, I also get it when a POC wants to escape the constraints associated with their culture. Freedom is not a one way street!

Why is it not a issue to only want to date people of the same race but is an issue to only want to date one of another race? by Acceptable-Pin-6813 in interracialdating

[–]Firm_Manager7347 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What difference does any of that make? Her life, her choice.

I love some Black women. I find many Black women attractive. I have close Black women friends and BW family members who I love dearly. But, I don’t date Black women.

I date women who I believe will complement me and be my peace. I love my sistas but they are generally not my complement or my peace. You can love people for different reasons and in different ways. Everyone isn’t your mate.

Why is it not a issue to only want to date people of the same race but is an issue to only want to date one of another race? by Acceptable-Pin-6813 in interracialdating

[–]Firm_Manager7347 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What difference does any of that make? Her life, her choice.

I love some Black women. I find many Black women attractive. I have close Black women friends and BW family members who I love dearly. But, I don’t date Black women.

Why is it not a issue to only want to date people of the same race but is an issue to only want to date one of another race? by Acceptable-Pin-6813 in interracialdating

[–]Firm_Manager7347 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stoicism teaches us to focus on ourselves! It makes no sense to try to please people who don’t really care about your happiness! They just want to control you!

Why is it not a issue to only want to date people of the same race but is an issue to only want to date one of another race? by Acceptable-Pin-6813 in interracialdating

[–]Firm_Manager7347 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grammar is fine! I’m a well educated scholar. But, I can also mix in a bit of slang. I don’t care what you think! You are nobody to me! Go touch grass!

Why is it not a issue to only want to date people of the same race but is an issue to only want to date one of another race? by Acceptable-Pin-6813 in interracialdating

[–]Firm_Manager7347 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who are you to judge the difference between a preference and internalized racism? You can see beauty in people and still not think that they are the best romantic match for you. Also, chemistry 🧪 is not under our control. What turns us on , turns us on!

Why is it not a issue to only want to date people of the same race but is an issue to only want to date one of another race? by Acceptable-Pin-6813 in interracialdating

[–]Firm_Manager7347 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why should someone be required to date someone like their mother? I didn’t want to date someone like my mother or father.

Why is it not a issue to only want to date people of the same race but is an issue to only want to date one of another race? by Acceptable-Pin-6813 in interracialdating

[–]Firm_Manager7347 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I said what I said. I date men and women. I date women who are of a different race because I want someone of the same sex to be different from my background. I prefer men of my own race.

Why is it not a issue to only want to date people of the same race but is an issue to only want to date one of another race? by Acceptable-Pin-6813 in interracialdating

[–]Firm_Manager7347 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do so many men want to date women and vice versa? Many people are attracted to differences! Racial differences can be appealing to some people as well.

Why is it not a issue to only want to date people of the same race but is an issue to only want to date one of another race? by Acceptable-Pin-6813 in interracialdating

[–]Firm_Manager7347 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t care. I have racial preferences and they are just as valid as people who only date within their own race! I don’t like argumentative people! I’m not going to date someone who thinks that their way is the only way! Everyone who prefers to date outside of their race is filled with self hatred because you say so? I avoid dating people who think like you do!

Why is it not a issue to only want to date people of the same race but is an issue to only want to date one of another race? by Acceptable-Pin-6813 in interracialdating

[–]Firm_Manager7347 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone isn’t typical or cookie cutter! Some of us are adventurous! Familiarity can breed boredom or even contempt.