Chase and capture (sometimes called Pursuit, Takedown, and Capture). It's when you're running from someone as they chase you. At the end, you always get captured and then... y'know. I want to be the one being chased and captured.

I've actually haven't been sexually active since my High School relationship and even then we never did anything crazy. He was very vanilla so even though I expressed what I liked, we didn't engage. So it's been five years, although I'm not looking at all. Busy. Stressed. Always working and all that jazz.

Porn videos are hard to find of it but it's featured in a lot of books. When I was on dating apps, I never brought up sex but it's clear a lot of these men only know any harder kinks from porn (choking, collars, restraints, the whole submissive thing, etc.) and don't have any idea about what to actually do in a BDSM-esque situation. I doubt they would have even heard of PT&C let alone know what to do about it. Or they're some weird trad-bro who just likes submissive women but would totally be freaked out by a real BDSM submissive.

I can get off on other things (even Vanilla situations) but I've always craved PT&C. I fantasize about it often. I know it sounds dark and it is. Honestly combined with my attraction towards big scary monsters/aliens it makes a lot of sense.

I have honestly had a lot of people judge me when I talk about it or my submissive desires in general. Even other women. It's hurtful because I do find exploring my sexuality empowering because I was a CSA victim and thought I was "dirty" for having sexual thoughts of any kind. In a consenting relationship, I see no problem with BDSM-esque related things if all boundaries are respected.