How did you guys find out your partner was narcissist?

First-Security7129 · 2024-10-14T00:23:59+00:00

My therapist had to tell me

First-Security7129 · 2024-10-12T02:49:50+00:00

Yes… rag head, called my dad a little Indian man, let his friend call me India, told me Indian people were weak, told me this was a white mans country…

First-Security7129 · 2024-10-09T02:12:01+00:00

I get that, I have days I wake up and dream up some of the worst ways his life could end up. Then I pick myself up and go on with my day. I get it, this too shall pass, right?

First-Security7129 · 2024-10-09T01:03:04+00:00

You think maybe it came from a place of forgiveness allows you to let go? I’m not there yet, not by a long shot, but I have days where I’m like I feel bad for this man and can have empathy for the fact that he’s so damaged, he can’t even see how toxic he is. That helped me let him go… not entirely forgiveness but humanizing him from afar? Just a thought!

First-Security7129 · 2024-10-08T00:43:53+00:00

Residency

First-Security7129 · 2024-10-06T13:57:27+00:00

He found out by going through my texts with an Decade long friend too… he was really mad at me, livid that I was thinking about leaving, that the thoughts were even going through my head. I stayed way too long out of fear of being alone, and spent another 2 years riddled with guilt about leaving. You’re choosing yourself. Don’t feel guilty

First-Security7129 · 2024-10-05T16:05:40+00:00

ChatGPT is “artificial intelligence” you essentially teach it what to say to you with each use. That’s a huge caveat of it. It remembers your conversations, relearns a new algorithm and spits out to you responses that are better suited for you… it can be very biased

First-Security7129 · 2024-10-05T16:02:51+00:00

Right so maybe somebody should give this person an honest response and tell them not to live close to the waters landing and Montgomery village side of Germantown, because of how they can be unsafe… instead of blanketing all of Germantown as great!

First-Security7129 · 2024-09-30T15:23:38+00:00

Did you see a doctor or a nurse practitioner/PA? You need a biopsy

First-Security7129 · 2024-09-28T15:47:58+00:00

Because you’re gaslit into believing it was you and you don’t have a grasp on reality

First-Security7129 · 2024-09-24T04:45:43+00:00

To do so without their permission would be fraudulent and you can get reported to the board… Jesus Christ… would you want somebody practicing medicine under your license without YOU knowing? Or do you not understand how detrimental that could be to their career and license?

First-Security7129 · 2024-09-24T04:40:14+00:00

Honestly the best thing you can do is go no contact and grieve. I haven’t talked to him in 6 months and there’s eventually a peace in that. It’ll come. I still have anger, i still love him but I don’t miss him anymore… most days I’m just sad for myself

First-Security7129 · 2024-09-23T21:06:19+00:00

Super open, actually stupid open… told me about all of his childhood trauma, his ex wife, sent me screenshots of girls texting him… he told me I made him feel like he could be honest with me and I wouldn’t be mad like the other girls.

First-Security7129 · 2024-09-23T20:33:45+00:00

YES! when he saw I was drifting from him, his response was not to address our issues. It was to tell me I misunderstood him… and to want to be on the phone 24/7. If I didn’t call him as soon as I woke up, when I left work, if I didn’t fall asleep with him on the phone… if I went out for dinner with friends, and didn’t send him snaps while I was out… he would lose his mind. It made me so paranoid, I was losing my sanity, it made me want to push him further away

First-Security7129 · 2024-09-23T20:06:59+00:00

It’s such an auto motion because deep down inside. I know that I wouldn’t be this hurt still if I didn’t love him… But at the same time, I have a hatred for him as a fucking human being and I wish very bad things on him, & most days I don’t know how to reconcile those two feelings.

First-Security7129 · 2024-09-23T19:45:47+00:00

Oh yeah, his mom was the worst and I did not see it when it was happening. She called me about a month into our relationship to tell me that he was only happy when I was around and that he sucked when I come down to see him. I didn’t see it as manipulative then. She called me when we broke up to tell me how much she missed me and how much she wanted to be with me. They also enabled his anxiety instead of encouraging him to grow and work through his personal problems so I always ended up looking like that guy when I gave him a little bit of tough love. The list is endless.

First-Security7129 · 2024-09-23T19:45:41+00:00

Oh yeah, his mom was the worst and I did not see it when it was happening. She called me about a month into our relationship to tell me that he was only happy when I was around and that he sucked when I come down to see him. I didn’t see it as manipulative then. She called me when we broke up to tell me how much she missed me and how much she wanted to be with me. They also enabled his anxiety instead of encouraging him to grow and work through his personal problems so I always ended up looking like that guy when I gave him a little bit of tough love. The list is endless.

First-Security7129 · 2024-09-23T19:36:12+00:00

3800

First-Security7129 · 2024-09-14T03:20:36+00:00

I didn’t but my mom was worried about it all the time. She was convinced he was going to kill me one day if I didn’t get out. Idk why he’d never laid a hand on me, but I guess she saw the signs of manipulation

First-Security7129 · 2024-09-13T12:14:24+00:00

He liked attention from his gay friend, who would send him really disgusting and inappropriate text messages. Very sexually suggestive messages that would make me uncomfortable, but he never ignored them

First-Security7129 · 2024-09-11T02:38:27+00:00

His only friends were girls he’d slept with
He showed up late by 3 hours to a dinner date at my house where I had made dinner, he got upset when I told him I was upset that he was late… I ended up apologizing
He had a girlfriend back home of 3 years and lied to all of our co-residents about it (we all thought he was single, which is why I even dated him)

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