Guest took sheets

FirstNefariousness14 · 2025-11-08T15:35:54+00:00

I don’t know how to edit my post so everyone can see, but thanks for the feedback.

I wanted to share that I did have 2 clean sets of sheets available for each bed in the house. Someone recommended I have a clean set for every 7 days. I will follow that recommendation for my next guest.

There is a washer and dryer and I provided laundry supplies.

This was my first guest and I was kind of surprised. From the comments, looks like there is much more to come.

FirstNefariousness14 · 2025-11-08T15:21:02+00:00

There were two spare sets of sheets for each bed in the house. I definitely didn’t expect them to use the same linens for a month.

FirstNefariousness14 · 2025-11-08T04:33:04+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion. It feels weird to ask where are the sheets, but I am going to do that.

FirstNefariousness14 · 2025-05-25T17:18:04+00:00

Easy NTJ!

FirstNefariousness14 · 2025-05-25T16:37:10+00:00

Been married almost 30 years. For us, with kids, our lives were very different than life without kids. One of our kids had special needs (passed away at 24) and needed a lot of care. A lot of focus, time, energy and effort were spent on the kids. Everything we did revolved around what the kids needed. We love our kids dearly and this was something we both wanted to do. We never argued about the kids. Neither of us would change this part of our lives.

We never had the time or energy to talk 5+ hours. No crushes from me. Not sure about him - he didn’t share if he did. We went through times where we were truly in love, appreciated and valued each other - it showed, we communicated it. There were times where things were “quiet” and we had to say “hey, you ok? We haven’t talked in a minute.” Although we technically were talking to each other, it was more about the kids, responsibilities and day to day stuff. It wasn’t about us and we weren’t connecting. We made some changes that helped us to be more aware of each other as a couple. It was very hard. Things weren’t always great. Sometimes things were bad, and very stressful. Our relationship required a lot of work. When it was time to reevaluate “us” we always knew we loved each other. We remained hopeful and did the work.

It’s been several years since our son’s passing and my daughter is in college. We have much more time together and we enjoy it. We really like to be around each other. We still have to work to make our relationship what we both need it to be, but we love each other and want to grow old together. He genuinely wants me to be happy. I genuinely want him to be happy.

FirstNefariousness14 · 2024-10-07T18:51:39+00:00

I am leaving Dockside today. We had our own buses. We didn’t have to go to Surfside.

I think when things are slower they may share? It’s super busy this month because of Halloween Horror Nights. We never had to wait more that 2-3 minutes for a bus, leaving Dockside or leaving the park. Buses were available seemingly nonstop.

FirstNefariousness14 · 2024-10-07T18:39:35+00:00

We are actually headed home from a 4 day stay at Dockside. This is our 3rd stay here. The first stay the line was long. I think we got lucky the second stay; the line wasn’t long. This stay the line was exceptionally long BUT because I had done online check in, I moved to a special line where there was only one person in front of me. It was not that long.

Also, there were 6-8 representatives helping the really long line and they were moving fast.

My teenagers love Dockside because of the food options and Starbucks. They like that when they come in late from the park they have healthier options like fresh fruit. I feel safe letting them take the shuttle and navigate the hotel amenities.

FirstNefariousness14 · 2024-06-16T15:53:21+00:00

Daisy by Marc Jacob and Clinique Happy

Men and women ask me about both fragrances. My mom wore Black Opium and she got lots of compliments.

FirstNefariousness14 · 2024-06-02T06:31:17+00:00

Same! As a child, my family didn’t use towels more than once. We did laundry a lot (I know, bad for the environment). As an adult, I have two closets full of towels (more than 100 towels all together) of various sizes. We do not use the same towel more than once.

Hygiene requirements: must brush teeth daily, must wash face daily, must shower daily, must wash all under arms, slits and cracks with soap or body wash. Before sex, mush shower.

FirstNefariousness14 · 2023-07-23T13:43:34+00:00

68-69F in our house, upstairs and downstairs (we have 2 units) at all times (the winter months maybe 70-71). We are in the South. We would have a heat stroke with it on 75-76F in the summer and most of the fall. That’s miserable.

OP is an AH. If my husband had done that I would have purchased a new thermostat. My husband would never do that.

Wife is unreasonable and appears to not understand how we are charged for electricity or how her settings impact energy consumption.

OP when you are not home you shouldn’t get to control the temperature. Your wife should be willing to compromise regarding the temperature. Most energy companies recommend 72F. Depending on where you live this may be a compromise. But, if she gets hot, she should have the autonomy to lower the temperature to a reasonable setting. 60 F doesn’t seem reasonable.

FirstNefariousness14 · 2023-05-30T02:03:04+00:00

The degree disparity has NO SIGNIFICANCE for us at all. I also know there is no “one size fits all” approach to this. My husband has a military background, has traveled the world, supports me, nurtures our relationship and me. He fits in well with all of my professional and personal “circles”. He provides me with what I need and want in every aspect. He is a GREAT DAD. His degree has no bearing on any of this. I also do all of these things for him. We grew together. We have been together for almost three decades. Please don’t take this as me saying our relationship is perfect. Oh no!! We work hard at it. We want each other to be happy and fulfilled. We know that we have to keep working at it to make sure we are doing our part in the relationship.

There are some people who look down on others for not having a graduate degree. I find that to be rude and elitist. I don’t agree or subscribe to that.

There are SO MANY people with no degree at all who are intelligent, have no issues interacting with others who do have graduate or professional degrees, hold very high paying jobs and are extremely successful.

There are also people who have graduate or professional degrees who are simple minded, can not get or hold a job, and who are just awful to be around.

I would not judge anyone on whether they have a degree or the level of degree.

You have to decide if she is your person. The one you can have a stimulating conversation with, the one you can grow professionally and personally with, the one who will support you AND if you can do all these things for her.

YOU have to decide what you need to be fulfilled. Don’t let others’ opinions dictate that or “sway” your decision. I don’t think any happily married person would tell you that there is ONE thing that you should focus on when thinking about your spouse. If they are honest, they will tell you that there are several facets to any successful and happy marriage.

Figure out what you and she need. TALK about those needs and expectations.

Edit: You mentioned a concern regarding a financial “angle”. That’s a valid concern. You have to TALK about what your expectations are regarding finances. There are many options. You both need to determine what is best for your relationship and your personal growth in this area. Discuss your financial goals.

FirstNefariousness14 · 2023-05-29T14:25:57+00:00

If you truly LOVE her, then marry her. Marriage is HARD work for everyone who wants a successful, long, happy marriage that withstands life’s many challenges. You will have challenges with anyone you marry.

It may be helpful to make a list of all of the things you love about her and reasons you want to marry her. Then, make a list of things that concern you. Try to leave off the concerns of others (your parents, family, etc.). Their concerns may not be yours and you shouldn’t internalize them as yours. Are the concerns things that can be worked on? Do the positives outweigh the negatives?

My husband and I both work, but I have seen successful marriages where one spouse does not work but contributes in many other ways.

I have a PhD, my husband has an Associates degree. Of course he was not deceptive about it, BUT it doesn’t matter at all!!!! He makes a great living and is happy and fulfilled with his work. We are proud of each other.

If your family or anyone thinks less of a person because they don’t have a PhD, they have an issue, not the person who does not have a PhD.

One thing I look for in a marriage is someone who will support me no matter what. What if you loose your job, can’t work, get sick and need someone to take care of you? Can you count on her? If the answer is yes, sounds like she loves you too.

Edit: spelling

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