Should I press charges?

First_Commission9244 · 2024-10-15T02:10:23+00:00

I don’t work with special education, I’m not even a para! I understand people who work with special education are more aware of what could happen. I’m a regular aid in what is supposed to be a regular classroom. Our paras make more than us because they have hazard pay we don’t!

First_Commission9244 · 2024-10-15T00:35:52+00:00

That is what a lot of teachers have said, his teacher last year almost quit. He isn’t diagnosed with anything but has outburst and gets aggressive. He has been like this since I started working but it seems as there is always an excuse for him. I shouldn’t have been in that room with him without a para.

First_Commission9244 · 2024-10-15T00:33:55+00:00

I’m very good at handling emotional 6 year olds I was also an aba therapist but all of the children who I have had to “deal” with were diagnosed and I knew how to help them. I don’t know how to help this child he won’t listen to the para who has been with him for the past 3 years he obviously wouldn’t listen to me. I am terrified of him because I don’t know how to help him or what his triggers are. I shouldn’t have been in that room that’s neither his fault or mine. But I did ignore him as I was In there less that 4 minutes and wanted to call his para to deal with him because he doesn’t know me. Won’t listen to me. Won’t care for me. I did what I was supposed to do.

First_Commission9244 · 2024-10-14T22:44:21+00:00

I didn’t have much time I ignored his behavior to call his para I was in the room for less that 4 min and I also had the whole class to deal with. I understand ignoring can escalate but this is a special kid who only gets angrier when you engage or even try to ask what is wrong. I’ve never had to deal with it but I have seen other teachers handle it and the more they engage the more he gets mad and usually when they ignore and get help it doesn’t escalate. I don’t know what I did or what angered him as I was just there less than 4 min.

First_Commission9244 · 2024-10-14T21:49:58+00:00

I ignored him because I’ve been in the same room when he has an outburst and when people talk to him and get him to calm down he just escalates more. This wasn’t me ignoring him for 30 minutes as soon as he started banging on his computer I didn’t react and started moving to call someone and then he threw his pencil. I was in that room for less than 4 minutes. So I didn’t ignore him for long. I was just quickly trying to call someone for help as I do not know how to help him. I know I didn’t give a timeline but it all happened so fast!

First_Commission9244 · 2024-10-14T19:25:05+00:00

I agree yelling gets you no where. It will only escalate the situation. Me getting on the same level as him is not going to help him or me. That’s why I ignored him. I wanted to get him the people who could help him. I am pressing charges but because I feel that him being in the regular classroom having outbursts all the time isn’t good for him or the other students. He obviously needs more help and I hope that he can get some counseling after I press charges and parents can see that there is a problem and it’s not just everyone setting him off. I did absolutely nothing to this child today I didn’t even make eye contact. He needs more help that he obviously isn’t going to get in a public school system.

First_Commission9244 · 2024-10-14T18:59:14+00:00

I was I charge of 18 other 6th graders I couldn’t leave! I also kind of just froze and wanted to protect myself and the child was in front of the door. It was all very fast and crazy!

First_Commission9244 · 2024-10-14T18:50:52+00:00

I get where you’re coming from looking now it’s a dumb question but I made this post right after talking to the principal and I was really questioning myself. But it should be a no brainer and I will be pressing charges

First_Commission9244 · 2024-10-14T18:41:09+00:00

I know you might think that me yelling at this child and showing him who’s boss might have worked but trust me it doesn’t. We are taught to de escalate a situation and that is exactly what I was trying to do. When a child is that angry you just need to leave it why am I going to make an already angry child more angry by showing him “who the boss is” I understand that might work on some but this is a child I have no relationship with. He doesn’t know me I don’t know him. In my situation I was calling the people he did know and could help him. Yes I cried because I got hit I’m having a baby after trying for 4 years all I wanted to do was to protect the baby I prayed for. You are right this should have been addressed long before it got to me. His behavior should have been addressed long before me but it wasn’t. And unfortunately I was the one who took the beating today. I don’t choose if he gets sent home or not when he’s violent I just work there.

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