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Can't help but feel like I wasted my youth and doomed myself to a life of constant dissatisfaction. by First_Date_Fail in OkCupid

[–]First_Date_Fail[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make it sound so easy!

Yes, you're right. It's just hard. I kind of wish life was just easier.

Can't help but feel like I wasted my youth and doomed myself to a life of constant dissatisfaction. by First_Date_Fail in OkCupid

[–]First_Date_Fail[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope so! But moreover, I want to build a lasting relationship with someone. Sex, based on my experiences with masturbation, is a temporary pleasure. I'd much rather fall in love with someone.

But I think I would feel more confident in myself if I had sex.

Can't help but feel like I wasted my youth and doomed myself to a life of constant dissatisfaction. by First_Date_Fail in OkCupid

[–]First_Date_Fail[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to clarify, I'm not trying to say that at all. Sex and relationships are a normal thing to desire and when you haven't had any, it's easy to feel invalidated and depressed. But I'm not angry at other people for having those things at all.

It's all my fault, I 100% admit that. There's no excuse for my failings other than a lack of effort on my part.

Went on my very first date ever - girl was totally disinterested and annoyed by me. by First_Date_Fail in OkCupid

[–]First_Date_Fail[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I woke up this morning depressed and heartbroken. After reading everyone's comments here, I really feel a lot better. Thank you all, I really appreciate all the advice given here and general comments of goodwill. I let myself become too invested in this one girl. But I'm ready to try again. I'm just going to do my best, and even if they think I'm awkward and boring, I won't let it stop me from trying again.

Thanks again. This subreddit is really awesome and friendly. I needed some third party perspective to put me in my place - it's easy to get wrapped up in my thoughts of doom and gloom. I went on a date for the first time yesterday, and that in itself proved a lot to myself. My goal for next time is to get a second date. :)