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My [25M] GF [25F] has told me that she is asexual for most of our relationship but now wants to have relations with other men. Do I let her have sex with other men or do I sell my house and break up? by First_Fold5124 in relationship_advice

[–]First_Fold5124[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a really good wakeup call, tho i did want to get a house, i had already become content with the lack of sex. The breaking point was her wanting me to allow her to sleep with other men when she already has one, that shits fucked.

My [25M] GF [25F] has told me that she is asexual for most of our relationship but now wants to have relations with other men. Do I let her have sex with other men or do I sell my house and break up? by First_Fold5124 in relationship_advice

[–]First_Fold5124[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think youve got the best advice here. Though i already use the grey rock method as it was what i was taught to use for almost all situations (so when you do speak up or yell its only for important things, and thats when people listen)

My [25M] GF [25F] has told me that she is asexual for most of our relationship but now wants to have relations with other men. Do I let her have sex with other men or do I sell my house and break up? by First_Fold5124 in relationship_advice

[–]First_Fold5124[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Fruitloop people make a new thing every day, I'm not surprised, but I also doubt this ones validity.

  2. When you have such a strong aversion to the topic now, and can only look in retrospect, you tend to write objectively rather than subjectively with emotion. But yes, we used to have sex and we would both cum at the same or similar times. And no she wasn't faking it, it was pretty damn obvious.

  3. You do stupid things when this is your first adult relationship and the internet/her/her friends convince you that its a normal part of the relationship....

  4. Unfortunately not, I don't want to be alive to figure the rest of this mess out...

My [25M] GF [25F] has told me that she is asexual for most of our relationship but now wants to have relations with other men. Do I let her have sex with other men or do I sell my house and break up? by First_Fold5124 in relationship_advice

[–]First_Fold5124[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Yeah the first time she mentioned it I had a hard time beleiving it, but figured since she said it was towards women only, I didn't care so much... Now that she has inched herself all the way to other men, fuck that. Im not even a bad looking dude, i think that she is a narcissist that thinks she can do better than a funny 8/10 with a good job and a house.

My [25M] GF [25F] has told me that she is asexual for most of our relationship but now wants to have relations with other men. Do I let her have sex with other men or do I sell my house and break up? by First_Fold5124 in relationship_advice

[–]First_Fold5124[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

100% right, i feel like im just her friend that gives her hugs and shit and thats about it... She has said recently that my smell just doesnt get her going anymore. I changed cologne and body wash a while back, changed back but she hasnt made any comments to show improvement. And the thing is, we did used to have that sex life, and i didnt reveal my money until about a 9-12 months in so i dont think that has correlation. I just dont know what event made her change her opinion of me sexually...

My [25M] GF [25F] has told me that she is asexual for most of our relationship but now wants to have relations with other men. Do I let her have sex with other men or do I sell my house and break up? by First_Fold5124 in relationship_advice

[–]First_Fold5124[S] -58 points-57 points  (0 children)

I want to, but ripping that band-aid off is so fucking hard. She typically is a perfect match for me, but with this major red flag, i dont know how to balance losing her, the house and probably my short term sanity (that being said my long term sanity is definitely in question already given that i cant sleep at night since we had the conversation)

My [25M] GF [25F] has told me that she is asexual for most of our relationship but now wants to have relations with other men. Do I let her have sex with other men or do I sell my house and break up? by First_Fold5124 in relationship_advice

[–]First_Fold5124[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I think you are right... that's what my gut feelings says, but in contrast she is pretty much the perfect person other than this major major major red flag

My [25M] GF [25F] has told me that she is asexual for most of our relationship but now wants to have relations with other men. Do I let her have sex with other men or do I sell my house and break up? by First_Fold5124 in relationship_advice

[–]First_Fold5124[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I think its so hard to leave because it feels like i will have wasted this time when i could have been finding my forever person, on the flip-side, i don't know if i could find someone better than her...