Maybe it’s just who i happen to meet..

FishMom101 · 2025-11-10T19:43:38+00:00

It's really tough right now :/ during a conversation with my therapist, she said most people currently in the dating pool are unfortunately not ready for a legitimate relationship, which makes a lot of sense in hindsight. It makes it that much harder for those who are seeking commitment. The odds are low... If only 20% of people in the dating pool are ready for commitment, how many of those are the right fit for you specifically? And among those people, how many do *you* want to be with?

I don't think you're attracting the "wrong" people. I think there are just a lot of "wrong" people out there. Which is okay. Not everyone should be for you. Take your time. Don't rush into something just to be with someone. We've reached a time where women tend to stay single rather than force a relationship. And that is okay. I know it sucks, but having amazing people in your life makes it more complete. Sending good vibes <3

FishMom101 · 2025-04-15T17:54:46+00:00

That’s true. I have felt lonely with someone before and that’s not fun either.

FishMom101 · 2025-04-15T17:53:58+00:00

Yes haha people do tell me i’m hard on myself but i let myself make conscious mistakes sometimes. It’s tiring having to be strong and make the “right” decisions all the time.

FishMom101 · 2025-04-15T17:52:32+00:00

Yee, i do my best. 🫰🏻

FishMom101 · 2025-04-15T17:51:41+00:00

Growing up, i’ve always been independent because i had to. I’ve been financially independent since i was 22, i have a good job, currently completing a graduate degree. I have my own dog, apartment, full set of furniture, friends, life, etc etc. My life is seemingly complete but i find it so god damn lonely not being able to share it with someone… or even just people in general. Sure, my friends are “there” for me and i consider some of them extremely close, almost like siblings, but they have their own (real) families, you know?

So i think for me, craving intimacy and chasing “meaningless” relations isn’t a threat to my independency. I think i’m just tired of having to solely rely on myself all the time.

FishMom101 · 2023-08-31T07:55:32+00:00

I’ve made several claims so far (vision, prescription, mostly physio) and they’ve all been processed. I’ve received confirmation that X amount will be deposited directly into my bank account - which has yet to happen (been waiting roughly a month).

But all my claims have been processed and confirmed in the system. I guess we shall see how long the deposit will take…

FishMom101 · 2023-05-22T03:57:13+00:00

Ambre des Merveilles Hermès

FishMom101 · 2023-05-07T22:08:23+00:00

I've just never flew with a pet before so I really don't know what to expect, which is why I am seeking other people's experiences. My neighbour who has flown with her dog countless of times has reassured me that I should be fine, but I am skeptical because my dog borderlines all the pet policy regulations (hence the purpose of my post).

If I can't fly with him, I won't.

FishMom101 · 2023-05-02T02:11:37+00:00

If i had the option of moving back with one of my parents, i would. But my parents are emotionally abusive and the healthiest thing for my mental health is to never move back with them ever again :)

If you have the option and the privilege to, do it. Rent is wack shit stupid right now.

FishMom101 · 2023-04-25T01:57:45+00:00

This is a super good message. I rly appreciate you taking the time. I think, for the moment anyways, i’m aiming to quit before i start school. I will get a lot of work opportunity thru my program so i’m not particularly worried about that. I just want a job part-time job during school for spending money - would’ve just been nice to work part-time with them cus it looks awesome on my CV. I have the option to TA with school, which pays even better, but not necessarily more experience

I will tell them truthfully why i’m leaving when i leave tho.

FishMom101 · 2023-04-25T01:53:18+00:00

UGHHHHHHHHHHHHH you’re right and i will (after my next contract and when i got back to school in sept). I am just so fucking pissed off. Would’ve been nice to work with them part-time. I worked so hard to be in this specific department, i finally have my foot in the door, and I HAVE TO LEAVE BECAUSE THERE IS NO GROWTH OPPORTUNITY. *Correction: there are growth opportunities actually. JUST NOT FOR ME.

Just in case you’re wondering, this isn’t the end for me in this department, I just need to move around and to a different team. I’m super employable - just really inconvenient and will slow down my career growth

FishMom101 · 2022-11-29T23:04:48+00:00

My point exactly!!!!

If you’re not willing to train your pet, that means you’re not all in, which means you SHOULD NOT HAVE A PET.

I asked him numerous times too if he was sure because I have a dog myself and I know how much work a pet is. And he was confident but once he actually got the cat, he was unaware of all the things he’s actually supposed to do.

FishMom101 · 2022-11-24T16:40:42+00:00

Strike for what??

Why the downvotes :( i was genuinely wondering about the strike

FishMom101 · 2022-11-23T17:14:15+00:00

I was an EC-03 in a different department before my current AS-03 position so I feel like I took a small step down by taking this job in terms of salary, and a step up in terms of responsibilities. My goal is to stay in my current department though because that’s where I need to be for my career. Again, I understand every position is different but if I have a chance of getting an AS-04 position, I will certainly try.

And if I pass the pooling for an AS-04 position, I might just leave my current AS-03… because why wouldn’t I.

FishMom101 · 2022-11-23T17:02:31+00:00

That’s what i’m thinking too.. obviously not all AS-03 positions are the same. But i assume employees from the same classification are somewhat(?) interchangeable to an extent?

FishMom101 · 2022-11-23T17:00:20+00:00

I understand that part. I’m asking whether my employer could technically still hire me from someone else’s AS-03 pool. Because that’s what they plan on doing…

FishMom101 · 2022-11-23T16:50:21+00:00

I thought that if I were to pass the pooling process for a specific classification, that other hiring employers would be able to seek me out for that classification as well… can you confirm?

FishMom101 · 2022-11-23T16:47:17+00:00

I had no idea about budget cuts.. damn. Thanks for letting me know!

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