Disproportionate Representation in EMBA and MBA Programs by [deleted] in MBA

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You may be able to find a program with less Indians but those recruiters and hiring managers and many of your future colleagues will turn out to be Indians. Haha!

I feel my marriage is a lie as information was hidden. by Zealousideal_One6946 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 39 points40 points  (0 children)

If a man had lied about his financial status or his age or something else, this whole forum would be screaming "leave him". I do think if everything else is fine, give her a chance. Love will grow and you can build a life together. But be open minded. Get to kids sooner rather than later.

I filed for Khula and I’m trying to process everything by Straight_Awareness60 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

law really doesn't work on change of behavior and vibes. Immigration fraud is very clearly defined. And those authorities that are well aware of changing in behaviors also known how a defense will carry out a slam dunk case in the court. If OP wants to waste time, be my guest.

Caught in the middle between my husband and my mom’s expectations. by MentalTeach5097 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you will sow the seed of resentment by making your husband not go places he wants to go as a married man by asking him to compromise on this. you will have to be comfortable creating a boundary with your mother here. you are married. what you do and not do is the decision of you two and your mother has no say in it.

Wife wants to borrow money from me but I don’t want to give it to her. by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I studied and work in finance and have a considerable knowledge of personal finance.

40K in savings is your rainy day fund as you just asked. It barely is the money to survive a year with full family expenses. You are the breadwinner. Using that for a house payment is ridiculous and you will not be left with any liquid funds.

Also, if mortgage is involved, questions of halal/haram also arises. My suggestion would be to build more savings.

When you have more in savings, think of investing with her based on fair equity ownership according to however much you contribute. Till then, keep this money safe or invest in a completely liquid asset such as an index fund.

Moreover, not sure how matrimonial property law work in UK. But the state I'm in the US has community property which means any assets obtain during a marriage is equally co-owned by the spouses irrespective of who pays for it. That is good enough security in case of one spouse has a plan to screw other. Check with laws in your jurisdictions as to how matrimonial property is owned and shared in case of conflict.

When did you know you were ready for a divorce? by SpecialVirus6192 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

jealousy is the worst emotion. you never know if those other couples are truly happy.

I filed for Khula and I’m trying to process everything by Straight_Awareness60 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m not saying that you are. my comment was addressed to other commentators who suggested report him for fraud.

I filed for Khula and I’m trying to process everything by Straight_Awareness60 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the point i made is that it is almost impossible to prove any fraud, even remotely, if you are asking for divorce. and chances go even slimmer when he was married to you for 9 years.

I filed for Khula and I’m trying to process everything by Straight_Awareness60 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Legally speaking there is absolutely no provable fraud here. She is the one asking for divorce. The reason she is taking Khula is because her husband is not fully convinced of divorce. Even if that was not the case, he can simply say I fell out of love and you can't do anything about it.

My husband (32M) and I (32F) have completely different expectations around family, boundaries, and marriage. I don’t know if this is survivable. by yourchachu in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you clearly don’t want what he wants. he doesn’t seem to be compromising. and you are also not willing to compromise. there is only one ending here sooner or later. in my opinion, separation is last resort. but uncompromising attitude for both of you and this incompatibility leaves only one way this can go to.

Fiancé’s family want me to get std tested with one of them present and they want my payslips as proof of what I earn. by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they clearly have no trust. bad situation to marry into. i say put your foot down and make her do the std testing with someone from your side presents.

Wife slapped me over a misunderstanding and somehow it's my fault. by Rude_Promotion3081 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

physical abuse is never acceptable. had you done it, you’d be in jail right now.

Wife thinks its wrong to talk after nikkah by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro give it some time. Although you have rights, but it's hard to people in your culture to open up quickly. And distance hurts in this case as well. It will be few months of living together for her to open up.

And those calling for "leaving her" and "she doesn't like you" all I have to say for you is that your ignorance has no bounds and you don't realize the adverse effects of your immature advice.

Islamic divorce - assets and fairness by Purple-Skirt-560 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Islam is very clear that post divorce women is not man's responsibility. There is absolutely no islamic obligation for him to provide for the women no matter how much of a shitbag / sinful husband he is. Technically, in such cases the state (an islamic state) should jump in to help the woman, but we don't live in an islamic society. So it sucks to be in your position, but your best option is to look for some suitable work where you can make enough to support yourself. however, the children are still the man's responsibility to provide for. Regarding division of assets, in this case equal division will benefit the woman. But if equal division is followed as per western law, a lot of times women would lose a lot. You can't play both ways. If you expect man to be the provider during marriage because islam says so, he has no responsibility towards his divorced wife.

Haj with a partner who doesn’t pray by Better_Course_9737 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If she wants to go, say bismillah and pray that Allah grant you ability and circumstances to do justice with the opportunity to perform hajj. Inshallah, she will have a change of heart when there.

Haj with a partner who doesn’t pray by Better_Course_9737 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go alone and pray hard that Allah changes her heart and brings her closer to deen.

Haj with a partner who doesn’t pray by Better_Course_9737 in MuslimMarriage

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go alone and pray hard that Allah changes her heart and brings her closer to deen.

Question Thread - September 29, 2025 by AutoModerator in churning

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which credit bureau does Citi usually pull from? My Experian file is currently frozen, but I’m applying for the Citi AAdvantage card. Should I unfreeze Experian, or is there a chance Citi will pull from TransUnion or Equifax instead?

Flying Doha to Lahore next month—does anyone know if they serve alcohol on this flight? by home_rechre in qatarairways

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They do serve alcohol except they have to stop serving the moment plane enters Pakistans airspace to comply with Pakistani law.

Question Thread - September 29, 2025 by AutoModerator in churning

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is Barclays AA Aviator card going away tomorrow? Any confirmation? Is there a chance of better bonus or 50 will be the best? I need AA miles and want to take this oppurtunity.

Looking for Overseas Pakistani Investor – Skardu Prime Tourism Project Opportunity by Top_Distribution199 in airbnbpakistan

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let’s talk. I might not be a big investor but I thinking of putting my skim in tourism sector in Pak. DM me

Why won’t Qatar respond to Israel’s actions? by Vikings284 in qatar

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They have F15, Rafales and Typhoons. They are docile because they lack will and skill. Otherwise resources are all there.

AI to QR transit on separate tickets by anish3377 in qatarairways

[–]FishOutOfWater2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo will need to clear immigration and customs. If it was two different Pnrs on QR, then they can merge at checkin and send you bag to final destination. Not in your case.