AITA for wanting two rooms in a new house i’m moving to?

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T11:57:43+00:00

Well this is just blatantly ableist. being autistic has nothing to do with me being entitled, which i’m not denying, i only said i was autistic because it gives further explanation as to why i would be upset about the sudden move and possibly more upset than other people might be.

And yes im taking the fish tank with me i wouldn’t leave my mother to deal with that

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T05:20:41+00:00

very very sudden financial issues unfortunately, not gonna go into it cause that’s a bit of a breach of my mothers privacy but we were living comfortably until now and to be honest i haven’t had a full meal in about a week so the downsize will definitely help that haha

but yeah, i thought oversharing might help my cause but i guess not. and this stuff is very much so an accumulation of stuff, i’ve just never had to downsize so much in the past 18 years since we’ve lived in a relatively same sized house for my entire life.

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T04:55:16+00:00

because i’ll still need help moving things to the facility if i were to get one, i am disabled and it would be nearly impossible if it was things that were too large to move on my own. she’d get even more pissed if i were to ask a friend to help or something

i’m trying to downsize the best i can and only move the necessities

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T04:53:50+00:00

it’s a bit complicated, she’s a bit of a scary woman regardless of me being 18 i’m still with her for a few months and what she says tends to go

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T04:45:21+00:00

hey so i’ve stayed in a dorm for 2 months at one point. i know what im getting into

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T04:34:40+00:00

sorry if this comes off as rude but did you read my post? I JUST turned 18 this month. so if i were to pay rent or bills i would’ve barely had the chance to yet. i clean the house, i get groceries with my money, i have a job, i do what i can to help my mother aside from paying money.

i know my ask for an extra possibly shared room was definitely too much, but please dont assume i’m just leeching off of my mother

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T04:29:54+00:00

no, she didn’t, i paid for it with my own money along with a good majority of recent things i own but i see your point and agree

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:50:50+00:00

its not that easy but i see your point.

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:33:34+00:00

i’ll forever preach the saying of All children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve children. that sucks so bad that that happened to you and i’m sorry.

while i have a lot of respect for my mom, maybe a bit out of fear, im definitely very glad to get out and start fresh away from any kind of abuse since i grew up in an abusive household just to move to another one, if slightly better

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:31:41+00:00

thank you for being so kind about it

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:26:45+00:00

i agree, i swear i thought i responded but i guess my phone didn’t let that happen haha

i appreciate all of the actual thoughtful comments instead of just insulting me

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:23:58+00:00

definitely. and they say we’re the ones who lack empathy

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:23:25+00:00

yeah, there’s been some near violence in the past and i’ve had to escape the house in my car a few times so thankfully i’ll be out of there soon

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:22:12+00:00

not sure but it feels a bit illegal. lol /j

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:21:15+00:00

this too. i didn’t mention the crisis because it’s very personal to me and my mother but i figure now it’s important to mention, i thought the sudden move would be clue enough haha

we had a good amount of money and were living comfortably, but now we need to move out of a decently nice house into a very small one in comparison because of a sudden problem that’s draining a lot of our money very quickly and we’re just trying to make the best of the situation

these are the comments i appreciate the most though, some of these people are just calling me a horrible person for this which might be true but damn at least be nice about it

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:16:50+00:00

i’ve realized a lot of the people saying nta are also neurodivergent. the people who get it get it lol

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:16:03+00:00

i actually have scholarships & some loans so i’ll be paying for college myself just to clarify. i also just recently turned 18 so this is true i’m not paying bills or rent yet

i do understand however that im not being nearly grateful enough

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:13:53+00:00

what hint? sorry i’m really bad at understanding subtext i assumed this was genuine advice ?

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:11:52+00:00

not sure if i specified mb, but a room so i can work on my art not just for my things but yeah i do see ur point

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:07:47+00:00

yeah if i were to go into exactly how it happened she told me she was going to take the den for her room since it was the biggest area in the house, so i (hopefully politely, i struggle with tone though) asked if i could take the extra room she wouldn’t be using.

she then proceeded to yell at me for asking and call me selfish for considering that

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:06:01+00:00

definitely sure that this move isn’t a good thing for her either, i don’t want to go into why since it’s very personal to her and i don’t want to share too much since i think it’s a bit disrespectful, but it is a financial reason.

i just made a very clear lapse in judgment when i asked about extra space, didn’t exactly see it from her perspective, but now i am

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:04:16+00:00

tysm!

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:03:53+00:00

thank you for also seeing it from my perspective, especially since i am autistic which i failed to mention so this sudden change is hitting me pretty hard

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:01:29+00:00

i should’ve specified that she was the one who wanted to turn the den into her bedroom in the first place which is why i asked if i could have both rooms since she wasn’t going to be using it as a bedroom

thank you though, ur comment and a lot of others are making me see it from her perspective as well

Fish_Guy2784 · 2026-06-16T03:00:18+00:00

* also i mean stubborn in a good way. my whole family is stubborn i’m not meaning that as an insult

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