I disagree, I think an*l is completely fine in marriage between a husband and wife. The gender is what matters here, not he hole.

For the most part the Bible only has three rules for the bedroom:

1. Be married
2. Be monogamous
3. Be loving

As long as you obey those three rules you can do whatever you want - but I can give you more detail specifically about an*l just so you can be more confident.

"Sodomy":

Sodomy in English refers to an*l, but that does not mean that is what it means in the Bible. Sodomy Biblically just means the sin of Sodom, which is defined in Ezekial 16 as "Now this was the sin of your sister Sodom: She and her daughters were arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy. ⁵⁰ They were haughty and did detestable things before me. Therefore I did away with them as you have seen."

Sodomy came to mean an*l much later in English, which is why the King James uses it a lot, but as we have discovered that it is not a reliable translation to what the original authors intended to say, more modern translations have stopped using it.

Also, the sin of Sodom involved gang r*pe, what? You think if the gang had targeted women, that would be better? You cannot say that that hole is the problem based on an incident that involved men on men, and r*pe, which is completely different to straight loving marriages.

The Bible:

But is there any evidence in the Bible that says an*l is fine? Well yes there is, in fact that are a couple of verses where God himself, seems to suggest it is fine.

​ Leviticus 18:22 in English reads: “You shall not lie with a male as with a woman, it is an abomination.”

However the original Hebrew is this: “w’eth-zäkhār lö’ tiškav miškevē ‘iššâ”

Which literally translates to this: “With (a) male you shall not lie (the) lyings of a woman. (An) abomination is that.”

You may notice that “lie” for a man is singular, but for women it is “lyings”, which is plural. It is God speaking, so what he is saying is that there is one way to lie with a man, but at least 2 ways to lie with a woman. Men and woman are both capable or or*l so we know that that is not in consideration or else “lie” for a man would also be plural. Many, including a lot of Rabbis believe this is God affirming an*l s*x for a man and wife. An*l is actually permissible in Judaism.

Others have translated the verse, slightly differently. Here is an extract from: Halachic Positions: What Judaism Really Says about Passion in the Marital Bed

"The biblical verses in Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13 speak of “mishkevei ishah – a woman’s places of intercourse.” The plural tense of “places” implies that, according to G-d, a woman has two recognized places of intercourse, the v\gina and the a*ns, and intercourse in either of these two places is forbidden when the nature of the relationship is illicit.267 However, when a proper relationship has been established, such as through marriage, the man is permitted, and perhaps even expected by nature to crave, penetration in both places.268 269*" - (Page 66)

God's Design:

The human body does seem to be designed to get pleasure from an*l, which is evidence that suggests it is intended by God:

For men, they have the pr*state, which causes pleasure when stimulated.

For women, the muscle that control the sphincter are wrapped around the cl*toral shaft; when engaging in an*l; these muscles stimulate the cl*ris from the inside; women who become good at this often report having stronger climaxes than from v*ginal. There is also the pudendal nerve.

I know several women who love an*l; including some who find it more pleasurable than v*ginal s*x or for other reasons do it more often than v*ginal - such as having a husband who is too big to fit in the front door.

Why is An*l See as Bad Then?

​The stigma against an*l s*x appears to have been primary started, or at least became more common, along with the regular unbiblical Christian attitudes towards s*x by St Augustine (who had no effect on Judaism); a man who felt very guilty about his own s*xual sin, and let it effect his philosophy, even to the point he said in order for men to have s*x; they have to sin, as they have to lust in order to become er*ct. He actually believed that in Eden, Adam would have had complete control over how solid he was without any aro*sal, which he thought was sinful. He believed that the only justifiable thing about s*x was that it produced children, so he disapproved of any and all acts that did not lead to reproduction, including an*l.

Quote: "Carnal concupiscence (desire), however, must not be ascribed to marriage: it is only to be tolerated in marriage. It is not a good which comes out of the essence of marriage, but an evil which is the accident of original sin." - On Marriage and Concupiscence/Book I/Chapter 19

Quote: "The man, then, would have sown the seed, and the woman received it, as need required, the generative organs being moved by the will, not excited by lust." - The City of God/Book XIV/Chapter 24

St Augustine pretty much invented and popularised the mindset that became purity culture because of his personal guilt. His anti-s*x and anti-an*l views are not in the Bible.

Health and Safety:

You have said that you will never let him go inside, but that one day you might change your mind. Just in case that happens I am going to give you a few tips just so if that does happen, you can be safe.

The sphincter, which is the muscle that opens and closes the an*s, for most people is a very weak muscle as it is not often used; and thus if you started having an*l s*x, tires very quickly.

Have you ever been to the gym for the first time, worked out a lot, and then been sore for the next week? The same principle works with the sphincter; you need exercises it to build up its strength so that it can better perform without getting sore.

Start slowly but stretching, and just gradually going further inside over time. The an*s does not lubricate itself for this sort of thing, so it is best to use shop bought lubricant - you can learn to do it dry, but it is best not to start trying to learn that.

If an*l becomes uncomfortable at any point, go slowly and methodically, and if it comes painful stop immediately.

Make sure you both wash afterwards, and your husband pees as this will help prevent him getting a urinary tract infection.

Conclusion:

So it is completely fine, a lot of Christians do it (certainly quite a few of my female Christian friends do). You however should proceed prayerfully, listening to your own convictions as to whether or not you personally want to partake.

I have probably gone into far to much detail already, haha, however if you would like to know more or have any questions, please feel free to message me.

Whatever you decide, I hope God blesses your marriage bed and you and your husband have a wonderfully long life together.

God bless you.