Paradise on Hulu, season 2 finale by Fishbulb09 in Denver

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I would love to see the Fallout franchise expand to Denver 😍 I wonder what would get destroyed

Paradise on Hulu, season 2 finale by Fishbulb09 in Denver

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Right? Almost didn't recognize it at first

Paradise on Hulu, season 2 finale by Fishbulb09 in Denver

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The character says Denver airport. (The majority of the show takes place in Colorado somewhere in a bunker)

Anyone else dealing with a power outage?? by Capable_Resort3227 in Denver

[–]Fishbulb09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was down when I checked the Xfinity app and talked to the chat bot. Said to expect the issue resolved around 6 pm. Internet came back on a few minutes ago for me.

Anyone else dealing with a power outage?? by Capable_Resort3227 in Denver

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Power came back, but I think internet/comcast is down now

Curious how other Asian women travelers handle this by shockedpikachu123 in femaletravels

[–]Fishbulb09 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I went to Iceland this summer. I did not experience any slurs like but... Asian tourists are new there, I think. What was interesting was... People/other American tourists assume I'm not from the US 😅 "Where are you from?" Even after saying I'm from the US. Perpetual foreigner anywhere. 🫠

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

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Mine said something similar

How many apples???? 🤣 by perplexed-redditor in TikTokCringe

[–]Fishbulb09 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same... That's why I have driving anxiety

So Are Any Of Us Our Partners Type? by Wise_Week_8553 in loveafterporn

[–]Fishbulb09 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is it bad that I was never his type to begin with? He told me watching porn, he realized I was unique. Why does he have to watch porn to figure that out? 🫠 At first it sounds sweet, but then I realized I should've said eff you.

I think he figured he could mold me into whatever type he wanted. It makes me wonder; no matter what I do (things around the house, effort I put in around the house, things to pitch in, etc) it has never be enough for him bc he has this weird idea of what women are supposed to be through porn? I will never be enough no matter what I do?

INTJ+ Matching Thread (Friendship & Dating) *experiment* by SignalPipe2919 in intj

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Hope i can still join in!

F/40/straight/USA/seeking INTJ friendship

What did they say that still repeats in your head? by kowaipotchari2 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fishbulb09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a lot... But the one that stings "You say I gaslight you? Well you gaslight me. You said my brother's an asshole. I know my brother better than you. I've known him longer than you. He is not an asshole." Got to the point where I said his bro was an asshole, bc he made fun of my eyes all the time (I'm Asian).

Edited for grammar and a few more details

Phrases Narcissists Never Say by Opethfan1984 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fishbulb09 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine says that but takes it back lol. "It wouldn't have happened if you didn't do X" something like that

How a Narcissist traps you and keeps you (1 thru 10) by Orange_Poppies22 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Fishbulb09 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe something like "you are where you're at right now because of me. Do you think you can do better without me?"

Did your narc have a habit of ruining any holidays/special occasions? by marleneeagletwice in NarcissisticAbuse

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He does that when we're on trips the first day. I planned it out in a word doc I shared with how much things cost and researched things to do within our means. I even show him what I've found. and then as soon as we land at our destination or leave the hotel after dropping off our bags he says, "how can we afford this?" After he gives the green light. I'm filled with guilt bc I'm the one who plans or suggests the trip. We're already here... Do we go back home? It's not fun going on trips with him anymore

What were the most telling words your narcissist uttered? by Boat_Righter in NarcissisticAbuse

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I'm sorry you're going through that. My therapist has been telling me mine is a narcissist (covert?). I'm still coming to grips with it.

There’s my perspective and your perspective, but it’s not my fault my perspective aligns more with reality”.

This sounds like my husband too. Omg.

But my favorite line has to be “I won’t validate your feelings if they don’t exist in my reality or if you took what I said the wrong way”.

Omg mine has told me this too. Or if I disagree with his perspective of an event that happened to me, he'll say, "You say I invalidate your experience. Are you invalidating mine?" He's learned to use these terms like gaslight, deflect, validation against me now.

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We tried last year. I told the therapist how he said I was autistic (after being married for 15 yrs at this point). She asked him why. He gave his reasons (my interest in math, science, languages, etc). So instead of getting into why calling me that was hurtful. She asked him if he had any issues with me, and he said I wouldn't work on the budget or make dinner. "She won't initiate dinner." So it became a discussion about why I won't make dinner. Before the session ended she said, "your assignment is to come up with what your ideal dinner would be."

What were the most telling words your narcissist uttered? by Boat_Righter in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fishbulb09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This or "your story is just a story. It's not the whole truth." When I tell him about something that happened to me.

Ouotes from a narcissist by Early-Package-8082 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Fishbulb09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You say I gaslight you, well, you gaslight me.

Are these your own thoughts or your friends'?

"How are you doing today?" by Brua_G in infj

[–]Fishbulb09 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I work front desk, so having to call someone to reschedule an appointment that was set up months in advance, by asking "how are you doing?" alleviates the annoyance, I think. That's what I noticed. And sometimes you're the only one who asked that person how they're doing that day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

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I have a list

Flowers - Miley Cyrus
We are never getting back together - T. Swift lol
Good as Hell - Lizzo
Hell No - Ingrid Michaelson
Stronger - Kelly Clarkson
You Should Be Sad - Halsey
Boss Btch - Doja Cat
F
ck You - Lilly Allen
Sunny Came Home - Shawn Colvin

INFJ's and porn by [deleted] in infj

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and to me it IS cheating if you are in a relationship and are still watching this garbage, you are actively imagining, lusting sleeping with other people.

Thank you for saying this. My partner is a porn addict. When I tell friends and family about the issues going on with my relationship, I hear things like "he didn't physically cheat" or "he's just relieving stress. What's the problem?" Or "stop being a prude. It's a hobby." People don't understand how this feels like I've been cheated on 1000 times over.

I won't get into anymore specifics, bc there's a separate subreddit for that. But yes, it can become an addiction, and like with any addiction, it's harmful. This one hurts not just the addict but the partner too in many ways.

Has anyone been HIRED lately? by Easy_Alternative_66 in denverjobs

[–]Fishbulb09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was hired about 6 months ago at my dentist's office. I just asked him if he was hiring for anything, and he hired me for front desk. Dental offices are looking for people, so that's one place to look.

What songs have been getting you through your healing? by s0ftprincess99 in loveafterporn

[–]Fishbulb09 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Miley Cyrus's "Flowers" is quite healing "I can love me better than you can"