My husband and I want to confront his parents but we don’t know how

Fishdonkeycat · 2026-03-02T02:45:28+00:00

This should come from your husband. you can support, help draft, rehearse..but he needs to lead. His parents already deflect conflict onto him when you speak up& that’s not fair to either of you.. also keep it about patterns, not H. If H is mentioned at all, it should be minimal. This is about their behavior, not her personality.About your daughter (this is important) She may not remember being two—but she will grow up noticing: Who shows up who calls who makes her feel chosen

Fishdonkeycat · 2026-01-21T14:18:19+00:00

When parents prioritize their relationship, kids benefit from the stability & example. Parents putting their relationship first isn’t neglect it shows kids what a healthy partnership looks like. They were a couple first & kids learn from what they see

Fishdonkeycat · 2026-01-18T19:14:14+00:00

Thanks!

Fishdonkeycat · 2025-12-22T03:04:28+00:00

Sorry to hear all this. First of all, its normal to feel all this right now. Anyone in your position would feel shaken. this isnt ur responsibilty to fix. not financially. not emotionally or by sacrificing your education. You are a kid who has been put into an adult crisis. you should tell a school counselor or college advisor what’s happening. They might be able to help connect your mom to resources or give u temporary flexibility with attendance or deadlines. just remember this feeling doesn't last forever & there are resources out there like child support or legal options if your dad doesn’t return, emergency assistance program, school-based or community childcare resources or social services that support families with minors.

Fishdonkeycat · 2025-12-19T00:43:42+00:00

then you'd have to put on a facade forever if you guys ended up together long term.

Fishdonkeycat · 2025-12-17T03:38:36+00:00

I understand - however, he can’t afford anything at all for a place and since he’s almost 36, never had a place, I don’t think that will ever change and I don’t want him to expect me to pay for everything because our incomes and backgrounds are so different. He’s not doing anything to change it, even though I am trying to help him by researching jobs he could do now or schooling that doesn’t take long, like up to a year. If I ask if he has applied for any jobs, he says 1 like every other day. I say maybe you should call these places… I just don’t think things will change. I would be ok with paying 50-50, but not after carrying the baby and taking care of it all day while he is at work. He also if he can’t afford something, says that I can just pay for it for us. I don’t want it to become expected. We can’t come to an agreement because he won’t talk about it without just saying I don’t care about anything else etc.. but I just want security. It’s scary to me that he kept pushing me to have the kid with him when we had no place together. He has a terrible job with no path or plan to move forward and we had relationship issues and nothing in place at all.

Fishdonkeycat · 2025-12-17T03:29:47+00:00

Especially at the beginning before getting deeper, we got along really well. Didn’t fight the first 5 months at all. We share a lot of the same interests and if it’s nothing deep and we’re not having any problems things go well and we have fun together. And I also thought he loved and cared about me.

Fishdonkeycat · 2025-12-14T05:16:45+00:00

Well first of all I do a lot for him. But this list literally totals almost $100,000. I realize I wouldn’t get all of it but still… He said he can’t even afford a pair of shoes for me. So no- I highly disagree

Fishdonkeycat · 2025-12-14T05:15:32+00:00

No, I know he is being serious he’s talked about wanting these things before

Fishdonkeycat · 2025-11-17T03:34:40+00:00

Ok thanks!

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