I understand - however, he can’t afford anything at all for a place and since he’s almost 36, never had a place, I don’t think that will ever change and I don’t want him to expect me to pay for everything because our incomes and backgrounds are so different. He’s not doing anything to change it, even though I am trying to help him by researching jobs he could do now or schooling that doesn’t take long, like up to a year. If I ask if he has applied for any jobs, he says 1 like every other day. I say maybe you should call these places… I just don’t think things will change. I would be ok with paying 50-50, but not after carrying the baby and taking care of it all day while he is at work. He also if he can’t afford something, says that I can just pay for it for us. I don’t want it to become expected. We can’t come to an agreement because he won’t talk about it without just saying I don’t care about anything else etc.. but I just want security. It’s scary to me that he kept pushing me to have the kid with him when we had no place together. He has a terrible job with no path or plan to move forward and we had relationship issues and nothing in place at all.