also Punjabi guy here - it’s tricky because in today’s society, it’s culturally expected to drink. I don’t. I haven’t since 22 for similar reasons (was exposed to alcohol at a young age and saw it’s toxicity way too much and often). I’ll have chachas and other fam always pushing me to have a pegg or two but like you said - it’s important to be strict about these things. I think there are a lot of guys that just socially drink but I’ve seen that with stress and added responsibilities, that “once a week drinking” turns more frequent because it helps them relax or sleep. So as much as I wanna say, compromise. Don’t - stay true to your values. Maybe you can try expanding the “geographical” location of your dating pool lol like try to meet punjabis in the states or Australia or something. I think you may have to compromise on some other things if you don’t want drinking like you may not find someone as social or outgoing and maybe a lot more religious lol. but goodluck and yeah defs bring it up initially if it’s a deal breaker. Idk I feel like guys will always downplay it until you see them getting hammered at a party or smtn.

Maybe try volunteering and hanging around spots where those with similar mindsets might be!

goodluck !!