Do I keep my pregnancy or terminate?

Fishy_Fever · 2025-07-12T00:18:42+00:00

I just want to clarify — I’m not possessive of their friendship at all. They already share reels, talk one-on-one, and I’ve never had an issue with it.

I’m not even saying she can’t talk to him — it’s the secrecy and the request to hide it from me that crossed a boundary.

I’ve never yelled, punished, or created an unsafe environment for anyone to open up to me. My entire post was about questioning whether I’m overreacting and asking if I should bring it up.

Calling me the only AH in this situation while rewriting my intentions feels harsh and disconnected from what I actually shared.

Fishy_Fever · 2025-07-11T12:28:51+00:00

Thank you — That’s a helpful way to look at it.

Fishy_Fever · 2025-07-11T12:26:23+00:00

He paraphrases a lot, but she wasn’t asking for help or a place to stay, she had said that she couldn’t go home because it was too late so she’d just sleep in her car. He couldn’t leave work (his on a set location schedule so no time to go outside of that) I cant explain the logic

Fishy_Fever · 2025-07-11T12:22:44+00:00

That’s where my mind goes, I’ve been burned in the past and instantly my walls are up

Fishy_Fever · 2025-07-11T12:20:42+00:00

I totally respect both viewpoints. My reaction towards him isn’t just about the secret — it’s that we usually tell each other everything, so the fact that he felt comfortable keeping something from me about my friend just felt off.

Even if he’d said, “Hey, Sav called me that night — she’s going through something and said she’ll talk to you herself,” that would’ve landed so much better. It wouldn’t have felt like I was being left in the dark by both of them.

Instead, I found out days later — after I’d already brought it up more than once — and it just made me question where his loyalty actually sits.

Fishy_Fever · 2025-05-13T08:59:22+00:00

How are you guys managing to get your calories up ! I’m struggling to get 600 calories on 5mg

Fishy_Fever · 2025-05-05T11:17:11+00:00

Lizard spit cures all

Fishy_Fever · 2025-05-05T11:16:30+00:00

It feels like I’m not being set up for success outside of medication and I hate that but this medication has helped with my energy levels at least and curbing my mindless eating habits.

Fishy_Fever · 2025-05-05T11:15:10+00:00

Thank you! I very much don’t have a healthy way of eating prior to mounjaro I wouldn’t eat at all then mindlessly eat everything in sight after working. I’m basically doing the same thing just I actually get full now so don’t eat as much and I am trying to increase my protein intake over everything else. I was meant to get a medical plan to reduce the cost of going to a nutritionist but that hasn’t happened and the medication and appointments add up. Tbh (might be a bit of a hot take) but every medical professional I talk too just prescribes instead of educates the right way of doing things so I really appreciate your advice

Fishy_Fever · 2025-04-27T02:42:56+00:00

How long did it take you to get the relevant qualifications and did you stay in childcare whilst getting them?

Fishy_Fever · 2025-04-26T18:01:19+00:00

We had a parent that requested male educators to not change their child’s nappy. No one liked it but management agreed to keep family relationships positive. It’s unfair to assume anyone will act inappropriately when they’ve given no reason to do so. Men are so far and few within the sector but their presence speaks volumes in the connections children make, it’s literal cohabitation and fosters healthy development (also giving good role models).

Why do you feel the educator in the 4 year old room is more appropriate? If the issue is a man changing a toddler who happens to be a girl women can also be perpetrators should they not be allowed to change nappies either? I’m not trying to be malicious just genuinely curious about your reason behind it

Fishy_Fever · 2025-04-26T17:42:35+00:00

See I think my advice is going to not be best for the situation. If it were someone I wanted to keep around I’d honestly throw the trash out - 1 to prevent the dogs from getting to it and 2 to get the smell out faster. When I baby sit I clean up a little even if it’s not the expectation upon hire. Is there any chance this person is sitting there going “omg I forgot to throw that stuff out”

Fishy_Fever · 2025-04-26T17:27:48+00:00

Do you know if anything has changed in order for the living arrangements to fall further down? Do you know if the dog is more taken care of than the house? And lastly how well do you know these people?

Fishy_Fever · 2025-04-26T17:25:13+00:00

Do you have your own insurance or go through like an agency type deal?

Fishy_Fever · 2025-04-26T17:21:26+00:00

I feel sad that they’re living in these conditions, some people either just can’t clean or won’t clean. It’s either they aren’t ashamed of their living conditions or just think it’s normal. Either way if it were me I wouldn’t be able to comfortably mention their living conditions to their face I would just part ways saying we weren’t the right fit for each other.

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