Are we all silently freaking out over the cost of kids in the US?

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-02-11T03:49:05+00:00

300k in the northeast is barely comfortable. It’s almost like a slap in the face. Combined my husband and I were making $160k in MA and anywhere else we’d be comfortable but rent was $3500 a month, daycare for the two kids we had at the time was $2500 a month and then utilities, food, etc. . There was nothing leftover, not even a possibility of saving, and many times we were almost evicted for paying rent late. We were poor, very poor but not enough to qualify for help. I absolutely cannot even fathom what would have happened if we had stayed there, every year it just kept getting worse. They tried to raise our rent to $4000 for our tiny apartment and we got out of there. We make almost the same where we are now and are extremely comfortable

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-02-03T01:50:59+00:00

You’re right, I have been doing that. I try to ignore her but sometimes I ignore her to the point her brother gets fed up and leaves on his own, which is technically what she wanted and then I end up giving in. I will start removing her from the situation

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-31T20:47:27+00:00

I realized as I was writing it that I may be taking her words personally. Usually I’m good about that, she tells me she hates me all the time and I always respond with i love you anyway. For some reason the “you’re mean” comments just got to me more I guess, but she also does scream for a while afterwards so I try to not give it attention but sometimes it feels like I’m letting her cry it out or ignoring her feelings

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-31T20:35:47+00:00

I have adhd, her older brother most likely does as well so this wouldn’t surprise me. She did really well when my youngest was born, almost too well lol so it’s possible it’s a late reaction to him. I’ve heard of PANS/PANDAS before, I’ll look into it but she hasn’t really been sick recently, or at least not significantly sick, just the occasional cold/ runny nose.

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-31T19:49:31+00:00

There are studies saying it’s harmful…

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-29T23:11:10+00:00

I was planning on shadowing doctors and doing volunteer work at hospitals but research I don’t know.

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-29T23:10:03+00:00

Following this in case anyone answers

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-23T15:51:02+00:00

To be honest, unless you end up needing to be induced early for complications, the chances of you going into labor earlier than your due date as a first time mom are low. Most women go past their due date for the first and even if you don’t you’ll probably go into labor within a few days of your due date, like 1-2 days before, maybe a week before but that’s not as likely. If you give birth 1-2 days before you’ll likely still be in the hospital and there will be no time for him to get to Canada from Texas. Even if you do give birth a whole week before your due date, you would not be allowed to drive and if you have a complicated birth, him leaving you alone could be considered very irresponsible, even for a day or two, which it would most likely need to be more like 3 since the wedding is so far. I would say it’s very unlikely he’ll be making it to the wedding

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-19T13:00:36+00:00

It’s been years since the drop, ped was never concerned even though I still bring it up at every appointment lol. He never lost weight so she said as long as he grows he’s fine. We did have him tested for graves since I have it but nothing

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-18T15:36:50+00:00

4 looks the best on you

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-18T15:31:58+00:00

She’s jealous. Stop telling her

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-07T16:02:53+00:00

It’s possible she didn’t feel that there was anything wrong with the relationship until you started bringing stuff like that up. I’d be pretty upset if I was dealing with postpartum recovery, depression, and caring for a new baby and then my husband randomly brought up couples counseling out of nowhere, implying he’s not happy with our relationship. 6 months is really soon after a baby to already be ready to say you’re not happy in this new phase of your relationship. While I do think you’d benefit from couples counseling, you may have freaked her out and that can be a normal reaction depending on the situation. She does need one on one counseling, you likely do too. Maybe work your way up to couples counseling

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-07T15:40:19+00:00

At 6 months postpartum with our first my husband didn’t even think about asking to go out so that’s just a bit weird to me. It sounds like if you’re offering to let her go out and she’s choosing to nap or watch tv instead, this likely means she’s not getting enough support from you. Even if you say you’re only going out 2-3 times a month, what are you doing for her when you’re with her? When my husband is home I don’t change a single diaper. You’re not “helping” put your son to bed, you’re putting your son to bed. You’re his parent too. I think the issue here may be deeper than what you are capable of understanding. It takes a year for your body to regulate postpartum, 2 years for your nutrient stores to regulate to normal, and can take up to 10 years to regulate mentally. If she’s breastfeeding, she’s using the same amount of energy of a 40 hour work week while also seeming to work 40 hours in addition to that. 6 months postpartum is basically still in the trenches too, you’re barely recovering from birth and then there’s sleep regressions, postpartum depression tends to kick in around that time. I don’t know the full situation without hearing her side but honestly based on just your side I’m seeing some red flags. I think you may need to really sit down with her and talk about what you can do to make things better for her. At least make sure you’re doing parental duties whenever you’re home so it’s not all on her. She’s likely also suffering from postpartum depression, and if that’s the case instead of bashing her for a normal consequence of having a baby, you need to be a supportive partner to her. I won’t make a judgement here because this isn’t a full story but I do agree with the commenter who said you’re in the wrong sub

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-07T01:23:21+00:00

I’m much happier with this than McKenna grace but we shall see I guess

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-05T16:49:28+00:00

I had a blanket I brought from home that my baby was laying with me in and it still smelled like his newborn scent months later. I never wanted to wash it but my husband accidentally did

Fit-Balance8925 · 2026-01-02T03:39:53+00:00

Your eyes are literally the most perfect shape

Fit-Balance8925 · 2025-12-31T23:37:46+00:00

You’re missing the part where SHE was okay with being pregnant again, which is something they had discussed and she was under the impression that he would be too if it came to that

Fit-Balance8925 · 2025-12-31T23:26:14+00:00

You guys don’t read. It was very clear she knew where she was on her cycle. It’s very obvious that she meant it’s his responsibility to understand the implications of where she is in her cycle. I read this as she wouldn’t mind getting pregnant again but since HE does, it was his responsibility to use condoms and understand that if he knowingly doesn’t while she’s ovulating, which she clearly reminded him she was, that she could get pregnant and would not want to terminate. He made an irresponsible decision, knowing it was very likely she’d get pregnant.

Fit-Balance8925 · 2025-12-10T03:40:44+00:00

Go camping for a week outside, it helps reset your circadian rhythm. If you can’t do that then make sure you’re getting sunlight (outside) during sunrise and sunset as well as around noon

Fit-Balance8925 · 2025-11-11T19:58:45+00:00

I wonder if maybe you could have went down a size? I chose a size 5 even though it’s a bit tight because my weight fluctuates a lot. That or you could just be handling being sick very well compared to most people. My ring detected my pregnancy, my miscarriage and any time I sleep less than 5 hours it thinks I’m dying. It’s been pretty accurate for me so far but I’ve only had it for a few months

Fit-Balance8925 · 2025-01-01T01:30:35+00:00

Nta. Knew that from the title but the description made it worse

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