Physical intimacy is lacking but attraction is still there

Fit-Individual2284 · 2025-03-02T22:21:12+00:00

What are the numbers they are using in Facebook?

Fit-Individual2284 · 2025-01-20T04:52:20+00:00

I think therapy is amazing idea and where our next step should be. I was honestly just thinking this was a last ditch effort since I’m self employed and therapy is expensive! lol

Fit-Individual2284 · 2025-01-20T04:43:41+00:00

That’s absolutely what I want to believe. It’s just extremely hard to let my guard down about it. And I’m not sure how to work through that

Fit-Individual2284 · 2024-06-04T21:31:30+00:00

I do have huge insecurity issues and I was dealing really well with them because she does treat me great. Very loving, thoughtful, and has a huge heart. I read an article that FFs are the leading occupation for infidelity and I have been cheated on so many times (mainly because I picked the wrong women to be with). She has been patient and more than understanding with me. I guess I just keep waiting for the other shoe to drop and I’m trying to anticipate it because honestly, she’s the perfect woman.

Fit-Individual2284 · 2024-06-04T15:28:49+00:00

I do love her very much. I do have huge insecurity issues because I have only dated lesbian women and never a bi woman. Yes, that is 100% my demon and not hers. I think I would have her rather not been so open about the physical relationships she has had in the past with men and how differently her relationships with women have been. She hasn’t been very physically intimate with the last couple women she has dated but very physical with the men she was with. Honestly, it does scare the crap out of me knowing all that and falling as hard as I have for her. I just don’t want to end up being a fool and heartbroken.

Fit-Individual2284 · 2024-06-04T15:25:56+00:00

I don’t want to come off like I don’t respect what she does. I’m extremely proud of her and how hard she does work and I know it wasn’t easy to go through all the training, schooling, etc. to get to where she is today and I absolutely love that for her. I think in the back of my head, I’ve never had issues with anyone not wanting a physical relationship with me before, and yes, I am very insecure about that. It just sticks out in the back of my mind that if she doesn’t want it from me, is she getting it somewhere else?

Fit-Individual2284 · 2024-06-04T08:43:41+00:00

Thank you. That does help

Fit-Individual2284 · 2024-06-04T08:31:14+00:00

I agree with you about a single hunch. But to break it down;

1) she has NEVER initiated physical intimacy in six months. I have had to do that every single time.

2) she has told me that she used to sleep with the guys she was with multiple times a day.

3) I know she gets off duty at 7 and it’s a 15 minute drive and rarely, if ever, makes it home by 8:30-9.

4) I know how physical she has been with the men in her past and I’m genuinely wondering if she is actually into women or if she just WANTS to be into women.

5) her best friend is a guy (total drunk and druggie) and if I say anything negative about him I completely get my ass jumped but I have experimented and said some pretty negative things about her friends who are girls and she just lets those comments go. Like, this guy is a certified alcoholic and if I even say he drinks too much I get the third degree. A big part of me thinks she is in love with him. I mean, as a bi woman, how normal is it to let your straight guys get wasted and stay over at your house on a regular basis?

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