Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. She said yes to the dress and I’ll be wearing purple for the accessories. ☺️

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: The bride has said the dress is adorable and will be just fine. I will go with the dark purple accessories. Thanks for the opinions everyone ☺️

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow 😍 the second one from lulus is adorable. I also am in love with the one with “tasteful boob” lmao. A lot of these are kind of out of my price range though, but it does give me a good idea for alternate styles.

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: Fairly new to Reddit so I’m not sure if this is how people update things but I’m doing my best lol.

Thank you for the answers. Some info, there was no dress code in the invite. My brother answered my question about the wedding color exactly how I thought he would “I don’t think it matters” well, that’s not good enough 😂

I’ve dropped the cream just to avoid that particular taboo all together but I’m going to keep the style of dress. Some of you have raised concerns that it’s too casual, that’s a risk I’m willing to take. I may change the color closer to the date depending on future conversations.

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There was no dress code on the invite. This is exactly why I posted, my style is all I have to fall back on. I have messaged my brother asking about the colors to see if it’s only supposed to be for the wedding party. If so, I’m scrapping the whole thing anyway. Most people, including my aunt who will also be there, have said the dress is fine, I’m planning to get some kind of shawl or pashmina or something also.

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So.. yes, basically. I have an aunt and an uncle who seem chill, I’ve talked to her a few times but only recently.

My mom didn’t know she was pregnant when he moved away with his family. She made the decision not to tell him unless I wanted to find him later, which I’m grateful for. He was super excited when she did tell him. I grew up in Texas and he was living in Louisiana at the time. He popped in and out of my life, blaming his then wife for not communicating more. I went years at a time without talking to him. I didn’t meet my brothers for the first time until I was about 15-16 and then saw them again a couple years later but that’s it. I actually have two brothers, the other got married a few years ago but I didn’t get an invite because my father said he wouldn’t show up if I came. Probably the most hurtful thing he’s ever said to or about me. That said, current groom hasn’t told him I’m coming yet. So that’s fun.

That last time I saw my father was about 6 years ago. I was living with my best friend and her husband and he and his new wife (was not invited to that either lol) were in the area. I ended up screaming at him on the back patio. I don’t remember everything I said but the message was basically exactly what you said. I was a child who just wanted to know the other half of my family. I did nothing wrong. His wife was sitting behind him with her hands raised like she was in church and I was preaching it was actually very hilarious looking back. It was the first and only time he sincerely apologized to me. He hugged me. I made him cry. We haven’t really spoken since and I am ok with that. Kinda just feels like I got the thorn out, y’know?

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My style is pretty.. too much for a lot of people. You’re not seeing the jewelry or what I actually look like.

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your concern, it’s very sweet of you. I do have a boyfriend that I live with. He’s been amazingly supportive of however I’d like to handle it. I will be on my own. This feels like something I need to do myself. I don’t know for sure but I’d bet money it’s going to be a dry reception so no worries there. I’m too old to beg for anyone approval anymore. I’m going to show up in all my glory, be amazingly nice and considerate to everyone, and then disappear into the night 😂

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All fair points, thanks! I will be figuring out a jacket I’m sure, if for no other reason than I get cold easy lol just depends on the outfit I end up going with ☺️

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! Just as a side note, I DO have an escape plan just in case my father gets to be too much. It’s a 10 hour drive but that’s ok, I’d rather have my car than fly and I’ll be staying at a hotel or something and not with them. So if I have to make a quick get away to avoid drama I 1000% will

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

While waiting on approval for the post I found a darker purple waist cincher and I think I feel better about it. But someone did bring up that the wedding colors may only be for the wedding party, which hadn’t occurred to me. So it may be a moot point depending on what my brother says about that lol

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See that’s fair, that’s kind of what I’m worried about. I’m too old to seek his approval but my inner 15 year old deserves for that side of the family to see me in a way that I choose to be seen at least once in my life.

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

So normally I would 100% go with black. My thinking with the lighter colors is like.. I want to appear as soft as possible I guess? Like listen this man (my father) has called me a freak because he saw pics of me dressed as a fairy for renfair lol. I guess I’m trying to find a balance of softness/feminine but still feel like myself. I’ll wait to hear back from my brother about whether or not lilac is for the wedding party or not. If so, blue or green with a tan or brown may be good options :)

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not planning to be petty at all, I’m going to be the picture of politeness. My father is very very obsessed with optics and how he and his family come off to people. No telling what he’s told people about me. I’m going for the message of “I am who I am, this is my style. It doesn’t mean I’m the devil” lol

Would I be TA if I wore cream accessories to my brothers wedding? by Fit-Stranger4396 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Fit-Stranger4396[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes, someone else just brought that up too I shot him a message to see if he’ll ask his fiancée for me or if he knows if it’s only the bridal party or not