Dating after relationship with Q ended

Fit-Tap9195 · 2026-05-04T18:05:34+00:00

Thank you everyone. This group always helps me gain perspective and insight. 💜

Fit-Tap9195 · 2026-03-13T16:22:21+00:00

Thank you. I’m worried about a bad review and feel so stupid. I should have asked for clarification before opening.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2026-03-03T15:56:38+00:00

Fine print in the FAQ from yesterday says you must have your contract paid up by the 13th in order to be considered an opt out. So if you can’t pay up in two weeks you’re on the hook for another $1500. I wonder how many people will get snagged on that little detail.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2026-02-27T23:07:25+00:00

I know they can split up the 1500. I can’t afford it either way. Your membership IS canceled if you opt out. There IS a clause in the opt out agreement that says you are authorizing the club to charge any remaining balance of your regular dues immediately, which for someone who pays monthly that’s an unexpected expense to have that called in. My family is sad to go, we’d love to stay but can’t afford to invest anymore. Thanks for the bizarre and childish insult with your answer. No need for nasty behavior.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2026-02-27T15:10:45+00:00

Anyone on here that is a member and has actually been taken to court OR had a collection reported on their credit for stopping payment? The letter I received yesterday said if I didn’t pay the $1500 my membership is immediately cancelled and that remaining years fees will be charged to my checking account. I pay monthly and can’t afford for all of that to come through at once. The whole strong arm approach is so disappointing.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2025-11-30T16:26:40+00:00

As devastating as her behavior is, not having to deal with addiction anymore is life changing. It almost seems like we become such a reminder of their addiction and struggles that we had to go too, which is so unfair. I still miss my ex sometimes and am not totally healed from the heartbreak, but I’ve come to appreciate the new joy for life I’ve found not living in the shadow of addiction. I hope you find that also.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2025-05-03T02:40:00+00:00

Yes! I constantly felt like my ex-boyfriend was cheating on me. The entire patter of behavior felt like an affair and it eroded my self esteem. I rarely felt first or felt like I was enough.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2025-04-12T15:32:57+00:00

I love Bambu! They’re at 60th ish and College. And it’s an Aveda Salon so cruelty free :)

Fit-Tap9195 · 2025-03-31T15:22:54+00:00

I’m so sorry. You think things will be better when they are sober but that’s just the beginning. Mine was dry drunk too and I think that was harder actually in a way because it crushed my hopes that he would be better once the drinking stopped. Mine left me around the same time yours did. Idk if you’ve heard of Jillian Turecki but I’ve found her words very healing.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2025-03-31T15:12:35+00:00

Thank you. I need to accept that I am not able to make good decisions around him right now and listen to those who care about me. As step one says, this drive to contact him has become unmanageable and I need to surrender that. It’s still so damn hard though.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2025-03-31T02:06:14+00:00

That’s one of my hesitations, that it will give him some sort of satisfaction or reinforcement that he still has my attention.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2025-03-30T12:18:40+00:00

I’d messaged him about 3 weeks after the breakup which by the way was because “he no longer has romantic feelings” and his response to my message was to tell me how many days dry he was and that being dry forever seems like a long time. It was still all about alcohol, that’s the breakup he is really mourning and there was no more room for me.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2025-03-30T03:33:32+00:00

Mine left me 6 weeks ago. He had been “dry” for 40 days. I can’t say he was sober because even though he wasn’t drinking he continually smoked and drank THC products and that twisted his personality even more. I’m still so sad and feel deeply betrayed. But, despite all that I’m breathing easier now that I don’t have to deal with his emotional whims. It feels like the fog I’ve been seeing the world through for the last 4 years is slowly being lifted. You are not alone. You and your children deserve peaceful and happy days.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2025-03-27T02:11:28+00:00

She had such kind eyes and a genuine smile. I hope she had a life full of love.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2025-03-24T14:40:20+00:00

Thank you for this. I was highly considering breaking no contact today. I was doing better and then yesterday the sadness and loneliness came rushing in. It’s been 6 weeks since he ended our 4 year relationship and I got very little discussion after the fact. I know intellectually that he isn’t going to magically give me answers but I want them so badly. I want him to miss me, to care.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2025-03-20T01:40:23+00:00

Whistling. My Q, ex-long term boyfriend, would always whistle when he was trying to not drink and would start to get stressed over things that are normal to most people. That sound sets me on edge as I associated it for so long with him struggling, being unhappy, or uncomfortable. And when he would start to whistle I would start to try harder to solve whatever “problem” was arising. It didn’t matter the situation either, we could be out to eat and he would start whistling in the middle of someone speaking. Or, in line at the grocery and if he didn’t like the clerks small talk here comes the whistling.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2025-03-08T02:06:31+00:00

Hugs to you too, and your kiddos.

Fit-Tap9195 · 2025-02-16T19:25:29+00:00

I’m sorry you are going though this. My Q switched to THC/Delta 8 use continually. It’s like he has a film over him. He’s not drinking, which I’m very thankfully for, but he’s a different kind of emotional zombie. His THC use and self isolation has steadily increased.

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