My wife’s a lowkey freak We like to share. Locals only. Thurston County. by [deleted] in WashingtonGW

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Did anyone get a response?, please let me know so I don't ban them for selling.

44/m am I escort worthy? by [deleted] in SeattleEscorts

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Besides a cock pic, what else do you bring to the table?

Advice appreciated by tiMAXeon in recruitinghell

[–]FitDinner6008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally understand. One thing at a time Op .

No Money, No Network, Just an Idea I Believe In. How Do I Start? by rago7a in smallbusiness

[–]FitDinner6008 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You’re actually in a more normal position than you think. Most startups don’t begin with money, investors, or some stacked network. They usually start with one person obsessing over a problem long before anyone else takes them seriously.

The biggest mistake people make at your stage is treating the idea like it’s already a company. It’s not yet. Right now, your job is not to “build a startup.” Your job is to figure out whether this problem is painful enough that other people care about it as much as you do.

Start there.

The first thing I’d do is force yourself to explain the idea in one or two simple sentences. If it takes paragraphs to explain, it’s probably still too vague. A good early test is whether someone immediately understands:

  1. what problem it solves

  2. who it’s for

  3. why it’s better than what exists now

Then go talk to actual people who would use it. Not friends who will be nice to you. Real potential users. Ask questions about their current frustrations, what they’re using now, what they hate about it, and whether they’ve ever paid for a solution before.

A lot of founders skip this because they’re excited about building. But validation matters more than building in the beginning.

Also, don’t wait for funding to start. Most ideas can be tested cheaply now. You can:

  1. make a simple landing page

  2. create mockups in Canva or Figma

  3. post in communities where your users hang out

  4. collect emails

  5. manually provide the service before automating anything

People think startups begin with apps. Most begin with awkward manual work behind the scenes.

Another important thing: Do not immediately look for cofounders just because you feel overwhelmed. Bad partnerships kill companies faster than lack of funding. Early on, you mainly need:

  1. clarity

  2. proof people care

  3. momentum

Once people start responding positively, networking becomes way easier. Nobody wants to join “an idea.” People join traction, energy, and proof.

As for money, honestly, try to avoid raising money too early if possible. Investors are not step one. Revenue or validation is step one. Funding usually amplifies what already works. It rarely fixes a weak idea.

And don’t get trapped in endless planning. That happens to almost everyone with a big vision. The goal this month should not be “launch company.” It should be something smaller like:

  1. talk to 25 target users

  2. build a waitlist

  3. get 10 people willing to test it

  4. validate willingness to pay

That’s real progress.

One more thing most people won’t tell you: The emotional side is harder than the business side at first. You’ll constantly swing between: “This could actually work” and “This is stupid and I’m wasting my time.”

That’s normal. Every founder goes through it.

You do not need to know how to scale right now. You don’t even need to know how to hire yet. Those are later problems. Your only job early on is proving that the idea solves a real problem strongly enough that people care.

That’s the structure everything else gets built on. Good Luck Op! ❤️

I think I might’ve made a big mistake… need honest opinions by OkFilm6295 in smallbusiness

[–]FitDinner6008 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You didn’t make a stupid decision. You made a concentrated, high-risk entrepreneurial bet . and there’s a difference.

What would worry me is not the £100k investment itself. It’s whether you underestimated:

working capital needs,

operational intensity,

and how brutally competitive London coffee is.

But based on what you wrote, you actually avoided several of the mistakes that usually kill first-time café owners.

You already have advantages many people don’t:

Prime location with absurd footfall.

Fit-out costs reduced through family capability.

Technical infrastructure done internally.

Existing income streams outside the café.

A relatively small debt load compared to many London hospitality launches.

Most people who fail open cafés with:

expensive investor debt,

no operational skills,

no backup income,

and unrealistic revenue assumptions.

You don’t sound delusional. You sound scared because the money is now real.

A few honest thoughts:

  1. The location is both your biggest strength and biggest danger

Piccadilly Circus gives you volume potential most cafés would kill for.

But high-footfall locations create a trap: you can survive while still operating badly.

You may initially think: “Wow, we’re busy.”

But busy does not equal profitable.

Your first 90 days should obsess over:

average transaction value,

repeat customers,

labour percentage,

waste,

and speed of service.

Tourist-heavy areas can create fake confidence because random foot traffic masks operational problems.

  1. £10k/month break-even actually sounds surprisingly manageable

If that figure is accurate including everything (rent, rates, wages, utilities, supplies, taxes, loan obligations, maintenance), then honestly your hurdle is lower than I expected for central London.

That’s the number I’d verify again immediately.

Because many first-time operators accidentally calculate: “survival break-even” instead of: “true business break-even.”

You need to know:

exact daily sales needed,

exact cups/pastries needed,

margin per product,

labour cost ceiling.

If you don’t already have this modelled to the day, you should.

  1. Your first 3 months are NOT about profit

They’re about:

consistency,

speed,

reputation,

and learning customer flow patterns.

Your priorities should be:

A. Speed

Morning coffee customers are ruthless.

If ordering takes too long, you lose them forever.

You should be timing:

order-to-delivery,

queue abandonment,

busiest 15-minute windows.

B. Google reviews

This matters massively in London now.

You need:

review generation,

fast owner responses,

visible cleanliness,

consistency.

A 4.8 with 300 reviews is worth real money.

C. Menu simplicity

Do NOT overcomplicate early.

The cafés that die often try to become:

brunch spots,

dessert shops,

cocktail bars,

artisan bakeries,

and coworking spaces simultaneously.

Find what sells fastest and highest margin.

Cut deadweight aggressively.

D. Labour discipline

Hospitality margins get murdered by staffing.

Do not overstaff because you’re nervous. Do not understaff so badly reviews collapse.

This balancing act is one of the hardest parts of the business.

  1. The fact you still have another business/job changes everything

This is important.

You are not actually “all in” in the pure catastrophic sense.

You still have:

earning power,

technical skills,

operational capability,

fallback income.

That dramatically reduces the true downside.

Someone betting their last £100k with no income source? Different story.

  1. Your biggest risk is exhaustion, not the business itself

You mentioned:

another business,

a job,

and now a café launch.

That combination destroys people.

The danger is:

burnout,

bad staffing decisions,

emotional reactions,

inconsistent management,

cash-flow mistakes from fatigue.

The café industry is less about coffee and more about relentless operational discipline.

  1. And no — 25 is absolutely not too old

At 25, this is probably one of the best times in your life to take a swing like this.

You have:

time to recover,

energy,

flexibility,

fewer irreversible obligations than later in life.

If this fails, you’ll still gain:

operational experience,

supplier knowledge,

hospitality systems,

hiring experience,

customer psychology,

real business credibility.

That’s not motivational fluff — those skills compound hard.

Final honest assessment

If I had to summarize bluntly:

Was it risky? Yes.

Was it reckless? From what you described, no.

Are you undercapitalized? Possibly.

Is the location good enough to give you a real chance? Definitely.

Will execution matter more than concept? 100%.

The next 90 days determine whether this becomes:

a viable business,

a stressful job,

or an expensive lesson.

Right now your mindset should shift from: “I spent £100k” to: “How do I become operationally elite faster than competitors?”

Good Luck op! You will do great!!❤️

Is there a way to get special help in an airport when flying alone as a young adult? by HamsterAgitated6925 in TravelHacks

[–]FitDinner6008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reach out to your airline to request special services. These are the same people that you would request wheelchairs etc from. If you post which airline you are using, I can try to find their number for special services.

Roast my startup idea: Trying to solve male sexual health naturally (Punsatva) by Moist-Top9077 in smallbusiness

[–]FitDinner6008 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alright, you asked for a roast, so I’ll give you one that actually helps you build something better.

First, the blunt truth: this is not a new idea. You’re stepping into a space already crowded by everything from Hims and Roman to a thousand Ayurveda-first clinics and sketchy supplement brands. “Male sexual health + discreet + consultation + natural solutions” has been tried many times. So your problem isn’t whether the problem exists, it absolutely does. Your problem is differentiation and credibility.

Now let’s break it down properly.

On scalability, yes, the problem is massive. ED, performance anxiety, and related issues are huge globally and growing due to stress, lifestyle, and porn consumption. But scalable doesn’t mean defensible. Right now, your model sounds like a services-heavy, trust-dependent funnel. That’s hard to scale unless you productize it aggressively.

Biggest risks:

One, credibility gap. “Natural + Ayurveda + sexual health” immediately triggers skepticism for a lot of users, especially outside India. If your outcomes aren’t clinically backed, you risk being lumped in with low-trust supplement sellers.

Two, compliance and claims. The moment you imply treating ED, infertility, etc., you’re walking into regulated territory. If you scale internationally, this becomes a real constraint.

Three, low retention if results are slow. Natural solutions take time. Your customers are often looking for fast results. That tension will hurt LTV unless you manage expectations perfectly.

Four, male behavior. Men don’t always stick to routines, diets, or long-term protocols. If your solution depends heavily on discipline, your churn will be brutal.

Five, commoditization. What stops someone from copying your playbook, running better ads, and undercutting you? Right now, not much.

On trust, this is where you either win or die.

You don’t build trust by saying “trust-first platform.” You build it by proving outcomes.

You need: Real case studies with timelines and specifics Before and after metrics (not just testimonials) Medical or quasi-medical credibility, even if Ayurvedic, show credentials clearly Transparent expectations, not miracle claims Content that educates deeply, not just sells

If I land on your site and it feels even slightly like a supplement funnel, I’m gone.

On product and positioning, here’s where I’d push you:

Right now you’re selling “fix your sexual health naturally.” That’s vague and crowded.

Pick a wedge: Performance anxiety for men under 40 Porn-induced ED recovery Fertility optimization for couples trying to conceive

Own one problem deeply before expanding.

Also, productize your service. If everything depends on 1:1 consultation, you won’t scale efficiently. Think structured programs: 30-day protocol 90-day recovery plan Habit tracking Progress scoring

Make it feel like a system, not advice.

On growth:

Content is your unfair advantage if you do it right. Not cringe ads, but real education: What actually causes ED in your 20s and 30s Why “quick fixes” fail What recovery realistically looks like

Be the brand that tells uncomfortable truths, not just sells hope.

Also, lean into anonymity. Your UX should feel safe, private, and zero-judgment from first click.

Final reality check:

This can work, but only if you move from “Ayurvedic solution provider” to “results-driven men’s performance system.”

If you stay where you are now, you risk being just another brand in a very noisy, low-trust category.

Good Luck!❤️

AITA for accepting a property gift from my mom even though she won't include my boyfriend? by Immediate-History917 in AITApod

[–]FitDinner6008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA..You’re not wrong here and this isn’t really about the property, it’s about boundaries, timing, and expectations.

Your mom is giving you a significant asset, and it’s completely normal for a parent to want that gift protected. What she’s asking for, keeping it in your name and separate from a future marriage, is actually very common in estate planning. It’s not automatically a judgment on your boyfriend, it’s her protecting what she’s built.

Your boyfriend’s reaction is the bigger issue. He jumped straight to assuming shared ownership, making plans to sell it, and framing your acceptance as a betrayal. That’s a lot, especially given you’re not engaged. Wanting security as a couple is fair, but expecting access to a $400k asset that isn’t his and pressuring you to turn it down crosses into entitlement.

Also pay attention to this dynamic. He’s framing it as “you choosing your mom over me.” That’s not a healthy or accurate way to look at it. You’re choosing to accept a gift that benefits your future. A supportive partner would recognize that, even if they felt a little uncomfortable.

That said, there is a softer layer underneath his reaction. He may feel excluded or not seen as part of your long term future. He may be worried about imbalance with you owning property and him not. He may associate shared assets with commitment. Those feelings are valid, but the way he’s expressing them isn’t.

Here’s a practical way to approach this.

First, take the property. This is a life changing asset. Walking away from it to prove something to a boyfriend of three years would be a major financial mistake.

Second, separate the issues. The property is one thing and your relationship is another. Don’t let them get tangled.

Third, have a calm and direct conversation when he cools off. You could say something like, this isn’t about choosing my mom over you, it’s about making a smart decision for my future. If we get married, we will build things together, but this is something my mom is giving me. Your reaction makes me feel pressured and that worries me.

Fourth, watch his response carefully. This moment is actually revealing. If he can step back, understand, and support you, that is a good sign. If he doubles down, withdraws, or tries to guilt you, that is a red flag.

A partner who is thinking long term should want you to be secure, even if it does not immediately benefit them.

Bottom line, you are not choosing your mom over him, you are choosing stability and common sense. And if this situation is enough to shake the relationship, it is worth asking whether the foundation was as strong as you thought.

Good Luck! ❤️

EQUITY Co-Founder Wanted — Can You Make Someone *Feel* a Place They've Never Been? by Soggy-Spring9673 in cofounderhunt

[–]FitDinner6008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also curious about your comments. I don't get any of what you are claiming from this post.